Mysterious1 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I met someone about a week ago. We went out for a couple of drinks then we went back to his place. He asked what I wanted to watch and I told him that I've been wanting to catch up on my TV show, Pretty Little Liars. We stayed up until about 5am. When I told him that I should go home he asked me to stay, which I did. We shared the same bed but not once did he try to kiss me or touch me. We went on a date a few days later. After dinner we ended up at his place again. We continued to watch the TV show where we left off. Again, I spend the night. We cuddled together in bed but he has yet to make his move. When he left for work (I stayed at his place) he gave me a kiss on the cheek. What I'm trying to ask is whether or not he is a sincere person. I've met p,entry of people who have only tried to get in my pants and I am tired of meeting such people.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I've met p,entry of people who have only tried to get in my pants and I am tired of meeting such people. And now you've met one and don't know what to do. You sort of sound like a sexual goldilocks: This guys too fast to get into my pants, this guys too slow to get into my pants; Where's the guy who gets into my pants at just the right? This guy is shy, nervous and probably lacks confidence with chicks. My suggestion is to jump his bones. Honestly. If you are worried about rejection, don't be, he's into you, just nervous and lacks confidence and fears rejection himself. 1
jakelongot Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 considering he's had you in his bed twice and has respected your space it sounds like he is sincerely interested...although maybe shy. He clearly isn't using you for sex. 3
Author Mysterious1 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 And now you've met one and don't know what to do. You sort of sound like a sexual goldilocks: This guys too fast to get into my pants, this guys too slow to get into my pants; Where's the guy who gets into my pants at just the right? I am not a sexual goldilocks. LOL. It's not about guys moving too fast or too slow. I have met plenty of both. Most men would try to have sex with a woman if the woman is his bed. I'm not saying all men are this way. I simply wanted to know if he is a good guy or maybe he is just shy.
Author Mysterious1 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 considering he's had you in his bed twice and has respected your space it sounds like he is sincerely interested...although maybe shy. He clearly isn't using you for sex. This is good to know considering he told me that we are not allowed to watch the TV without the other. Maybe you're right. He's probably just shy.
Ami1uwant Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 He respects you which is why he didnt attempt to make a move on you. Your body language may be saying to him I dont want this to go further so he respects that.
HitMeNow Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 IMO: If he made out / cuddled / was bold / didn't seem afraid to do anything and STILL didn't try to **** you, then you got yourself a good guy. If he simply did not even touch / cuddle you up / seemed uncomfortable, then he is just shy.
danny in van Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 there's also a chance he's gay, or has low / no sex drive...or is suffering from some religious guilt.
geegirl Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I dated a guy like this and after our fifth date, I had to make the move. I thought he was shy and awkward but three months later, I had to end it. He was a douchebag. He did a 180. There is no way of telling whether he is a good guy. We can guess. No one can tell. You'll just have to take the risk. For now, he sounds harmless.
Author Mysterious1 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 IMO: If he made out / cuddled / was bold / didn't seem afraid to do anything and STILL didn't try to **** you, then you got yourself a good guy. If he simply did not even touch / cuddle you up / seemed uncomfortable, then he is just shy. We cuddled while watching TV and in bed but nothing more than that. He seems like a genuine guy but I just can't really tell.
NoMoreJerks Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 And now you've met one and don't know what to do. You sort of sound like a sexual goldilocks: This guys too fast to get into my pants, this guys too slow to get into my pants; Where's the guy who gets into my pants at just the right? AHAHAHAHA. I just choked , reading that.
Author Mysterious1 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 there's also a chance he's gay, or has low / no sex drive...or is suffering from some religious guilt. I am pretty sure he is not gay. This is my judgment based on the fact that he was previously married and has 2 kids. I dated a guy like this and after our fifth date, I had to make the move. I thought he was shy and awkward but three months later, I had to end it. He was a douchebag. He did a 180. There is no way of telling whether he is a good guy. We can guess. No one can tell. You'll just have to take the risk. For now, he sounds harmless. I don't want to be the one to make the move and he doesn't bite back. Know what I mean? It could be possible that he is taking things slow but I'm not too sure. I'm not good at reading signs and body language. I want to take the risk but I am afraid of coming off as being too eager or desperate.
HitMeNow Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 (edited) We cuddled while watching TV and in bed but nothing more than that. He seems like a genuine guy but I just can't really tell. Im kind of the same. You sure that wasn't me? I think that if something is bound to happen it will happen (meaning I don't like to plan ahead if we're gonna make out or have sex, nor do I push for it, it usually just happens). And if not, being genuine friends with people is amazing anyway. Sex is just a very raw pleasure, that people (especially girls), connect to being together, but you can be together and love one person even without it. Just my thoughts. IMO, you got a genuine good guy. But why are you asking? What can you not tell? Do you find it attractive or not attractive that he didn't just think about getting it in? EDIT: If a guy lets you sleep in his bed he finds something about you or your personality attractive. If you want to get more physical, just keep cuddling and while at it stare in his eyes and maybe get your face like 1 inch closer verryyy slowly. The guy will get baited. Edited January 10, 2013 by HitMeNow
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