calndn Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 So I will be brief....a guy I was dating last year for 6 months who when I asked where I stood with him told me that he wasn't ready for a relationship, and that he panicked and he couldn't give me what I wanted. He took ages to actually give me that answer after I was left in complete limbo as to what the hell was going on. A month later I see him walking by a restaurant I am in (in a completely random part of town I had never been to before) and he is with a girl. Anyway...I later find out he met her after me...so at least he wasn't seeing the both of us. I hear nothing else from him, I went NC, I stupidly drunkly text him once a few months later saying I missed talking to him, he said he missed talking to me asked me a few questions I responded he then asked if perhaps we could meet for a catch up, I said maybe a catch up would be good sometime. I hear nothing....fast forward to this week, a whole 7 months after the whole 'i can't give you a relationship im not ready work is hell bull****'. He texts me saying that seeing as its new year and when things should be said he just wants to say sorry for last year and that he knows he didnt act right, and that it has been bugging him for ages that work took over his life from May onwards (when we finished). And that he misses talking to me and how am I. I ummed and ahhed about replying and just replied saying Everything good thanks, you. I appreciate the apology. Hope 2013 is better for you work wise. He responds with It was just bugging me and I didnt like it. Everything is good with me thanks stressful few months but all good now.' I mean....what? Out of the blue after so long and then its like well why did you bother? I'm not replying....there isn't anything to reply to! Ok maybe its just to see if I would reply, I dunno. We knew eachother for a few years before we started dating and would talk all the time so it was weird going to no talking after so long. Was it just to clear his conscience...who the hell knows. But why bloody say he missed talking to me if he realistically by his weird reply doesnt or he would have tried to at least carry on the conversation? Men! thoughts?
Jono85 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 who knows his intention, but def good for you not replying to his last msg. it's his job to initiate any convo with you from this point forward after cutting things off. some guys (and girls) will contact you out of the blue for no other reason than to stroke their ego. "______ hasn't contacted me in forever, she coudln't have possibly forgot about me! let me msg her and see if she seems excited to talk to me again. surely i still hold something over her." pathetic, but true for some ppl.
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