stevie_23 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I am intending to go to the doctor in 2 days to see if I can get some medication to help me through this hard time in my life. I’m sure some of you have done this…was it hard to get the doctor to prescribe anything? I don’t even know what I need, but I’ve been talking to a friend who takes a very small amount of Xanax each day. He has an anxiety / panic disorder but it’s been under control for years. He suggested Xanax for me, in a very small amount on a temporary basis. I don’t know if I’m depressed or anxious, or both (I think it’s both). I don’t really want to become a zombie though if I’m given anti-depressants. I also don’t want to wait weeks for them to start working either, and I’ve heard they take a while. I just want…help. Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you all.
crashvector Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 IF you are both depressed and anxious, you will most likely get Lexapro, Celexa, Paxil, or some other 3rd generation SSRI. For anxiety alone, you will probably get a low-dose temporary supply of a benzo like Xanax. After my divorce, I was given Lexapro, Abilify, AND xanax. Yeah, I was kind of a train-wreck though. they can take a few weeks to reach FULL potential, but you notice a difference after just a few days. They don't make you into a "zombie" in my experience. They don't numb you either. What it felt like from my perspective is that you get sad, but there's only so far down you can go and the meds keep you from sinking any lower.
Coping Vortex Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I am intending to go to the doctor in 2 days to see if I can get some medication to help me through this hard time in my life. I’m sure some of you have done this…was it hard to get the doctor to prescribe anything? I don’t even know what I need, but I’ve been talking to a friend who takes a very small amount of Xanax each day. He has an anxiety / panic disorder but it’s been under control for years. He suggested Xanax for me, in a very small amount on a temporary basis. I don’t know if I’m depressed or anxious, or both (I think it’s both). I don’t really want to become a zombie though if I’m given anti-depressants. I also don’t want to wait weeks for them to start working either, and I’ve heard they take a while. I just want…help. Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you all. I tried Paxil and Lexipro and both had side effects for me were dry mouth headache, nausea dizziness and fatigue. The Dr gave me Xanax for sleep. I woud not take it during the day. Although you can take both together I wouldn't. It will take 8 weeks for it to kick in. So if you are over your ex by then it might not be worth it.
Author stevie_23 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Ok, thank you so much. It will be worth it. Even in 8 weeks. This relationship ending…it was so intense throughout our time together…it’s not going to be easy for me to get over, especially as there’s been no closure of any kind.
crashvector Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Xanax doesnt take time...about 20 minutes from the time you swallow the pill. It's a benzo....makes you sleepy/loopy and less anxious.
suladas Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 IMO I wouldn't, with time you'll cope with it. It took me a few weeks but eventually I was able to sleep again. Not a fan of pills at all.
Allumere Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Good luck. Went to regular physician and 2 counselors and I could'nt even get a sleep aid. I suffer form anxiety and given my 10 years of marriage hell with my bi-polar (unmanaged) ex...one could understand how this could rear its ugly head. I gave up...I work out 2 hours a day and take Omega 3's, St.Johns Wart, and Valarian Root (spelling). When I cant sleep I try melatonin and diphenhydramine but most times that doesnt work so I just get up and start my day.
Samilia Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I am intending to go to the doctor in 2 days to see if I can get some medication to help me through this hard time in my life. I’m sure some of you have done this…was it hard to get the doctor to prescribe anything? I don’t even know what I need, but I’ve been talking to a friend who takes a very small amount of Xanax each day. He has an anxiety / panic disorder but it’s been under control for years. He suggested Xanax for me, in a very small amount on a temporary basis. I don’t know if I’m depressed or anxious, or both (I think it’s both). I don’t really want to become a zombie though if I’m given anti-depressants. I also don’t want to wait weeks for them to start working either, and I’ve heard they take a while. I just want…help. Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you all. I would stay away from Xanax, Celexa (citalopram) is a good one, it won't make you a zombie but will help with your emotions not feeling so "raw" all the time. 4 dollars at walmart for the generic. If you have a hard time, medication can help, but you got to get counselling as well. Eventually you'll drop the meds, keep counselling. I have been there after a miscarriage, it helped me. Took the meds for a year.
