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Afraid of unplanned meetings

Victoria Lake

By Victoria Lake
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Victoria Lake

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Hey,

 

My first post and a "long story short" about what happened, here: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/366549-not-so-nice-roller-coaster-ride

 

I'm in the NC stage. I've done it before (with someone else), I know how great it works and I don't fear at all that I'll break it.

 

Anyway, I'm afraid that I'll bump into my ex... and I don't know how to handle the situation. He works in a public place where I have to go pretty often, and trust me, I avoid that area as much as I can. Two evenings ago, when I passed by his workplace I closed my eyes because I didn't want to see anything. I'm still scared that I'll break down inside when I see him. I'm not afraid that I'll go to him and say something - no way - but I don't wanna see his face, I don't wanna see him smiling (at me) or anything else.

Also, a very close friend of mine lives 50 meters away from him. I haven't visited her lately... but I'll have to go there one day...

The bus station is right in front of his apartment, and we've met there before one night when he came from work (we met while we were still talking).

 

I don't know... I guess I want some advices on how to handle it...

Thanks :rolleyes:

cavalier99 Established Member

cavalier99

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Hmmm. Not sure what to say. Maybe wear some sorta disguise. :)

 

It is tough to go places were you might see them. Maybe avoid these places for a while but eventually you need to not be afraid. He doesn't own those places. You have as much right to be there as he does.

LostOne1 Established Member

LostOne1

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I think you need to face your fears! I ran into my ex after 6 months now just 2 days ago. I didn't feel much just a bit nervous and shocked to see her after so long.

 

It got worse just recently a little just knowing we are strangers now and have to act like we don't care.

 

But I think you will need to face this and find a way to be strong. I was strong enough to walk past her and not even go near her to say anything to her. I did make eye contact with her, but that was it.

 

Sooner or later you will have a run in with him.. might else well get yourself used to it so it doesn't bug you much.

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