Gaby Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 So, i wanted to grab my stuff today at my EX place, when suddenly she texted, you cant come i have a visitors'. I was like wtf..okay..and i tought a guy? But then agian, why would she tell me that, i wanted to get my stuff back and now she would not let me, heck i dont even need to see that guy or anyhing( if it was a guy) So now i feel like getting revenge, like sending her some pics of me and some hot chick orso just to make her feel how i feel.. can someone talk me out of this please!?
na49 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 How about you act mature and let it go? Honestly? Revenge? Come on man. I know you're pissed, but "revenge" won't actually be revenge. It will be you looking worse in front of her than you do now.
Zammo25 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I have been royally screwed over and she is being plowed by another guy that she had as a plan b whilst we were together. On top of that she has £ 4000 of my possessions that have been collateral damage in it all. Yes I am f*cked off but I have written them off. Do I want to stave Mr Wonderful's head in ?, yes but I guess I will not do that, well maybe not
Author Gaby Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 How about you act mature and let it go? Honestly? Revenge? Come on man. I know you're pissed, but "revenge" won't actually be revenge. It will be you looking worse in front of her than you do now. Thanks mane, i needed that, its just why would she even say that, im trying to not show her anything im up to i've been NC since 1 jan and before we agreed to get my stuff back. Its just not fair now...
geegirl Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 It doesn't matter if you see the guy, she doesn't want you in her business while the guy is there. Revenge will make you look bitter and pathetic and sending those pictures will take you back to being 6. If anything, don't give her anymore more reason to feel that she was justified in ending it with you. 1
Nightsky Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 So, i wanted to grab my stuff today at my EX place, when suddenly she texted, you cant come i have a visitors'. I was like wtf..okay..and i tought a guy? But then agian, why would she tell me that, i wanted to get my stuff back and now she would not let me, heck i dont even need to see that guy or anyhing( if it was a guy) So now i feel like getting revenge, like sending her some pics of me and some hot chick orso just to make her feel how i feel.. can someone talk me out of this please!? Wait to get your revenge till after you get your stuff back if you care about your stuff that is. Your revenge can be farting in her bedroom, or if she gives you your stuff at the front door fart right there. A smelly one make sure she smells it. Also you don't need to send her the pics, just put them up on facebook. You could send her a txt "not meant for her." Like "what time should I come over hottie, can't stop thinking about how great you looked in your little dress today?" and if she replies be like oh that wasn't meant for you, sorry... If she doesn't reply just leave it at that. Remember don't start the drama till you get your stuff back. If the stuff isn't that important don't worry about getting it back. I have been royally screwed over and she is being plowed by another guy that she had as a plan b whilst we were together. On top of that she has £ 4000 of my possessions that have been collateral damage in it all. Yes I am f*cked off but I have written them off. Do I want to stave Mr Wonderful's head in ?, yes but I guess I will not do that, well maybe not Yeah dude uhhh get your 4,000 worth of stuff back. You really should have never put yourself in such a bad position live and learn. 1
Zammo25 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Wait to get your revenge till after you get your stuff back if you care about your stuff that is. Your revenge can be farting in her bedroom, or if she gives you your stuff at the front door fart right there. A smelly one make sure she smells it. Also you don't need to send her the pics, just put them up on facebook. You could send her a txt "not meant for her." Like "what time should I come over hottie, can't stop thinking about how great you looked in your little dress today?" and if she replies be like oh that wasn't meant for you, sorry... If she doesn't reply just leave it at that. Remember don't start the drama till you get your stuff back. If the stuff isn't that important don't worry about getting it back. Yeah dude uhhh get your 4,000 worth of stuff back. You really should have never put yourself in such a bad position live and learn. I know. I foolishly though she would do the decent thing. Apparently not. How f*cked up is that ?
na49 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 On second thought. I know how you can get your revenge. Stay NC. SHOW her you don't need her. SHOW her that she isn't God's gift to the world and you won't beg and lower yourself just so she can feel better. Screw her! You loved life before you met her. Learn to love life without her. Stay out of her business whatever you do. Don't just say you're going to go NC. Actually stick to it. Don't give in, no matter what. She's obviously trying to be a cold b*tch and give the impression that life is SOOOOO much better without you. Listen. It's not! She has all of the problems she had with you with this new clown she's dating. They'll break up eventually and she won't be your problem. Screw her! btw is your stuff really that important? Send a friend to get it or something. I couldn't imagine if I was in a situation where I needed to pick stuff up at an ex's house. That must be awkward as hell.