Author stevie_23 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Yeah…sometimes I think people just need a bit of help. I am exhausted mentally by constantly having to reign in my thoughts, to keep them on the straight and narrow and not let them veer off into anger, tension, stress, distress, depression, tearfulness, etc. Several times a day I have to yell at myself to SHUT UP! Or STOP IT! When my thoughts are let loose. I am sick of it. I need help with that most of all. I know everything mentally…like I’m a good person, my own self worth does not change due to him leaving me, and that eventually I will be ok again, but…emotionally it’s different.
Amelie1980 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Careful with them.....I tried valium. It relaxed my body but left my mind totally intact. there was nothing worse than still feeling the same mental pain but having a slow unresponsive body too.
Just smile Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I'm not a pill popper and I would highly recommend NOT taking any quick fixes. Try working out. Going for a long walk, deep breathing and reading, believe me. I'm at rock bottom and refuse to pop anything.
Coping Vortex Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I'm not a pill popper and I would highly recommend NOT taking any quick fixes. Try working out. Going for a long walk, deep breathing and reading, believe me. I'm at rock bottom and refuse to pop anything. I hear you I hate taking meds of any kind. But for some of us the constant thoughts of our ex and relationship drive us crazy. We need something to help out. I have been on edge and depressed for 7 weeks no sleep. I need something anything to help me get through this. I have been working out long walks started joining groups etc. But I am still in pain. I have a roller coaster in my stomach, I keep getting reminded of her and see a time we were together and I also see her in mind having sex with her new guy. trust me I will turn to meds if they can get rid of these images even for a little while.
Amelie1980 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I hear you I hate taking meds of any kind. But for some of us the constant thoughts of our ex and relationship drive us crazy. We need something to help out. I have been on edge and depressed for 7 weeks no sleep. I need something anything to help me get through this. I have been working out long walks started joining groups etc. But I am still in pain. I have a roller coaster in my stomach, I keep getting reminded of her and see a time we were together and I also see her in mind having sex with her new guy. trust me I will turn to meds if they can get rid of these images even for a little while. Did you read my post? Anxiety drugs knocked my body out but left me awake & my mind intact. It was worse.
fixing Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 (edited) Well, if you are feeling very depressed, (Rightly so, after a BU) then yes, go to your doctor. Anti depressants don't turn you into zombies. Lexipro is a great AD and you should feel the effects quite quickly. I cant speak for the Xanex, never tried them. Obviously they will not cure your heartache, but like crash says, they will dull out the pain. Basically, if you look at my avatar <<< thats how i look once im on Ad's Edited January 9, 2013 by fixing
flitzanu Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I am intending to go to the doctor in 2 days to see if I can get some medication to help me through this hard time in my life. I’m sure some of you have done this…was it hard to get the doctor to prescribe anything? I don’t even know what I need, but I’ve been talking to a friend who takes a very small amount of Xanax each day. He has an anxiety / panic disorder but it’s been under control for years. He suggested Xanax for me, in a very small amount on a temporary basis. I don’t know if I’m depressed or anxious, or both (I think it’s both). I don’t really want to become a zombie though if I’m given anti-depressants. I also don’t want to wait weeks for them to start working either, and I’ve heard they take a while. I just want…help. Any advice would be much appreciated, thank you all. there's no harm and no shame in doing this, either. you won't be a zombie, you'll just learn to stop dwelling and stop reacting.
bitterruin Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 A doctor probably won't give you any medication just yet. They might suggest you try therapy first. If after two months you're still in the same place they might decide to put you on medication. Unless you end up in the emergency room for whatever reason. I'm speaking from experience, not from this last breakup but in the past. I was using Klonopin and Xanax for a while. I'm sure you'll be fine and won't need medication though.
broken-and-lost Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 do your home work on the effects of these drugs first hair loss withdraw and so on i tried them worse thing i ever did. they will not take away your pain if thats's what your hoping for
flitzanu Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 do your home work on the effects of these drugs first hair loss withdraw and so on i tried them worse thing i ever did. they will not take away your pain if thats's what your hoping for wtf did you take that made you lose your hair??
Author stevie_23 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 I actually have done a bit of research on them...how addictive they are, what they do in terms of effects on the brain, etc. Ugh, taking a long walk actually sounds like a nightmare for me at the moment, because I’d be alone with my thoughts without enough distractions like reading or watching TV. I find these times the hardest…showering I hate now because it’s just me and my thoughts. Walking anywhere is tough. I would put my MP3 on to help, but I associate so many songs with him and so…that would make it worse. I’m going to the dr tomorrow so I’ll update you on what happens. 1
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