Sunny Delight Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Met a guy back last year, got on great, had a good time the night we mate. the next day we texted and made plans to meet. I found out he had a child with his x and they had spilt 6 months prior to our meeting. We fell for each other, he told me he loved me two weeks into it, was ringen three times a day, drove to see me, but managed to bring up his x and text she would send to him bout me, that I care not to mention. He manage to say that she had changed alot from the girl he had met, and that she was had turned crazy and hes heart went out to his kid whom he say every sunday. Now just to add fuel he was playen dad to her other child which i found hard to deal with it but I did. We had a great few months, but she was always brought into it, which upset me. In the heel of the hunt, he told me he never liked xmas and more so this year cause he wasnt with his boys, after hearing it for so long, i told him to go back to her that he was bringing me down, he told me to stay at it, that it was goin to change and that the new year would bring a change in him and we could start planning. Three weeks before xmas he text to say he was goin back to the kids, no phone call, no meeting just a text. I felt let down and confidence taken from me. I tryed to get over it, but still gets me, he told me so much, that i began to believe, a life together, that he loved me, he couldnt ever go back to her, and after I met his mates they all said he was happy with me. Can somebody make any sense of it, cause I sure as hell cant, and after writting an email to him, his response was even more upsetting .
stevie_23 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I know how you feel. Had a similar thing done to me. Was deeply involved with a man…he told me he loved me more than anyone and anything else in his life, couldn’t be without me, that he’d never leave me, and that we’d always be together. He called me his true spiritual wife (as opposed to his actual real life wife who he lived with but didn’t love). All was well for almost 2 years (well, mostly well). Then he suddenly left. I don’t have the energy to go into details again (I’ve posted them around here in the last few days), but it was a total shock and SO hurtful. I doubted if anything he’d ever told me was true. But I realise now, and will tell you the same – he DID mean it all. Every word. He truly did love me, but he has had to make a choice based on his own life, survival and stability.
Author Sunny Delight Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 Thanks for that, i just wish he had told me face to face, explained it to me, it seems like the whole thing was a waste of time, and i said that to him on an email all my feelings and all i got back from him, was got your email, didnt know what to reply, at least its not all bad i suppose. Just was more hurt with that, if she is the person he says she is, and his mates say the same, then why the hell did he go back, hes folks, his brother have told him the same, do you thing its best not to contact him. I miss him so much , ya he had hes faults, little tantrums, rude at times, but when it was just us it was so great. Have you found any comfort .
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