Mr Nice Guy Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I'm worried that I may have made a mistake that mightn't cost me a relationship with someone I really like. I hope parts of this post isn't too uncomfortable. I've been developing serious feelings late last year for this girl I've known for about four years. From the beginning we hadn't started anything other than a friendship. We started talking when (and I'm not trying to emphasize this topic and or start a debate) she said she prefers guys who are circumcised. She's only interested in guys who are and if you're not, she will chat to you if you plan on getting circumcised. I'm not circumcised, but intend to for medical reasons. We began talking online, became friends and gradually became interested in each other a lot more after a lot of webcamming and last year talked about us possibly seeing each other seriously after I had the procedure. After previously putting it off for various reasons a number of times (she’s been encouraging me to do it), she offered to do mine which I accepted because she’s a nurse who has performed and assisted in the procedure. She wanted to make a big deal of it a bit like a Bris, organised it for last Sunday, she made a huge effort to prepare everything and took two days of annual leave of work to do it. The day before the day, we talked about it online early in the morning and remembering it was at her house, I asked her for her address. She was in the process of giving it to me when we started talking about other things and we both forgot. I only remembered later but also remembered that she had my number and she said she would call later in the day and decided to get it then. She didn't end up calling, so I expected she was busy with preparations. I decided to wait until the next day (circumcision day) to see if she would call either when she realized that I didn't know where she lived or to find out where I was when I hadn't arrived. She didn't so I emailed her about midday to try and get her address, hoping she would check her email. Nothing happened so I sent one more with my number and also saying that I didn't have second thoughts. I still didn't hear anything back. Since then, I've been worried that I might've upset her because I didn't turn up (not deliberately), but I've been told that she shouldn't be because she didn't give me her address or follow up. I keep feeling terrible and guilty because of all the effort she went through and time take off work to prepare everything for me and I didn't go. She hasn't been online since Saturday. I sent one last email on Monday, explaining that I wasn't there because of the communication mishap about her address, that I felt terrible and if we could try again and re-organize again. I haven't heard from her at all this week. I think that she hasn't been online this week because of work because I haven’t seen her online and hasn't replied to my email. She’s also a private person and has been really wary about giving out contact details, so she has my number, but I didn't have hers yet. Previous contact has been by chat or email. She's only usually online around 2-3 times a week.Throughout I never thought anything would happen between us, but it only developed late last year. But I feel like I've hurt her because of her effort for this and she was really looking forward to it. Is there any way to fix it given what has happened and the possibility that she's upset? Is either of us purely responsible or was it just a communication mishap? And should I just wait until she contacts me or just walk away from it all? I really don't want to give up on this just yet.
naviis Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I'm a bit confused... She doesn't feel comfortable giving you her phone number but she's ok slicing a stranger's penis in her own home?
Balzac Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Yeah my thought exactly. Come to my house for a party but no digits to call me. I think the woman is a fraud.
Author Mr Nice Guy Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 She wasn't comfortable with giving me her number before, as in the earlier years. But I didn't really consider getting her phone number until recently because before I never really thought we would go anywhere until not that long ago. She's also a nurse as well and has done them herself as well as assisted doctors in them. I keep thinking its just a communication mishap and hopefully she would understand if we talked about it/ read my email I sent the day after.
Author Mr Nice Guy Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Any other suggestions, opinions or ideas about this? Is there any way to fix what has happened and do I have any reason to feel guilty about what happened?
Treasa Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Um, find a better woman? You didn't do anything wrong. I find her to be odd and, if I were a dude, extremely irritating. You can go ahead and have a circumcision, but having been with guys both cut and uncut, I WAY prefer uncut. ETA: Don't let someone you don't actually know anywhere near your dick with a sharp instrument, especially at their private residence. Just a good general rule of thumb.
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