WhatsTheAnswer Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Now that our relationship is over. She lied to me too BTW. I was thinking of contacting her ex husband who has been tormented by her divorce form her. ( I know, there is resentment there from me, a part of the reason for this) She lied to him the whole time they were married, about not cheating on him which she did multiple times. I actually feel bad for this guy now, and think he should know what kind of wife she really was to him. I know its not morally right but I don't think it's fair she gets away with flat out lying. Even after her divorce to him she told she never cheated on him. I know better. I was thinking of an anonymous email. Maybe he would get some relief from the pain he is in and so he stops feeling like it was his actions that caused her to divorce him. When in reality she has low self esteem and was always looking to hook up and meet guys. Any thoughts?
whichwayisup Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 No - If you are going to tell, own it! Use your own email address, with your name signed at the bottom. Anything short of this is malicious and full of intention to make a point/make them suffer so you can feel good about it and not have any fallout come back to you. If this has been over for a long time, I suggest you just let it go and move on. Why focus on all this? All it does is keep him in your head and keep the roller coaster going. Don't do anything. try to let go and move on with your life.
Author WhatsTheAnswer Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 No - If you are going to tell, own it! Use your own email address, with your name signed at the bottom. Anything short of this is malicious and full of intention to make a point/make them suffer so you can feel good about it and not have any fallout come back to you. If this has been over for a long time, I suggest you just let it go and move on. Why focus on all this? All it does is keep him in your head and keep the roller coaster going. Don't do anything. try to let go and move on with your life. Its been a short time.
Bassman100 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 You can't force other people to take ownership of their behaviour. That is one or the things I have learned in all this. Work on yourself. Anything short of that is just sour grapes, resentment, revenge, et cetera.
Survivor12 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Stop pretending to care about her exH to justify your desire for revenge. The marriage is already over, the man is hurting & you think it would be helpful to add insult to injury? C'mon, you don't even believe it. If you did, you wouldn't be considering hiding your identity from him. Leave the man alone.
TaraMaiden Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Now that our relationship is over. She lied to me too BTW. I was thinking of contacting her ex husband who has been tormented by her divorce form her. ( I know, there is resentment there from me, a part of the reason for this) Don't be such an @sshole... She lied to him the whole time they were married, about not cheating on him which she did multiple times. I actually feel bad for this guy now, and think he should know what kind of wife she really was to him. I know its not morally right but I don't think it's fair she gets away with flat out lying. Even after her divorce to him she told she never cheated on him. I know better. This is not your problem, and none of your damn business. It's not for you to go meddling, interfering, raking over hot coals, putting the knife in and twisting it, or throwing a spanner in the works. in other words, where there is damage, what the hell is the big idea in actually wanting to make it worse?? I was thinking of an anonymous email. Maybe he would get some relief from the pain he is in and so he stops feeling like it was his actions that caused her to divorce him. When in reality she has low self esteem and was always looking to hook up and meet guys. Any thoughts? Oh, a coward as well? Maybe, maybe, maybe...or maybe you will do interminable harm by kicking the hornet's nest and watching the pain get worse. Thoughts!? Jeesh! Grow up!
TaraMaiden Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Its been a short time. No not your break up - theirs!!
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