quite.foolish Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I want to hear someone tell me that they once had someone leave their live who they thought was everything, a person who they thought could never be matched, a time when they felt life was not worth going on with. Then, they met someone better. I'd love to hear that just once. You 'lost' someone you thought was perfect, then someone better came into your life. Just once will do, it has to be true, bare in mind!
spaniard Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Yeah. I met this girl in 2007. We fell in love with each other. We were together for a short 4 months. Then she dumped me. I thought noone ever would match her. It took 6 months to get over her. In the next 4 and a half years I met a lot of girls. I dated some of them. There were girls who were hot and intelligent etc etc but none of them could match my ex. Then in September 2011 I met my current ex, who was better then my former ex in almost every respect. We were together for 9 months. The difference now is that I know that there is always a better one. I'm happy I could contribute to your thread with this beautiful love story of mine. 1
Renard99 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I can put forward my story. My ex was great. I met her in university when I was 20 and I couldn't have been happier. Even the way we met was great... I had a ticket going spare for a gig and couldn't find anyone to go with. I'd seen my ex around campus wearing a shirt with the band's logo on so asked her if she'd like to buy the ticket. We exchanged numbers and it all started basically over the sale of a ticket. We shared the same taste in music and we went to countless gigs together. As she had had a sheltered upbringing, we also shared loads of adventures which, to her, were all 'learning experiences'. She was learning, growing and becoming more wonderful all the time. I fell in love with her more and more as the years went by.... With a summer holiday to Italy planned, I knew I had a time and a place.... all I needed was a ring. Then we hit problems........ Her 'learning' about life caused her to question what else was out there beyond our relationship. There were new friends, new places, new experiences, new parties.........could there be other men? She left me to go and find out. I was devastated. Completely and utterly devastated. The world caved in around me. At the age of 27 I really didn't know what to do. All my friends were just settling down, getting married and having kids. I felt like a failure amongst my peers. I barely spoke to friends and when I did I just went on and on about the end of the relationship. I spoke more about her after the relationship than I did during it. My friends got bored of it and, eventually, so did I. After 6 months, whilst at a friend's wedding, I decided enough is enough. I picked myself up and decided to move forward. I searched around and joined a dating website that I thought looked good. Turned out I did it too soon and wasn't quite ready. So I waited a little longer...... Then I tried again with a more reputable site that required a subscription. It was a slog at first and I put a lot of effort into searching profiles and sending messages but, alas, didn't have much luck. So I decided to give it one last search and then just leave it to see if people found me. This last search threw up someone new. Her profile was interesting, funny and she looked pretty so I sent a message and then called it a day. Gave it a day or two but no luck...... but then an email..... I'd got a reply. She sounded lively, friendly and genuinely please to talk to someone, unlike many of the other replies I'd had that were 'flat' and unfriendly. We exchanged at least one message a day, occasionally more, and we ended up filling our inbox allocation. It turned out, completely by coincidence, that a shared interest meant we were both going to an exhibition in London on the same day. We agreed to meet. The day came and I was completely nervous. I told the friends that I was at the exhibition with that I was 'going to meet a friend' and disappeared. We met at the pre determined spot and said 'hello'. I pointed to the food stands and said "fancy a drink?" and from that point on we got on like a house on fire. She was just so easy to talk to that my nerves simply disappeared. We agreed to go for a meal the following week back in our home town and I simply couldn't wait. I’d found somebody that actually wanted to listen to what I had to say and who shared the same opinions and views. I didn’t have to compromise in anyway for the sake of the relationship, I could just be me! As a bit of a geek that was a total relief. My ex had let me indulge in being a geek but wasn’t one herself, yet here I was talking about geeky things to a fellow geek of the opposite sex and loving it! After more emails, more phone calls, more drinks and more dates, on one fateful night as I was dropping her off at her apartment; she leant over, put her hand on my knee and kissed me. That was it, we were official. I couldn’t have been more over the moon. She was better than my ex in so many ways. She was better looking, able to hold much better conversations, way better in bed, had more interests in common with me, much better with money…….. but by far the thing that attracted me the most to her was her spirited attitude to life. My ex had to be led through life and I had to, metaphorically, hold her hand through everything. Here however, was a woman who’d taken on her fair share of the crap that life had thrown at her, not least of which was the death of her mother and a nasty divorce all before the age of 30, and yet still had a love for life. Believe me, she’s better than my ex in nearly everyway. 18 months on and we're still going strong and have even just moved in together. The idea of a ring has crept in again, which is quite apt as it brings this story full circle. From the high of one relationship to the crashing lows of a break up, then back to those glorious highs and beyond. It can be done my friend….. it can be done. 2
Renard99 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 (edited) And if that was TLDR, may I present the short version. Met ex at Uni. Thought she was great. She wanted to shag other guys....left me I was devastated Joined dating website Found amazing better woman Still with amazing better woman Edited January 9, 2013 by Renard99 1
RR1 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I have a love story but it's kinda personal, i emailed it to this girl i really liked once. Just when i didn't have any motivation left to live and i was destroying myself with hard drugs she came along and gave me the will to live again, gave me the desire to live when i didn't have it for myself. I reasoned that she ought to know because when someone gives you something that unique you should let them know, we only live once and when someone is gone or no longer in your life you'll regret not telling them what you wantd to tell them. So i told her because she meant such a lot to me and i'd regret not telling her and at least giving myself a chance with her.
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