Zammo25 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 On second thought. I know how you can get your revenge. Stay NC. SHOW her you don't need her. SHOW her that she isn't God's gift to the world and you won't beg and lower yourself just so she can feel better. Screw her! You loved life before you met her. Learn to love life without her. Stay out of her business whatever you do. Don't just say you're going to go NC. Actually stick to it. Don't give in, no matter what. She's obviously trying to be a cold b*tch and give the impression that life is SOOOOO much better without you. Listen. It's not! She has all of the problems she had with you with this new clown she's dating. They'll break up eventually and she won't be your problem. Screw her! btw is your stuff really that important? Send a friend to get it or something. I couldn't imagine if I was in a situation where I needed to pick stuff up at an ex's house. That must be awkward as hell. It is my lfetime collection of dvds and cds, all the films and music I loved and she has them as has ignored my civil lines of communication asking about them and I am starting to get angry now.
Harradin Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 The best revenge is getting back on your feet, and moving on with your life showing you can easily live life to the fullest without them. I'm trying to do it now, especially as my ex left me for someone who basically is in a low end IT job with no future, and she never really had a future either so I'm hoping in years time (at uni studying Maths) that I'm gonna see them complaining about how crap their life is when mine will be awesome . I originally wanted revenge. My friend made moves on my ex when she was upset about her parent's divorce, then decided to leave me for him, despite her knowing that he controls/manipulates. I wanted to get even by kicking the s*** out of him, considering I did judo for 6-7 years, kickboxing here and then, I don't know my own strength and I've been told I have a vicious punch, if I did go and kick the s*** out of him it wouldn't have ended well for me or him. I realised he just wasn't worth my time, just left him a nice voicemail message telling him never to contact me again and how much of a twat he was by betraying me. As above there is a far better way of revenge.
Author Gaby Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 On second thought. I know how you can get your revenge. Stay NC. SHOW her you don't need her. SHOW her that she isn't God's gift to the world and you won't beg and lower yourself just so she can feel better. Screw her! You loved life before you met her. Learn to love life without her. Stay out of her business whatever you do. Don't just say you're going to go NC. Actually stick to it. Don't give in, no matter what. She's obviously trying to be a cold b*tch and give the impression that life is SOOOOO much better without you. Listen. It's not! She has all of the problems she had with you with this new clown she's dating. They'll break up eventually and she won't be your problem. Screw her! btw is your stuff really that important? Send a friend to get it or something. I couldn't imagine if I was in a situation where I needed to pick stuff up at an ex's house. That must be awkward as hell. Thanks, its just kinda hard, since she broke up, one day she text im better without you the next day she misses me and all..and seeing this guy then i geuss... Well NC here i go again:confused:
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Revenge only causes the user to be in misery. You will deny yourself a universal, just revenge, for a corrupt childish revenge. Do not bring anymore misery to yourself. It is no double-edged sword, just one edged, pointed at your own throat. What good is revenge now?
mutant Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Do not let the actions of other people force you into doing things that are below your personal standards. One sure way of not getting your stuff back is by sending her those pics. And you'll appear immature.
Nightsky Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 It is my lfetime collection of dvds and cds, all the films and music I loved and she has them as has ignored my civil lines of communication asking about them and I am starting to get angry now. Have a lawyer send her a Demand letter if asking nicely hasn't worked. That should only cost you like 200 or less if you bargain for it. Heck a Lawyer might even do it for free. The demand letter should in detail ask for your stuff back and threaten all kind of legal action including suining her for the 4000 and forcing her into court. That she can avoid all this by giving you your stuff back. Really though you can't just talk her into letting you grab your stuff? I originally wanted revenge. My friend made moves on my ex when she was upset about her parent's divorce, then decided to leave me for him, despite her knowing that he controls/manipulates. I wanted to get even by kicking the s*** out of him, considering I did judo for 6-7 years, kickboxing here and then, I don't know my own strength and I've been told I have a vicious punch, if I did go and kick the s*** out of him it wouldn't have ended well for me or him. I realised he just wasn't worth my time, just left him a nice voicemail message telling him never to contact me again and how much of a twat he was by betraying me. As above there is a far better way of revenge. Dude if my gf left me for a friend... I would kick his ass. No questions about it. That my friend is the bro code. He broke it when he took your gf, you broke when you just let it happen. Obviously you wouldn't want her back, but his ass needed a kicking.
