Kingjulian Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 This is my first post on here but its a biggie... I'm a 26 year old guy and I have a girlfriend who is 18. For a start that's a big age gap, I'm overly aware of that and its something I've been cautious of from the beginning. We met at work and have been on and off for about a year. But mainly on. Her dad doesn't like me because we didn't use protection and well you can guess. It's not quite that simple, the doc told her she could have kids but nevertheless I feel primarily responsible for it. Despite her dad liking me initially this obviously made him hate me. I wrote him a letter and told her he saw how much I cared and that if she was going to be making mistakes with an idiot he'd much rather it was an idiot that cared about her as much as I did. So we kept seeing each other. He changed his mind and decided he didn't like me anymore. And we split up a couple of times but in the end stayed together. During this time her mother and grandmother both passed away. It was an incredibly difficult year for her or so I thought. A lot of the stuff she didn't seem that bothered by. More recently she has been thrown out her house the reason for which seems stupid. She goes on a lot of nights out but only recently has her father taken issue with this. But I digress. So were approaching a year together. I've met a couple of her friends once or twice and none of her family. Despite this we still get on but I find that things are going a bit stale and I don't want her getting bored. I ask her about her feelings a lot and she doesn't give me much if anything. She has told me she loves me but it took some persuasion to get it out of her. So my questions are why does she not feel comfortable enough to tell me things despite all that we've been through? And why has she not made a point of introducing me to more people? Right now I feel like a dirty little secret and that the relationship will fade into obscurity. This isn't what I want as I love her and I want things between us to be fantastic. But I'm also well aware that I can't force her to do anything. I've talked to her about this and whenever I ask her about it she will shrug or say I don't know, which makes me feel bad for asking in the first place. Is this a maturity thing and its just not the right time or is it something I can work on?
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