tinkerbash Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 seriously thinking about it, but on the other hand what will it really acheive, sure he asked me to do it but was this to see if i would actually do it if he asked me to? or does he actually want to hear from me.... i caved no contact yesterday... is this just another downward spiral?
na49 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I feel like a lot of people go NC before they're ready to move on. If you keep going NC and breaking it, you're doing yourself a disservice in my opinion. Find out what he wants. Stay in contact with him until it hurts like hell to think he's out screwing girls who he likes more than you. Then you can start moving on. I'd say you find out what he wants. You'll respond to his texts anyway so it's not like you're really setting yourself back.
Coping Vortex Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 seriously thinking about it, but on the other hand what will it really acheive, sure he asked me to do it but was this to see if i would actually do it if he asked me to? or does he actually want to hear from me.... i caved no contact yesterday... is this just another downward spiral? Tinker I broke down too even weeks after where you are now. But......in the end it did nothing. We broke NC several times and even constantly texted for hours and days on end. Almost like old times.....except it was all bread crumbs nothing of substance all about what she was making her kids for dinner, what color she was doing her hair blah blah blah. All nonsense. What good is that. It makes you feel worse. Like you are a stranger. So surreal. Not worth it. I finally have realized that you do have to go NC, I hate it with a passion but getting bread crumbs sucks so bad. Makes you feel worse. Its like texting a stranger. Which makes you feel sad because it is like they died and you are talking to their brother or sister to feel better. It just isn't the person you remember. Tinker you seem like a really sweet person don't torture yourself any longer. Try to hold on to NC.
Author tinkerbash Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 thank you coping your comment mad emy day! yeah i did text him and your right its not the same... its like forced or something... its really wierd
Coping Vortex Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 thank you coping your comment mad emy day! yeah i did text him and your right its not the same... its like forced or something... its really wierd Yes that will totally depress you after awhile. You get a little rush from it. I know I did. I was so happy just to converse with her at all. But the lack of substance will kill you in the end. Trust me!!!!!! I would not put up with idle chit chat. If you are going to text ask him flat out to only contact you if he really wants to get back together. Just throw it out there. don't mince words. Its funny when we finally get our ex to talk we want to tread lightly. Don't!!!!!!!! Make him commit to something before you will continue. Prid pro quo. I'm in sales and we always expect something in return if a prospect wants a something like discount etc. If I do "this" or "that" than I want "this" or "that". If not then don't give him the time of day. He should be contacting you. He knows how to reach you.
Author tinkerbash Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 yeah very well said, he hasnt reponded to my last text, which was a general comment about him not being well, so i guess that him bored now! thats fantastic really nice you know ! more like a kick to the stomach#! i just give up now i have no idea how u can give so much to someone to get absolutely nothing in return
Coping Vortex Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 yeah very well said, he hasnt reponded to my last text, which was a general comment about him not being well, so i guess that him bored now! thats fantastic really nice you know ! more like a kick to the stomach#! i just give up now i have no idea how u can give so much to someone to get absolutely nothing in return I think we all feel that on this site. You know I think we all are in hope mode. Plus we are all in shock that our ex's have really gone. But very few actually get back together. I think by the time you come on this site you know its more than just a minor break. You seem to nice of a person to let him play you. I let me ex play me. Now all I can think about is how she probably has lost all respect for me for following her mundane texts. No more for me. If she wants me she will need to say so. Otherwise good luck with her new guy. When that gets stale don't come to me by then I will be gone. I won't forget this pain she caused me.
cavalier99 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I think we all feel that on this site. You know I think we all are in hope mode. Plus we are all in shock that our ex's have really gone. But very few actually get back together. I think by the time you come on this site you know its more than just a minor break. You seem to nice of a person to let him play you. I let me ex play me. Now all I can think about is how she probably has lost all respect for me for following her mundane texts. No more for me. If she wants me she will need to say so. Otherwise good luck with her new guy. When that gets stale don't come to me by then I will be gone. I won't forget this pain she caused me. Glad to see your NC now. Maaan it was tough to read some of the earlier posts. Better to be mad and keep your self respect. I felt the same i regretted all the communication post breakup.
cavalier99 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 yeah very well said, he hasnt reponded to my last text, which was a general comment about him not being well, so i guess that him bored now! thats fantastic really nice you know ! more like a kick to the stomach#! i just give up now i have no idea how u can give so much to someone to get absolutely nothing in return You'll get tired of beating you head against the wall eventually. it happens to all of us. Maybe just ask him to get back together and decide now...and see his response. This will guarantee enough additional pain and humiliation to stick with NC. Remember start with 3 weeks
andytenshi Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 yeah.. no matter how bad both of you may want things to go back to the way they were once a relationship breaks its never the same.. 1
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