honeymel Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 My ex and I dated 10 months. He is military and the last 4 months was long distance. He told me he tried not to fall in love with me because he knew he would be leaving soon, but couldn't help it and did. We were both having rough times and argued a lot and he broke up with me. We didn't speak for 4 months after that. When he was home in october he sent me a text one night and it didn't make sense so i replied what? he said sorry i guess i still think about you. We met up, but didn't have sex then, just talked. He goes back to where he is stationed. He sends me a text a few days later that said if you hate me I would understand, but I just want you to know you are important and I still care. A week later I get another one apologizing saying he was sorry he took so long to apologize and he should have cared more. Then on thanksgiving I get one that says happy thanksgiving. He came home again for Christmas. He text me on Jan 2nd saying happy new year, sorry this is late. Then asked how I was and we chatted a little. A few nights ago he texts me asking if I would be opposed to hanging out with him before he went back home this week. I went and picked him up, and when he got in the car he goes I've missed you. We get back to my house, and ended up having sex. I initiated it (stupid I know). I have long hair that used to always get in his face when we slept in the same bed and he said he's missed that too. I asked him if he has been with anyone else in the last 6 months and he said he had the chance to once, but it didn't feel right so he didn't do it. He goes back home at the end of the week, and now I just feel confused. Does it sound like his intentions were to try and get laid, be friends, get back together or something else? Even though it's been 7 months since we broke up, I never fully got over him, and don't want to get hurt all over again and have to go through that hell again. Thanks everyone
Victoria Lake Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Honey, Based on what you said in your post, I think you should put an end to everything and allow yourself some time to heal. I think being confused, not knowing what the one you like truly wants, not knowing if it's either black or white, it's one of the worst feelings because it generates fear. What happened a few nights ago, the fact that you had sex, it's not that important after all. It's still fresh in your memory and I think that's why you keep asking yourself questions about it. Sincerely, I don't think he was trying to get laid or to get back together. I think it just happened and it isn't an indication about what he actually wants. What's more important than that, it's his overall behaviour. I can't tell if he's playing games (with all those "I'm sorry" messages) or if that's the way he is...but he doesn't seem serious. It takes actions too to prove your feelings, not only words like "I should have cared more". Stop this as soon as you can because I don't think you wanna be caught up in this whole "I'm sorry/ let's see each other and talk/ let's have sex/ bye bye" game.
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