lostsomeone Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 (edited) Please help me as I do really love my boyfriend. we are together for almost 2 month and before that we were best friends that we were telling each other almost everything. his ex broke up with him around 8 month ago and he was always asking me for help only to listen to him. He is such a nice guy as he promised to his ex he would take care of her until end of 2012 because both are studying abroad and she needed financial support. anyway we got to know each other and decided to stay together. I was not sure about him to move in in m place but suddenly he said he is going to give his place to his ex as she is looking for a place and he can move in with me. so we did and she is right across the street heheh. The problem is they wont stop chatting and talking. he says she is kinda a family to him and same for her. So I did a really bad move and few days back I checked his phone noticed that he is going to meet up with her in her place to show her how things work in the house, he promised he would tell me everything. So next morning i didnt go to work waiting outside to see where he is going. After 2 hours texted me that HIS EX ASKED HIM to show her things in the house. So I couldn't take it and went back home told him everything. he started explaining and saying how sorry he is and how much he loves me and he wants this relationship works. So he said he is going to asked her to give us space and only contact if its urgent and that's the second time he is telling me he asked her such a thing. but again last night I noticed they are chatting about everything like how upset she is because of bla bla bla and she needs money bal bla bla ..... I saw in his skype that she asked him what if your girlfriend ask you to stop being friend with me? and he replied that is not a option for me! then she replied dont tell her like that .....!!! I cant take it:( maybe I am being unreasonable. Maybe I am jealous. I am going to talk to him by weekend and telling him what if he had to choose between our relationship and his friendship which one he would choose? I am gonna wait for his respond :/ what do you ppl think:( Please help i am at work and still cant concentrate. One more thing I forgot we kinda rush into this relationship bcz right after we decide to be together we moved in :/ he says he didnt rush into this relationship and thought through the whole thing but did he? first month I was sooooo happpy, but now with all things happening with his ex! I am not so sure I noticed he paid for her air time and also he is paying half of the rental for his place and the other half she pays. Oh ya after being with him less than 3 weeks he said its his ex birthday and we need to go out dinner with her. So he got her a chocolate and a book and we went for dinner. But she wasn't happy i was there as i read the msg that she told him oh I thought its only you and me so i didnt get her anything for christmas. So when we finished dinner after 30 minutes my friend called me to fetch him so i suggested him lets go and fetch him he said no he would stay here with her and later after I fetch a friend I he will join me that was the start up of me being a bit jealous and getting worried Edited January 10, 2013 by lostsomeone
Catplates Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I think you have posted on the wrong forum.
To be or not to be Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 That sounds fishy to me. You have every right to feel concerned, he's not being honest with you. I dated a guy for 3 yrs who wouldn't let go of his ex either. He said they were like family blahblahblah. She would call him for rides, move furniture, call and text him all the time. She was never nice to me. I tried telling him how I felt but it always ended in a huge argument. I just had to accept it and tried my best to be cordial with he, surprisingly she stepped back. You should tell him that you want to meet her and take it from there.
Author lostsomeone Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 hehe I am new here didnt know where i should post
Author lostsomeone Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 That sounds fishy to me. You have every right to feel concerned, he's not being honest with you. I dated a guy for 3 yrs who wouldn't let go of his ex either. He said they were like family blahblahblah. She would call him for rides, move furniture, call and text him all the time. She was never nice to me. I tried telling him how I felt but it always ended in a huge argument. I just had to accept it and tried my best to be cordial with he, surprisingly she stepped back. You should tell him that you want to meet her and take it from there. I cant say that I cant talk to her I dont know what i have to tell her. and ya she is actually asking him for any kinds of help. and even she asked him once to send her somewhere using my car! The car can be used for my boyfriend not for his ex... come one... I know I sound so selfish but I dont get it I dont know why I am like this..... I have never been like this before... I really feel like I am going to break up by Friday. And I really thought he is the one I always hoped for he is disappointing me
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