ImperfectionisBeauty Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 So I am just thinking about this, I was on FB and this guy who I met on POF a long time ago and never actually met because he stood me up, anyways I saw a post he made about his son.. I didn't even know he had a son. I just wonder if single dads are more reliable guys (even though this guy isn't), are they more serious about relationships? I thought about doing POF again and just only going for single dads, but I'm just not ready for POF yet I don't think. At 22 though I would consider dating a single dad, my ex was one and he was an awesome dad.
unluckyinlove4 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 So I am just thinking about this, I was on FB and this guy who I met on POF a long time ago and never actually met because he stood me up, anyways I saw a post he made about his son.. I didn't even know he had a son. I just wonder if single dads are more reliable guys (even though this guy isn't), are they more serious about relationships? I thought about doing POF again and just only going for single dads, but I'm just not ready for POF yet I don't think. At 22 though I would consider dating a single dad, my ex was one and he was an awesome dad. No I don't think so. People are people regardless of if they have children or not. I date a single dad for a bit and he was a great guy, but I think because he settled down young, he was actually looking for what he had been missing. 1
sabre80 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I do not think single dad (or single mom) for that matter should be relied on for determining reliability or stability or maturity. I am a single dad of 2 kids (full time ex left the country). I like to think I am a good dad. But there are a lot of single dads out there that aren't. Just because one has kids does not indicate anything other than they have kids. Think about this for a moment. It is common knowledge that there are a lot of single mothers out there. In fact a quick browse of online dating it is actually kind of difficult to find a woman (at least in my area) over 25 that did NOT have kids. There are (probably more) single dads out there. They are just able to detach or hide the fact easier. For every single mom out there there must be a single dad. I WILL however say dating a single parent has its advantages in as far as a tell tell way. You can determine more about a person who has kids based on what kind of parent they are will determine what kind of spouse they are. I have had plenty of first or more dates with single mothers who were terrible mothers. I have no desire to date that kind of woman. One last point. Say you are sitting across the table from a single dad. And he is a deadbeat dad. Does not pay child support, hasn't seen his kid(s) in years. Though dating him would be more convenient dating him would not be wise. If he can not love, cherish, support and provide for his own flesh and blood innocent child, what makes you think he will do any of that for you? So though having children does not necessarily indicate one thing or another, it does let you see those things easier.
DC4 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I date a single father. He's attentive, sweet and quite interested in me. As long as you know you'll always be a distant 2nd (at best) to his kids, you're good to go. Babysitting issues, cancelled dates for various reasons, rushing home-all things to consider. If you need a lot of attention, dating a single parent is probably not for you. Well, assuming the single parent is a good parent!
clia Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I honestly can't imagine why you would want to purposely seek out a man with children when you are only 22 years old when the vast majority of men around your age do not have children yet. Why even deal with that baggage if you don't have to?
carhill Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 OP, I think the content of your post underscored the reality that each of us are individuals. IOW, a single father could be anything from a saint to a cad. If his history, upon examination, shows marked leanings in either direction, history has shown him to lean in those directions. Here and now shows him to be who he is today, relevant to the life experiences which form that man in front of you. How does it match up? It sounds like your example, the 'poofer', performed less than satisfactorily, to you, in the present. Does that behavior reflect upon all single fathers? Is it representative of that man's global behavior? Those answers are really unknown, generally. When the next single father contacts you, or responds to your ad/contact, how will you approach the interaction?
Treasa Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I have no idea the answer to your question, but I'd LOVE to date a single father. I love men who love their kids (for some reason it really turns me on to hear someone talk about how much they love their children), and I totally agree that kids come first. Plus it would mean I'd still get plenty of free time.
rocketman122 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I think it depends. I can say the same thing about women. many of the women who I met OLD were newly divorced and wanted to party and just have sex. they wanted to feel free and enjoy themselves now that theyre divorced. to relieve some stress. it depends on the person.
Lonely Ronin Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Men are reliable & take things more seriously, boys don't. The issue so many people see, is more and more little boys are running around in men's bodies.
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