th90 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I've been missing my ex disturbingly lot this week. Every single thing I do, see, feel and hear reminds me of what we used to be And the urge to break NC is going stronger each day. It's like having another storm after few weeks of clear skies.
crashvector Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I've been missing my ex disturbingly lot this week. Every single thing I do, see, feel and hear reminds me of what we used to be And the urge to break NC is going stronger each day. It's like having another storm after few weeks of clear skies. I'm right there with you. something I learned during my divorce was that you can NOT make someone do something they don't wanna do, no matter HOW much you want them to. 1
itsmyfault Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Me too, However I think I can pin it down to visiting this site... It think it's the last reminder I really have, Although I don't hurt or get down I do feel like I know what I'm missing, Other people's fresh suffering reminds me of that. Think Of it like quitting smoking, You've been quit for weeks now, Why turn back? That one cigarette might put you back to square one and all your hard work is gone and you are left feeling sorry for yourself. I think I'm going to set myself a date to stop coming on here, probably this Friday, so the start of the weekend. It makes sense that to end this journey properly I need to leave this place. 2
alexnguyen Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I feel the same way OP. When you think you're out of the slumps you just get one random memory and it all comes back again. I'm still in NC for about 3 months now and yes it does get easier, but the one thing that seems to not change are the memories. Hope you feel better, the forum will help you lots!
Lasatra Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/281193-all-new-no-contact-thread This thread helps a lot
Author th90 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Thanks for the replies peeps! I'm right there with you. something I learned during my divorce was that you can NOT make someone do something they don't wanna do, no matter HOW much you want them to. I agree. I didn't go more than 1 day begging for my ex. The only way out is to let go completely. It's just gonna take time. Been 2 months since BU but it has felt like forever. I do see the light at the end of the tunnel, but each step forward gets harder and heavier. Like there is a threshold energy that I need to overcome to make a step towards the light that's peeking through. And the threshold value keeps increasing. Think Of it like quitting smoking, You've been quit for weeks now, Why turn back? That one cigarette might put you back to square one and all your hard work is gone and you are left feeling sorry for yourself. I think I'm going to set myself a date to stop coming on here, probably this Friday, so the start of the weekend. It makes sense that to end this journey properly I need to leave this place. That's a very nice way to put it. Ya, getting off LS is probably a good idea for you. The possession of a post-BU journal and my LS obsession are reminders that he left me. But these 2 things help me a lot especially when I'm on the verge of breaking NC. I feel the same way OP. When you think you're out of the slumps you just get one random memory and it all comes back again. I'm still in NC for about 3 months now and yes it does get easier, but the one thing that seems to not change are the memories. Hope you feel better, the forum will help you lots! It's sad that I even avoid listening to several of my favorite songs because they remind me so much of my ex. I have somewhat associated my ex with those songs. My friend even asked me why did I stop listening to this song that I loved so much and I just said "Oh, I have a new fav song now". I hate this http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/281193-all-new-no-contact-thread This thread helps a lot Thanks. I've read it so many times over and over again. Been in NC for 2 months now.
cavalier99 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 (edited) I've been missing my ex disturbingly lot this week. Every single thing I do, see, feel and hear reminds me of what we used to be And the urge to break NC is going stronger each day. It's like having another storm after few weeks of clear skies. Hang strong th90 I've had a rough couple weeks right when you sounded like you were doing great. Its normal I guess to cycle thru this crap..just sucks Breath, pray gratitude list lol ....I've added in positive self talk and even have a stupid rubber band on my wrist that i snap when i start thinking about her too much Maaaaan am i getting tired of all this effort to get over a relationship. Goood G-D its ridiculous still at times and im 3 months NC. DONT BREAK NC. OK? The storm will pass. Edited January 9, 2013 by cavalier99
Author th90 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Hang strong th90 I've had a rough couple weeks right when you sounded like you were doing great. Its normal I guess to cycle thru this crap..just sucks Breath, pray gratitude list lol ....I've added in positive self talk and even have a stupid rubber band on my wrist that i snap when i start thinking about her too much Maaaaan am i getting tired of all this effort to get over a relationship. Goood G-D its ridiculous. Haha yes.. Just keep breathing. Thanks for reminding. I've also added a few things. I've never been more spiritual and religious my whole life. But it's some positive changes all thanks to the ex for breaking my heart, beating the **** out of me, hit me right in the heart.
Author th90 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 DONT BREAK NC. OK? The storm will pass. I WONT! It's 2 months and counting!
cavalier99 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Haha yes.. Just keep breathing. Thanks for reminding. I've also added a few things. I've never been more spiritual and religious my whole life. But it's some positive changes all thanks to the ex for breaking my heart, beating the **** out of me, hit me right in the heart. Maybe mix it up some ..go out get totally drunk...and try a random hookup! Lmao 1
Author th90 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Maybe mix it up some ..go out get totally drunk...and try a random hookup! Lmao I'll pass I even rejected a very very VERY good looking guy who is a friend. I don't want to feel messed up and "dirty". I can't take alcohols at the moment because I somehow developed an allergic reaction. This is depressing because I really wanna get drunk and stop giving ****s anymore.
cavalier99 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 (edited) I'll pass I even rejected a very very VERY good looking guy who is a friend. I don't want to feel messed up and "dirty". I can't take alcohols at the moment because I somehow developed an allergic reaction. This is depressing because I really wanna get drunk and stop giving ****s anymore. You know im kidding...i know your views. One day soon enough you will be willing to try again and will be able to say yes to a date. At least you being asked out. I'm still not ready to date so I'm there with you on this one. Im rooting for you. Hang in there. Where are you from?..curious..if you don't mind telling. Edited January 9, 2013 by cavalier99
Author th90 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 You know im kidding...i know your views. One day soon enough you will be willing to try again and will be able to say yes to a date. At least you being asked out. I'm still not ready to date so I'm there with you on this one. Im rooting for you. Hang in there. Where are you from?..curious..if you don't mind telling. I guess I'll PM you
itsmyfault Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I guess I'll PM you ooooo me too, I'm also curious as to where you are from.
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