Harradin Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Dude if my gf left me for a friend... I would kick his ass. No questions about it. That my friend is the bro code. He broke it when he took your gf, you broke when you just let it happen. Obviously you wouldn't want her back, but his ass needed a kicking. I only found out that my 'friend' made moves on her when she dumped me. I chose not to, as it wouldn't be a ass kicking, it happened back in September, he would still be in hospital, I'd probably be done for GBH/assault which meant I would be kicked out of uni and lose my chance at a good career. It wasn't worth ruining my life to kick his ass. He got the message clear enough with my voicemail and hasn't been near me since. Plus I think the satisfaction of me having a far better life then him in the future will be far better then kicking his ass.
Nightsky Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I only found out that my 'friend' made moves on her when she dumped me. I chose not to, as it wouldn't be a ass kicking, it happened back in September, he would still be in hospital, I'd probably be done for GBH/assault which meant I would be kicked out of uni and lose my chance at a good career. It wasn't worth ruining my life to kick his ass. He got the message clear enough with my voicemail and hasn't been near me since. Plus I think the satisfaction of me having a far better life then him in the future will be far better then kicking his ass. It's sad world we live in. You're right he probably wasn't worth the potential risks. Sad that degenerates get away with this crap. Go back 40 years and you would have been able to kick his ass and the police wouldn't have done a thing to you.
Author Gaby Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 Just, im wondering, is it normal for a dumper to have these hot and cold ways? i remember 2 weeks ago she was crying for not to see me or talking agian, after we agreed that i would pick up my stuff Just curious, if the dumpers are aswell in the emotionel roller coaster
cavalier99 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Just curious, if the dumpers are aswell in the emotionel roller coaster No roller coaster for most of them. Mayby a few nagging thoughts but nothing like we go thru. They pulled the trigger and most were more than ready to do it. I think mine EX is perfectly fine and barley thinks of me. She might think fondly of me but she definitely doesn't want back together and is perfectly ok with the breakup. Who know about the rest of her life. Don't know anything for 3 months except for 1 nice email..she misses my dog.
Author Gaby Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 Just feel bad, that she can move on after 2 weeks, i know i should not be thinking about this, cause i makes me feel sad. But then agian, i just hope she would feel a little bit sad so i know she has a heart.
cavalier99 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Just feel bad, that she can move on after 2 weeks, i know i should not be thinking about this, cause i makes me feel sad. But then agian, i just hope she would feel a little bit sad so i know she has a heart. I think they do feel a little sad..at times...but not enough to get back with us. They are focused on their new freedom. It is what they wanted. I don't want to be pitied anyway. But i know what you mean. The relationship did mean something to them, they did love us..but they DONT want us anymore romantically. Sucks but is reality.
Harradin Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 It's sad world we live in. You're right he probably wasn't worth the potential risks. Sad that degenerates get away with this crap. Go back 40 years and you would have been able to kick his ass and the police wouldn't have done a thing to you. It is, its a shame! But I suppose what comes around, goes around. So hopefully my ex will see sense and realise what she did and get rid of the twat, I still have a suspicion being upset over her parent's divorce didn't make her think straight and why she got manipulated into leaving me for him. On topic, once you've got your stuff, sooner or later she'll realise what she lost!
Nightsky Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 It is, its a shame! But I suppose what comes around, goes around. So hopefully my ex will see sense and realise what she did and get rid of the twat, I still have a suspicion being upset over her parent's divorce didn't make her think straight and why she got manipulated into leaving me for him. On topic, once you've got your stuff, sooner or later she'll realise what she lost! Yes he took advantage of her, still be disgusted at her weakness. My entire family could die and that wouldn't cause me to go cheat.
Samilia Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 I'd set a day and time with her, show up, get your stuff, leave. Voila.
Just smile Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Getting revenge ( and I can see and understand why you would want to seek revenge ) only makes you look desperate and immature ... If at all possible, walk away.head high as sad as you are and say NOTHING, do NOTHING. Just be.
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