stone2 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 (edited) I attend college and im 20 and my ex is 25 with a child when i met her i had no intentions whatsoever talking to her because she was pretty and i knew what type of person she was."Assuming" one day she spoke to me and asked where was i was going and followed me and we talked.she said she wasnt looking for a relationship but asked me the same and i answered with the same answer. she seemed like a cool person . since i lived in a newly desinged dorm she asked that i should take a tour , im assuming just to come over so she came and we talked for a while.. eventually kissing but no sex .. the next day we had sex .. and we spoke everyday all day , mostly she initiated talking first.. about a week later being mature and realizing what was in front of me i asked her out and she said yes. always buying me food and stuff, we spent al day everyday together but im not clingy so i tried my best to give her space but she wanted me around as her bf so i did. a month and a half went by and during that time she was running low on money. had no job and unemployment was about to run out. i tried to suppoert her in the beggining and she invited me in to be there.. all of a sudden she started acting distant, barely calling but still telling me she has alot of love for me and cares. knowing love doesnt come fast but she explained why . until one day she went to class which is across the street from me and she has to pass me to go to her car .. she said she was going to see me when she got out.. and in result she left without me knowing and i saw her drive off , and called her and asked why she left and she came back. after that she kept saying shes stressed out which i understood so i tried to emotionally support n all that stuff even though its early in a relationship. but theres no wrong in that i was the bigger person. now i felt like i had 2 step up and be there for my girl so i went to her house to see whats wrong and why shes ignoring me which isnt good but i dont deserve to be ignored if i been cool. and she hit me with the shes stressed and started crying so i held her and stuff but for some reason i just felt like shewas bull****ting. she still continued to buy me tons of food from the store and stuff and which everytime i rejected but made me take it. one day i gave her flowers " first time ever" to help raise her spirits and it made her smile and she kissed me n stuff.. but ended up crying cuz shes stressed.. idk.. one day she just came and told me she could only stay for a hour so we ****ed and she left . at least she came thats how i took it.. but i felt us goin downhill so i prepared for some reason but never understood.. as the christmas break came i had to leave but she said she was going to see me .. she went to go to smoke and i asked her to see me me.. she hit me with the "let me try"im like now you acting funny and i said dont try cuz you can.. no reply that night.. she tells me she gets high and goes to sleep.. so the next day i go to her house to see her and her car is parked by her bros house i call but no answer.. mind you its raining and im still there like a dickhead but i cared so i stayed .. in result no answer.. i texted her saying im done you playing games and the whole shebang. in which later she kept calling saying she left her phone in the car.. and she sorry dont leave n stuff.. so im like **** it im getting pissed off but i stayed i prolly over reacted.. later she told me she was coming and didnt come so i left to go home for the break.. i called her a couple times because that day she claimed her phone was going to cut off.. she did not pick up at all.. i said **** it.. 2 days later or somethin like that i got a text saying shes sorry , when she gets overwhemly stressed she shuts contact with everybody.. but mind you your with family and drink in your house n smoke with a girl you talk alot of **** about so im like why are you doing this to me .. and she was like she deserves me ignoring her and stuff.. and when she wakes up shes changing her number.. i didnt ignore her i was texting a paragraph to her because thts the only way she will get what im tryna say.. made up i guess.. still no talking like that.. then she said she doesnt want to be in a relationship and when she does she wants someone older than her and someone who wants a family and stuff.. i told her i wanted to commit in the future as well but when i explained that when i graduate im going back home.. but im guessing she didnt realize as her bf she knows i will see her.. she also said she knows im gonna be a great husband and all that stuff and i need someone who will have time to talk to me more and she wont put time into our relationship.. im like this **** is stupid but it wasnt her to act like this.. so iexplained im there for her.. she took me back .. mind you even though its 2 months i liked her and she liked me and we had love for each other and cared.. then finally she said she just doesnt want to be in a relationship and i dont deserve her.. i aksed her is this fully over or will you come back.. she never replied untill the next day.. and said she doesnt know and asked when am i coming back and i told her idk mayybe next week and asked why and she said so we can talk in person.. in which i dont know why if your clearly acting like you dont want me. i asked do you want to still talk when i come back and she didnt reply untill the next night saying yes she does and wants to still see me but she doesnt want a relationship. i just ended it with an iight.. everything was so good at first i didnt rush anything and i didnt do anything wrong.and she didnt either. but now this. im over it but i still want her and then again just bcause of how this went i kinda dont but i do i cant lie.. im just not making the initative to call or anything so i can sound like a bitch.. i already stepped up as a man and explaineed and i did enough. since then we havent spoke.. and thats like 2 to 4 days.. i dont pay attention lol but still.. shes very attractive and so am i and we both know this.. we both get hit on and we both know this.. idk what to do .. should i stay or move on .. but if i stay i want to actually believe its the truth and by me saying that im not stupid so ill know.. but is it worth it because shes stressed.. and i showed her i can be there and ****.. and cuz im younger i feel she doesnt take that serious in the stress aspect.. im more of a man than alot of dudes.. im a producer and bartender. and majoring in restaurant management with great career motives for my future.. what do i not have that a real great man possses that a real woman would look for except for the fact im not ballin but i have money and i worked hard for it.. idk what to do ... please help.. i feel silly puttin this here but my friends are all dogs just like how i was and i woke up after meeting her.. so its hard.. and i kinda deserve it myself.. karmas a bitch they say but i worked hard for this and she realized and been with me help! lol Edited January 9, 2013 by stone2
sillyanswer Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 help! lol I gave up reading about half way... but if the second half was more of the same then I suggest "run, don't walk!"
Author stone2 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 lol .. you just have to read please
sabre80 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 You are 20. In college. Why are you putting up with all this drama? Plenty of other girls who aren't this bat**** crazy yet.
Author stone2 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Because I Care .. For Me to care it was never that much of a hassle for me.. but im just curious why would she end it when i was there and she was there for me i already told her its not killin me to do what im doin for you
sabre80 Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 She does not care about you. Find someone who cares about you as much as you care about them and you will look back on this and go wtf was I thinking. I say this because I have been in your position (not the exact circumstances but the same position). You give give give and they just walk over you. All men at some point are in this same position (or still are) till they get tired of it and start asking what's in it for me?
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