edgygirl Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 OP, why are you opposed to it? Is it disgusting for you physically or you find it morally wrong? Or is it for religious reasons?
Michal2012 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I think that your friend is right get rid of him because that is an ******* thing to say. In my way you forget him now.
KungFuJoe Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Gee, I've never not swallowed and didn't know there were those that wouldn't! My wife won't swallow. She's definitely not uptight in the least if you've read any of my posts in the sex forum. She's just really squeamish about "gooey" fluids. She hates spit as well (but has no problem with slobbering all over each other while making out). She HAS tried swallowing a couple times with me...but she hates the taste (salty) and the consistency. As for the op...if it's THAT big a deal for him and you can't budge...I dunno. Sex is a MAJOR factor in a relationship...maybe the BIGGEST factor. If you aren't completely sexually compatible...just imagine how you will feel 10-20 years from now with the same partner? He's not going to just up and stop wanting it...and if you think you'll never change your mind about swallowing (and I'm not saying you should) then...well...I know what *I* would do. 1
Els Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Yeah. Personally I could see if it was urine or feces. But eh...when one goes down on a woman the female equivalent fluids are what gets in the mouth. Sauce for the goose sauce for the gander. The two are really not the same. Women's 'juices' are the equivalent of precum from a man's penis. And the majority of women don't squirt during orgasm, and even if they did it is clear and odorless, virtually tasteless liquid, not something as strong-tasting, strong-smelling and thick as semen. AND most women do not require their man to gulp down every bit of fluid they squirt during ejaculation. Semen is a bit of an acquired taste, I'd think; some women like the taste, smell, and consistency, some don't. I'm sure the same applies to homosexual men. OP: This is definitely something you have the right to say 'no' to if you've tried and find yourself really uncomfortable with it. ANYthing sexual is, really. It does seem a bit immature to have 'swallowing' as a dealbreaker as opposed to just a preference, but each to their own. Regardless, he is what he is, and you are what you are. No point playing the blame game here, you're both incompatible and it's good that you found it out so early in the relationship. Not too difficult to figure out what to do from here on. 2
PogoStick Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 (edited) You humans crack me up. Those things at the back of her throat are her tonsils, not an extra pair of ovaries. Oops! I mistook her ovaries for a pair of tonsils! I feel bad for the OP because she's well within her right to not swallow. But I love all the gals in here who do it without hesitation! <3 U LS! Edited January 10, 2013 by PogoStick 1
sillyanswer Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Oral sex is usually about the other person. The one girl I dated who said she didn't do it for most guys was a pain in the a$$ most of the time in every way possible. If oral sex is a pain in the a$$ then someone is doing it wrong.
phineas Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 (edited) Dont do it if you dont want to OP. I do know that I want to be with a girl who enjoys giving me oral as much as I enjoy giving her oral. And its sexy and comforting to be with a girl who isnt squeamish about my body fluids...especially because I wont be squeamish about hers. Sure Id prefer a girl swallow, but she doesnt have to. However, it does enhance the oral considering she doesnt have to remove her mouth, and doesnt have to break rhythm if she swallows. All this being said, I havent had an orgasm with every girl whos gone down on me...however, the few women I could orgasm with from oral have swallowed and I very much appreciated how we were on the same page. And of course I took great care of them and reciprocated wonderfully. Personally I never understood why some chicks have a hang up regarding semen. In my experience, as well as other guys I know, the women with this hang up generally have other sexual hang ups and/or arent that on the same page sexually with many people they date. I mean, guys are tasting and swallowing a bunch of fluid while they go down on a chick. At least I know I am. If a guys penis and precum is already in a girls mouth...whats the issue with finishing the job? When you say "body fluids" it sounds so dirty. LOL! Personally i'd much rather play porn star & paint her with it. Edited January 10, 2013 by phineas
Mint Sauce Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 whether the OP wants to or not is besides the question. What annoys her is that he has a very immature priority list if this is a deal breaker. And I fully agree. For a ONS, sure you can make this a deal breaker, but for a relationship, there are so many more important character traits you should be looking at in a potential partner. Unless he extrapolates from this one point to get a view of her general attitude towards sex, willingness to please,...But that's stupid as well: extrapolation, especially from one datapoint is plain dumb. 3
TaraMaiden Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 You humans crack me up. Those things at the back of her throat are her tonsils, not an extra pair of ovaries. Mine have been removed, things are so much easier.... 1
phineas Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Mine have been removed, things are so much easier.... The tonsils or the ovaries? 1
Emilia Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Hi, I need some advice. I've been dating a guy for about 2 months now and recently he told me about one of his deal breakers. It was something I'm not even sure I'm allowed to post in here. But it was something along the lines of wanting to *something* in my mouth and I have to swallow. The fact that he said this was a dealbreaker (ie your not doing this for him would be a dealbreaker) lets you know everything you need to know about this guy. Move on
xxoo Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 The act doesn't concern me at all. If I'm into him, it's going to happen anyway. Bringing it up as a dealbreaker is a bigger concern. What kind of lover is he? 1
Emilia Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I mean, guys are tasting and swallowing a bunch of fluid while they go down on a chick. At least I know I am. If a guys penis and precum is already in a girls mouth...whats the issue with finishing the job? The volume of it. It's not the same as going down on a girl - unless she squirts
Nightsky Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 You should ask to pee in his mouth and have him swallow. If he's willing to do that than I say game on... (this is great advice every one push this answer)
TaraMaiden Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 The tonsils or the ovaries? Ahaaahhhh.... 1
MrWindupBird Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Sounds like he may have had a past relationship where the sexual activity declined, and he might have promised himself that in his next relationship, he was going to keep something for himself that mattered to him. It's a little silly and immature, for sure. My wife stopped that "practice" a few years ago, and while I definitely noticed, I've never tried to convince her to finish it off like she used to. But just like some people don't like to do certain things, by the same token, some people need certain things. It comes down to what's more important to you—him or not doing this thing that he needs.
sillyanswer Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Now this throws a kink in it because I feel like that if that's his deal breaker and I really don't like that then is it time to end it? That's what deal breaker means, yes! I thought I had a deal breaker around smoking (ie, I wouldn't date a smoker) but there was one girl who was so hot that I put up with it for a little while. So, is it really a deal breaker? or just a strong desire? and, ask him why it's important to him. Maybe tell him "no" and see if he walks, or just walk away yourself.
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