SwEeT P Posted August 20, 2004 Posted August 20, 2004 well its been a month and a half since my bf broke up with me and moved out.....about 2 weeks ago i wrote him a letter and he text'd me to say that he got it..........So i texted him a few days later to say Hi...... He called me and we talked for like an hr bout our relationship etc........ he asked me if i wanted to go out to dinner which i said yes.....Well when he picked me up we went out we talked a bit he said maybe we can start over and just take things slow. i said ok......after we ate he dropped me off i told him i had a good time and i said goodbye...... He called me the next day he said to me that he felt that 3 yrs was a long time to just throw it away.. I agreed..He said maybe we can start over.........He asked me if i wanted to watch a movie the next day so i said ok and i said ill cook us dinner......When he came over we had dinner and watched half the movie before we started kissing, hugging then we had sex(i must have been stupid) all of the emotions and love that i felt for him came all back he told me he loved me and didnt want to be with any one else and he said we dont need to see each other everyday...............When the movie was over he said he had to go cuz it was getting late and asked what i was doin this weekend..I had said i didnt know..He gave me a kiss goodbye and a hug and said i will call u or text u.........That was 2 days ago....I havent heard from him.....I feel used and hurt.... B4 all of this i was starting to feel better about myself........WTF???? I just dont know what to do???? Any advice??????
SMF Posted August 20, 2004 Posted August 20, 2004 Thats the vicious cycle of trust vs. non-trust. Thats what occurs when you lose the trust of someone that you put a lot of trust in. You need to be strong and confident about this. Did you ever question his actions before? Because you are questioning his actions and words now... You see what I mean. Also you said you aren't going to speak every day so you need to take it slow- if its only been 2 days- you need to reset your expectations. Sweet P- I think we have communicated on both of our break ups. I have a new update with me... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t45882/ "Contact Led to We Can Talk" Tell me what you think.
JONYX18 Posted August 21, 2004 Posted August 21, 2004 O SWEET P IM SORRY YOUR GOING THROUGH THIS I WENT THROUGH THE SAME EXACT THING ALSO IN A 3 YR RELATIONSHIP LOOK IF OU WANT HIM BACK YOU NEED TO NOT PUT OUT EVEN THOUGH IT MAY SOUND WEIRD HE KNOWS HE HAS YOU ATHIS MERCY AND THAT WHATEVER HE WANTS HE'LL GET IT WHEN HE WANTS IT MOST LIKELY HE IS OUT THERE WITH SOMEONE ELSE I KNOW IT TOOK ME 4 MONTHAFTER OUR BRAKE UP TO FIND OUT ABOUT HER U NEED TO LET GO IM NOT SAYING TO GO OUT AND SCREW PEOPLE BUT GO OUT AND MEET PEOPLE GO OUT WITH YOUR FRIENDS HAVE FUN THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO IS SIT AROUND WAITING FOR HIS CALL IF HE CHOOSE TO LEAVE IT'S NOT THAT YOU DID ANYTHING WRONG HE CHOOSE NOT TO BE WITH U U CANT FORCE SOME ONE TO WANNA BE WITH U DONT BE SO QUICK TO ANSWER TO HIS EVERY NEED DONT BE DUMB AND THINK THAT FOR OPENING YOUR LEGS AND YOUR HART HE WILL SEE WHAT HE IS LOOSING OUT HE KNOWS THIS AND IF HE CHOOSES NOT TO0 BE WITH YOU THAN YOU SHOULD ALSO CHOOSE NOT TO THINK ABOUT HIM DON'T SPEAK TO HIM OR TRY TO SPEAK TO HIM YOUR JUST LEAVING THE WINDOWS OPEN TO GET HURT
Author SwEeT P Posted August 21, 2004 Author Posted August 21, 2004 thanx for the advice smf & onyx...................well i had a couple of days 2 think about things and i talked to him this morn..........i told him that we will just be friends he said "OK" wth???? didnt even seem to care...I give up......i guess he didnt care as much as i thought he did.........
Recommended Posts