Casablanca Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I've been talking to this woman for about two weeks; we've had 3 dates, sort of. First we met for coffee and then we had an actual more traditional date at the end of the week. The other night she called me if I could help her go to home depot to look for a new light to hang in her kitchen, so I went, we looked at some stuff and had dinner and called it a night as it was a work night for both of us. There hasn't really been anything too physical outside of hugging so nothing serious. I've come to the conclusion that I'm not interested in her romantically, is a phone call all I owe her given this short period of time? Also I assume leaving a voice message if she doesn't pick up is bad taste, right?
Beachbabe9109 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I guess a phone call is fine. And yeah, not a voicemail.
Treasa Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Yep, you should be fine. And yeah, no voice mails.
Author Casablanca Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Um, just don't ask her out again? One, I don't want to just leave her cold and dry, and disappear, I hate when people do that to me and I'm not going to do that to someone else Secondly, I already have a date planned for Friday, the last minute light fixture shopping gave me another chance to evaluate and I've been thinking the last 24hrs and I've realized that I don't like her romantically. 2
Beachbabe9109 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 One, I don't want to just leave her cold and dry, and disappear, I hate when people do that to me and I'm not going to do that to someone else Secondly, I already have a date planned for Friday, the last minute light fixture shopping gave me another chance to evaluate and I've been thinking the last 24hrs and I've realized that I don't like her romantically. Good for you. A lot of guys, if not most, would do as suggested and just never talk to her. Just a simple phone call and she will be able to be at peace not wondering for weeks upon weeks what she did or why you're not calling her or wondering if she should call or text you. 2
todreaminblue Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 One, I don't want to just leave her cold and dry, and disappear, I hate when people do that to me and I'm not going to do that to someone else Secondly, I already have a date planned for Friday, the last minute light fixture shopping gave me another chance to evaluate and I've been thinking the last 24hrs and I've realized that I don't like her romantically. in person would probably be more awkward, but to me i would actually do it on a date, but i think a polite phone call from a male would suffice after three dates..as a woman i would understand if it were me..it would be over pretty quickly she isnt going to hang on the phone with you after you tell her...depends how much she liked you how upset she would be again i could only go how i would react and i wouldn't let any guy know how much he upset me i would just try and get off that phone...so maybe the phone call is the best option for you.....good luck.......deb
Author Casablanca Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Good for you. A lot of guys, if not most, would do as suggested and just never talk to her. Just a simple phone call and she will be able to be at peace not wondering for weeks upon weeks what she did or why you're not calling her or wondering if she should call or text you. Girls do the same, one time though I had a date and we had a second one lined up, we were suppose to meet up, but she called me and told me she wasn't interested romantically and I thanked her. She could have just flaked and ignored me (or gone through with the date and ignored afterward), but I was really happy that she called me, it was just nice to know that there are adults out there
DC4 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I prefer a phone call break up. No dramatic exits and they can't see the look on my face (about to burst into tears or utter joy and relief).
carhill Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 My vote would be phone call. You had in-person pressing of flesh, so text/e-mail is too impersonal. If you had been physically/emotionally intimate, I would have recommended a look-in-the-eyes ending. The old saying of 'putting yourself in another's shoes' applies, I think.
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