He broke up with me

[suladas]

Feel bad for you, it's not easy I still remember my last break up like it was yesterday it's such a tough time. Just remember it ending means you can now meet someone else great

[tigressA]

Thanks for the support, everyone. I really appreciate it. :love:

 

I would have 'liked' the posts but I do have my ratio to be concerned with :laugh:

 

I am leaning toward not talking to him tomorrow...I deleted his number and texts from my phone, deleted and blocked his email(s). Haven't done FB or the pictures yet...I can't really bring myself to go through those yet.

[MrCastle]

Feel bad for you, it's not easy I still remember my last break up like it was yesterday it's such a tough time. Just remember it ending means you can now meet someone else great

 

I hear Jimmy is available.

[Maneater]

ughhh so sorry to hear this more fish out there...this guy is probably just a lazy loser!

[tigressA]

I'm going to attempt to sleep now...thinking more and more that unless he comes to me saying he made a stupid mistake, talking with him isn't a good idea.

[kaylan]

Not surprised OP. He seemed like a dude who knew all the right things to say, but his actions didnt match up with his words in my opinion. This was all too rushed...and the underwear thing in your last thread threw up red flags.

 

Youll be alright though. People like you and me need to learn to take these things slow, that way we truly know about a person before our heart is too invested.

[Radu]

Sorry it ended TA.

 

Look on the bright side, you can talk of pantygate to friends now without potentially making it awkward.

[kiss_andmakeup]

I'm sorry, TA.

 

*hugs*

 

For me personally, cutting my ex off completely (no contact) has really helped me heal. Hopefully you find peace in some way that works for you.

 

*more hugs*

[Els]

I'm sorry that this happened, Tigress. I really think it is for the better though. It's incredibly difficult to base a LDR off of such a short time spent together IRL, and exacerbated by all the problems (underwear, etc) that happened so early in the relationship.

 

You're a strong woman. You'll get through this, and more, I'm certain you'll learn and grow from it as a person. Stay strong, keep yourself occupied, talk to us here if you want. We're here for you.

 

{{hugs}}

[Emilia]

Not surprised OP. He seemed like a dude who knew all the right things to say, but his actions didnt match up with his words in my opinion. This was all too rushed...and the underwear thing in your last thread threw up red flags.

 

Youll be alright though. People like you and me need to learn to take these things slow, that way we truly know about a person before our heart is too invested.

 

yes I agree, the whole thing was too rushed. You need to get to know someone Tigressa before you give them your heart

[Toddbt12y1]

I am truly sorry to hear about this...TigA.

 

I know from your other threads, some troubles you went through, some plans you had. This is shocking...I am sorry.

 

He is a fool...such a fool! He gave-up a wonderful person. He misdone a wonderful person. You shouldn't be sad over someone like him...Though I know you will, you cared for him.

 

I am sorry....I hope you feel better in time and realize you are better off. His loss...what a fool.

[tigressA]

I slept decently, which was unexpected...had a lot of dreams, though. Woke up feeling a glimmer of okay-ness amongst the rubble and seized onto that, then I checked FB and saw him at the top of my news feed; my grip slipped...unfollowed. Not defriended yet though. And the pictures...I have a folder full of pictures. :( I guess that makes them easier to get rid of, I don't even have to look through them. But I have to scroll through them to delete them on FB...I can hardly bear to even think about it. Deleting pictures was so easy for me before, I don't know how it's so hard for me now. I just want to be okay right now...

[tigressA]

I can feel the anger coming. Finally.

 

I feel like he didn't give us enough of a chance...and yeah, who wouldn't want to put in the time with me? Sure, I can be a bit of a brat sometimes, but overall I'm pretty awesome. And he doesn't see that if he doesn't care to continue...so why should I waste time crying over him and worrying over stupid pictures we took. They're just pictures FFS...went through them on FB just now, deleted them, didn't feel a thing. It feels good. I feel good. The anger is heating my blood.

[Chief Wiggum]

Poor guy. I know how he feels. I too felt guilty when breaking up with my last girlfriend. I kept putting it off and dragging it longer than it needed to be dragged, and I'm sure he probably felt the same.

[Divasu]

Agree with Kaylan on the underwear thing. It was fishy when he brought it up and my immediate thought was he was trying to get you to break up with him because he didn't want to do it.

 

Sorry OP. It seemed you really liked this guy and I'm sorry it didn't work out.

[sid3]

I can feel the anger coming. Finally.

 

I feel like he didn't give us enough of a chance...and yeah, who wouldn't want to put in the time with me?

 

Obviously this guy.

[Art_Critic]

I'm so sorry tigress

Breakups suck ... There will be someone right around the corner that will trip your trigger.. I promise

[veggirl]

Sorry T hope you are feeling better today!

[Drseussgrrl]

I get the sense that your heart has been through the ringer the past few months.

 

Give yourself a break. And please, let a man earn your heart. It is precious and shouldn't be handed over so easily because you feel a certain amount of chemistry, which can lead you to put the blinders on.

 

It takes months to really get to know someone, through consistent communication and spending time with one another. This was a whirlwind romance that you got swept up in with someone you didn't even know.

 

I would delete him from FB. Just do it. You aren't friends.

 

Also - a word of warning. I suspect he will come sniffing around again. Don't fall for it. He'll start to miss you, sniff around to see if you're still on the hook and when his ego is good and stroked he'll go back to having his doubts again. Please don't fall into the pattern of pining over a man who can so easily walk away from you.

 

Huge hugs. I've had this exact same thing happen to me (dated for 2 months, fell head over heels and poof he was gone).

[tigressA]

I started crying at work, in between calls, and I was talking to people with my voice husky and strained from sobbing. I went to the bathroom and cried in a stall for 15 minutes, trying to keep from crying out so no one would ask me what was wrong. My eyes were almost completely red, I went to talk to my supervisor and he sent me home; he said I can take tomorrow off too if I need to.

 

I think I need to cry until my eyes are just about swollen shut and then I can start getting past it. I don't want to cry over this, but I know I need to.

[Ruby Slippers]

Yeah, bawl your eyes out, as many times as you need to. Don't hold back. It hurts briefly, and then you feel much better. Kind of like throwing up. *hugs*

[Mme. Chaucer]

I And please, let a man earn your heart.

 

Also, trust is something to be earned.

[tigressA]

I guess I'm good at foreshadowing. A few weeks ago I heard Taylor Swift's "I Knew You Were Trouble" and I was really digging it. Couldn't put my finger on why. I played it over and over and over on my laptop that day.

 

And now I'm playing it again.

[Ruby Slippers]

I guess I'm good at foreshadowing. A few weeks ago I heard Taylor Swift's "I Knew You Were Trouble" and I was really digging it. Couldn't put my finger on why. I played it over and over and over on my laptop that day.

 

And now I'm playing it again.

You and I are definitely alike in some ways.

 

For the past few weeks, I've been playing a lot of songs full of sadness and doubt. My ex kept complaining about it and asking why I was playing all this sad music. This one kept popping up on Pandora and was particularly fitting.

 

I vote we make a breakup songs thread so I can get tipsy and dance to it with my cat tonight

[Nightsky]

You and I are definitely alike in some ways.

 

For the past few weeks, I've been playing a lot of songs full of sadness and doubt. My ex kept complaining about it and asking why I was playing all this sad music. This one kept popping up on Pandora and was particularly fitting.

 

I vote we make a breakup songs thread so I can get tipsy and dance to it with my cat tonight

 

Tipsy you say hmmm.