Only_human17 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 So I guess I haven't shared my story so here goes... I just ended things with my boyfriend of 3 years, he lived an hour an half away. He came to visit me for New Years Eve, we are getting ready to go out and he tells me he slept with a girl he met two days before Christmas. He had a smile on his face so I told him to shut the f*** up, no you didn't. Doesn't he smile again and say ya I did. The feeling I had in my heart was indescribable, I've never felt so numb. He explains that it was a one time thing and he doesn't know why he did, I was speechless. I told him he had to go but he cried and convinced me to let him stay and spend New Years with him. We talked a lot that night, he told me everything that happened, I cried all night. I never thought I'd be one of those people who would give second chances but I wanted to make things work, I loved him. We talked about making our relationship better, taking it one day at a time, but I had one request. My request was simple, remove this one night stand from your Facebook, I didn't want to see her name and I certainly didn't want her to be his "friend". He wouldn't do it, he wouldn't adhere to my one request after he slept with another woman. I ended it, told him we were done last Wednesday. He starts texting me Friday, says he misses talking to me. I continued to text him until I joined this site and read about the pros to No Contact. I started NC yesterday and I've been so strong, I'm healing, and I feel good 1
NoMoreJerks Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Wow.... what a jerk... You did the right thing. Good riddance!
Sav Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Oh yea he's a douche. I'm not going to justify cheating but sometimes it does happen to the best of us. However it seems like he ain't the least remorseful so good job dumping his ass
LostOne1 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Wow 3 yrs and he cheats.. just like my ex did. But Im glad YOU got rid of him. My ex left me while she cheated. At least you left him and I dunno how he can smile? I would expect he would cry or feel horrible but smile? Jeez... trust me you don't want scum like that.. you deserve better and a guy who will be LOYAL to you NO MATTER WHAT.....
Author Only_human17 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 LostOne1- Yes I am very glad that I ended it and I definitely deserve better! I'm the one smiling now!
Missing Him Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Not being willing to remove her from Facebook I know it's hard and I'm sorry that you're hurting, but good for you that you've dumped him and gone NC! It's the best thing that you can do.
KatZee Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Good for you. The worst mistake I've ever made in my life was giving a second chance to my cheater. Believe me, even if he HAD deleted that girl from his Facebook, it never would have been the same. I made the same request of my ex. He actually followed through and got rid of her, pictures, etc... didn't matter. He was still a piece of s.hit to me and I never trusted him for one second after that. My life was hell for 8 months after he "confessed." I should have dumped him right then and there like you did. Wish I had had that strength. He had lowered my self esteem and my confidence to nil so I felt he was all I deserved or was worth. The fact that he had the balls to smile as he told you, and then to refuse to get rid of her? You can bet he'd cheat again if you stayed. What a piece of trash.
Author Only_human17 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 I'm actually surprised by my strength through this whole thing, it would have never been the same after so I am glad that I ended it because I would be in a constant state of second guessing myself and him.
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