My Crush

[secretsmile]

Hello

 

I know that most people say crushes are short-lived, but I've had a crush on my friend for more than a year already. He knows that I like him, but seeing as he's been interested with other girls for a while now, I doubt he will like me soon. He has moved on from one girl if it didn't work out (not many times. Of course he had to cope with it too. He's never had a girlfriend). The point is, when he did move on, well there's no improvement on my side. When I know he has a new crush, it feels a tiny bit "suffocating".

 

My friends tell me to move on already, but that is really hard. First of all, we see each other often. So as not to reveal my identity just in case, let's say we have to work together a couple of times. Avoiding each other will worsen things.

 

I've tried several methods to distract myself more with other activities. This hasn't worked though. I still end up thinking about him everyday. Sometimes I feel like crying even.

 

So how do you guys cope with a long time crush? One thing that probably worked slightly was when a friend told me that it's alright that I still like him, but I should still have an open mind -- that there are a lot more guys out there (even though currently he is the best guy). I'm not the type to be looking around though. Especially now, it is weird to be trying to "look" at other guys. I prefer the wait..that time when I will come across someone and we like each other mutually.

Edited January 9, 2013 by secretsmile

[Victoria Lake]

Darling,

 

Truth is (at least this is how I see things), if he'd be interested in you, he would be with you right now. He won't realise all of a sudden that he truly wants to be with you.

 

Your friend was right - try to accept two things: that you like him & that you have to keep an open mind because someone else will come in your life. Of course you won't like anyone else if you constantly think that he's "the right one" and if you refuse to look for anyone else. You shouldn't be even looking for (as in desperately trying to find someone else), you should just accept the idea of "someone else".

 

Are you sure that he knows you like him? I'm asking this because if he really knows it, and if he also knows that he doesn't want anything more from you, he shouldn't keep you as a "friend". It's kinda cruel if you ask me.

[secretsmile]

Yes he knows I like him. I kind of told him accidentally many months back. He was the one who asked me if we could still be friends despite the incident. He was interested in someone that time. There was no awkwardness between us at all. I was alright with it back then, but as time passed, my feelings for him grew.

 

Hmm just the idea of someone else. I'll try to keep this in mind