makeitright Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 It's been 4 days of NC. She attempted to contact me yesterday and gave me the "just being a friend" line. I did not respond Everyone can tell that she's going through some things recently and not acting her usual self now that she's turned 30 today. I'm hoping this is a classic case of TGIG and that sooner rather than later she realizes how small our problems were that they were no reason to leave after 4 years. But today is her birthday. I have her present which I spent a lot of time and money on last month before she left me.. I don't know if I should drop it off for her? I know that breaks NC but I feel since its already together; maybe it'll spark something in her or get her to think? Just cause I drop it off doesn't mean i have to field texts/phone calls right? It also gives me a chance to speak with her parents as to set up a date and time she can come over and get her things out of my house.
jovan Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Don't do it. just throw the present out, forget it, it will drag you down, that's just an excuse and you'll always have a 1 more reason to call or text her, or drop something off. Just be strong and don't let your self do it. Let the force be with you
Chi townD Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 This isn't what you're going to want to hear, but, she broke it off with you. Therefore, you are nothing to her right now. You are not her boyfriend, future husband. You have no title tied to her whatsoever. She made a choice to have you OUT of her life. You didn't want that, but that's what she chose. Therefore, she has to live with the consquences of her actions. She needs to know that you took her choice seriously and literally. You are not her friend, I'm sure you didn't get into a loving and caring relationship with her to ultimate become nothing more than a friend to her. SO! I would recommend that you don't call her, don't text her, don't email her and don't drop off a gift for her. Return it and use the money for a weekend getaway for yourself.
Own Worst Enemy Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 they are going on ebay and my best friend is being treated to champagne with the proceeds to toast his demise (er, not literally!) and to thank her for putting up with me yammering on about him for the last 2 years.
na49 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Excuses.. excuses... Don't drop it off. She's not going to think "how sweet! he's a great guy! I'll take him back because he still loves me!" She knows you still love her. She doesn't love you. So screw her! Return that gift, and buy something cool for yourself.
Missing Him Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Return that gift, and buy something cool for yourself. Yes, this. Do this.
Harradin Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I posted something similar as it was my ex's birthday yesterday. on Renard's advice I went out and bought something for myself yesterday and it does feel good getting something for yourself with the money you would have spent on her. Stay away from Facebook etc, I kept well away from it yesterday so I couldn't cave in and send her a message (changed number and phone, deleted her number so I couldn't text her.)
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