andrew1988 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Hy all. Im Andrew 24 from Romania. This was my third long termn relationship. For some reason all my girlfriends were older than me, which Im not sure is a good thing, this time she was 6 years older. We work in the same bank. After dating a few times last year in february we moved in toghether at her rented place. She said that in order to fully know a person u gotta live toghether so i moved in. We bolth fell in love with each other. Everything was going pretty well untill she bought a studio. After moving there the first cracks began to appear in our relationship as she started pointing out small "mistakes" that i did, like not leaving the bathroom sparkling clean etc. She also somehow changed in worse. She wasn't so passionate, so happy anymore. That also made me change a bit for the worse. My birthday was in 10 june and i didnt get a present cause she didnt have money at the time beying. I was ok with that expecting one later on( didnt get one). Im a pretty soft guy when im in love and if the person im with has a stronger character i tend to do what she says. I know its wrong. Our sex life also began to go downhill. I dunno exactly why. We started breaking up-making up. So one day i got all my clothes and went to my parents home, and after a few hours I rushed back to her. Sometimes i was strong but immediately got weak and came back to her telling her how much i love her. A couple of times she told me to go to my parents house for a few days, which I did. Our relationship wasnt the same anymore and I feel like im the one to blame. To be frank, she has a phd i only barely made it through college, she also has a much better financial situation than me, maybe that also counts for our problems. Now after the holliday season she says she wants us to break up. This time she is dead serious about it and I'm feeling like the lowest form of life on earth. I know its wrong but I can't help it. My family is very supportive especially my mom. Maybe the reason i fell in love with her in the first place is that she is more succesfull than me. I dunno. Im kind of a needy person when it comes to feelings as I end up beying addicted to love. Another problem I have is that I'm constantly blaming myself for this situation. Not loving her enough, beying selfish sometimes, beying childish. She also has flaws but I can live with them. The thing that I find very strange is that one moment she is happy, lauging and the next she is angry with me. Today I'm gonna go see a therapyst. Hopefully I can get some inshight in all of this and be a better person. I'm pretty sure that I was aiming a bit high when I began this relationship. I know I'm supposed to learn from my mistakes and move on. But she is the best girlfriend I had so far. I'm angry with me for beying less experienced than her and a lot more childish in life and regarding my feelings. I'm feeling like copy-pasting this entire text and mailing it to her ) Some advice will be more than welcomed from you guys. Right now I'm feeling tired from thinking too much and stressing over her.
Author andrew1988 Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 i need some advice guys pls help
jovan Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 Nothing much you can do. Everything you feel is normal, just don't contact her at all and move on with your life. Work on your self and in time your wound will heal. Find something that will get her out of your head like sports or a good book, and try to relax. Accept the reality no matter how hard it is.
Inviv_girl Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 The fact she is more successful and financial secure than you make it sounds that the relationship is not compatible. Dont you think you should date woman your age or 1-2 years older is ok but not more than that. She probably also see that, and most woman wants a steady partner and secure. Dont be her doormat and treated you like sh*t just because she has more money than you! be a man and get out! work on yourself and your financial first before go on date. Sorry that's just my point of view as a woman.
Author andrew1988 Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 She herself is making only a little more than me. Her family is better financially than mine. I fear she might be thinking that I'm with her for that reason. But I'm not, I really love her.
Inviv_girl Posted January 11, 2013 Posted January 11, 2013 But she cant see that nor her family does? man.. best find another woman who is compatible with you. Its not good for a long run if her family thought you after her for financial matter! they will look you down for the rest of your life with her, would you want that?? find your dignity!
Author andrew1988 Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Her mom and dad are divorced. I only met her mom and she likes me. Her dad i don't even know cause she is not gona introduce any man to him anymore unless she is sure she is gonna get married. The thing is my parents pampered me as a kid. She was brought up with an iron fist by her dad.
Author andrew1988 Posted January 11, 2013 Author Posted January 11, 2013 Now she said if I wanted to I could come by in the evening and stay with her but then go to my parents and sleep for the night. What does that mean !???????
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