Shameless87 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I have known this man for 3 years. We met through my best friend and slept together shortly afterward. Things stayed fairly casual between us for the next two years, we remained friends, had other relationships, and occasionally hooked up during this time. I am 26 and he is 38. I have always had very strong feelings for him and have let them be known. A year ago his attitude toward me changed, he started bringing me flowers, taking me out on dates, and eventually asked me to be exclusive. I agreed. Since then I rarely see him, and still haven't met his kids (he has two young girls that live with their mom). He tells me he is very busy with work and his kids and is having financial issues. Sometimes he will stop by in the middle of the day for an hour....just to hang out, no sex...then I won't see him for two weeks. Am I just one of many girls? If so, why would he push for a relationship and then not follow thru? I am not a possessive or pushy girl by any stretch but I've ran out of patience waiting for him. Could really use some insight. Thanks.
CC12 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Sometimes he will stop by in the middle of the day for an hour....just to hang out Is that all? You guys don't go on dates or spend the night together? Do you live far away from him? Do you have much contact with him during the weeks you don't see him? Have you ever been to his place? Have you met any of his friends?
Author Shameless87 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 We touch base a few times a day in between seeing each other, he stays over a few times a month, I've been to his place which is about an hour away only 3 times since we've met. Thanks for advice, I'll start being open minded about seeing other people.
Author Shameless87 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 Ya I've met all his friends to
DC4 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 (edited) We touch base a few times a day in between seeing each other, he stays over a few times a month, I've been to his place which is about an hour away only 3 times since we've met. Thanks for advice, I'll start being open minded about seeing other people. I know this scenario VERY well and have lived it. I keep my options open and I think you should, too if you're looking for more from a relationship. EDIT: I should mention that both times (yeah, gone through it twice) the men were awesome and into me-they just couldn't make the time commitment, mainly because of kids. I am sure you're going to get 100 "oh he's dating other women" posts and that's fine, I'm sure it happen. It doesn't always happen. Go with your gut. Edited January 10, 2013 by DC4
Author Shameless87 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 Thank you that really helps, definitely don't feel like he's seeing other people. Maybe I'm just not cut out for the kind of relationship he's offering.
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