areejjaved Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 (edited) Hi, i've been in an on/off relationship with my bf, he's a year younger than me. We got together on 1 Jan, but he acted like very heart borken for two days, i felt really guilty cuz he blames me for his broken heart cuz i said no to him to do more than kissing. He kept saying to me at the time of getting back together that 'meet me if u wana be with me' and i was like okay i'll meet u soon. I keep asking him to go out with me but he says that he have car issues and that it'd be easy for him to meet me at my house when im alone which scares me.. We met twice at my home when i was alone. Once, he tried to get his hand under my shirt but i stopped him and then after few months he broke up with me and blames me for ruining our relationship. Then the second time we met i let him have his hand go anywhere but i wasnt home alone so we didnt do much then when we talked later he told me that nothing changed and he broke up with me. Now he again wants to meet me alone at my home and he's looking forward to have sex with me and im okay with it but the thing that scares me is that what if he again says after meeting me and having sex that nothing's changed and he just break up with me again? What should i do??? And tonight i even tried asking him that what if we cant meet alone at my house would u still stay with me.. But He just takes a long time to reply on this and says that i really wana meet u and nxt thing i know that he got mad and said bye. How should i deal with this? P.S: the first time i met him, we had our first kiss and i even saw him using his cell phone but when he was leaving my house he told me that his cell phone is dead, so dont text me, but i still texted him when he left. Then after few moments when he was gone he replied me then why did he say that his cell phone is dead? Should i be worried about it? :s Should i stay and try harder or just breakup with him? Help!! Edited January 9, 2013 by areejjaved
bitterruin Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 (edited) When you say you got together on January 1 do you mean you've only been dating for a week and everything you're describing happened in the span of the last nine days? Am I missing something? Update: Never mind, I see that it's a year. Well, it's clear that he's using you for sex. Are you sure you want to continue being played like a yo-yo? Edited January 10, 2013 by bitterruin
Author areejjaved Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 I also mentioned on/off relationship. We first got together in september 2011. He left me for the first time in march 2012 and then he used to come back to me every month.. And everyone keeps telling me that he only wants sex from me.. But i dont know whats wrong with me that i cant see it.. Its like im wearing a blindfold.. I dont wana see anything negative about him.. He's my first love and i dont know how to deal with it without losing him or hurtin him
movingforward2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 Yeah he only wants sex from you. Stop having sex with him and watch how fast he disappears.
Lasatra Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I totally understand.. My first was also on/off (just didn't have experience at all). I think I too just wanted sex than but now I'm happy she didn't do it for just the sex. You've gotta let go and explore the world, don't be a slut or something with other guys but just let life do it's work and you'll find a better person who matches better with you and sex will be less important . You'll get over it! Do NC!
Toddbt12y1 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 (edited) He's using you for everything. Where is your sense of worth and pride? He doesn't love you. Heck, he doesn't even like you. He only sees you as his prize, a nice piece of meat, he knows he can easily get. Why do you keep giving into this creep? Are you that desperate? He will use you. Then after disgracing you, he will leave again. He has problems. So do you...to take this. Have self-respect. Put him away and do not be such an easy prize for someone who treats you this way. Please. A relationship is built around a common respect; he doesn't have it for you. First love or not...I urge you for your own good to rid of him. Or face shame and misery. Edited January 10, 2013 by Toddbt12y1 2
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