Should a girl be upset if her boyfriend tells her she is a 6/10?

[Negative Nancy]

And next time you suggest that lonely women should date anything with a penis that hits on them, you should think about this thread.

 

Best come-back in this thread so far.

 

Suppose a man thinks there are more important things in life than a woman's looks? Maybe if you love someone, you don't give a crap about her looks. That's how men can stay married for 50 years to a now old woman.

 

No they stay married because the cheat on the side.

 

Or he could've said something along the lines of "I don't "rate" people like they're cattle on the auction block. All I know is she's beautiful to me."

 

This would have been a very good and mature response.

[somedude81]

And next time you suggest that lonely women should date anything with a penis that hits on them, you should think about this thread.

That I have not done or said anything close.

 

As for the main theme of this thread, if I were dating a girl who wasn't 100% attracted to me and she said that I was a 5 out of 10, I wouldn't give a damn.

 

Why? Because I'd already be dating and sleeping with her. That would be all the validation I need. I don't need to believe that she thinks I'm the hottest guy she's ever met. I would know that she is with me for other reasons than just my looks.

[Mme. Chaucer]

If a woman isn't particularly attractive and she knows it and her boyfriend knows it but just doesn't care because he loves her, what's the problem? Why should he have to find her beautiful or lie to her? Women are never satisfied. If he judges you on your looks, what about your personality. If he judges you on your personality, what about your looks?

 

Obviously this OP is judging his girlfriend on her looks. If he weren't, he would not be assigning a rating for her based on a numerical scale. That in itself requires judging.

[SteveC80]

I was banging this girl that i wasnt really attracted to and had trouble cumming.I had her lick my balls for awhile and that finally gave me my release each time we had sex try it

[yessy21]

ROcks for Brains... If shes a 5/6 you must be a Solid 2.

[baRx]

I seriously can't believe I just read this thread.

 

The award for most retarded person of the new year goes to OP.

 

I wish there was a .block feature on here so I'd never have to read another one of this moron's posts ever again.

 

Seriously, break up with this poor girl before you cause any more harm. You're doing her no good and I simply cannot fathom how you were able to sit there and become "confused" over how stupid this is.

[Mme. Chaucer]

 

As for the main theme of this thread, if I were dating a girl who wasn't 100% attracted to me and she said that I was a 5 out of 10, I wouldn't give a damn.

 

Why? Because I'd already be dating and sleeping with her. That would be all the validation I need. I don't need to believe that she thinks I'm the hottest guy she's ever met. I would know that she is with me for other reasons than just my looks.

 

I think you would quickly be singing another tune when the girl with whom you were dating and sleeping encountered someone she WAS attracted to.

 

Being attracted to someone has nothing to do with them being the hottest person ever. Unless you see people in one dimension. As it's been pointed out more than once, most of us who are in relationships feel a strong attraction towards our partners even though we are easily able to see, objectively, that they're not so "hot."

 

Anyway, this OP expresses a great deal of disdain and zero care for the girl he's dating. Yuck.

[ThaWholigan]

That I have not done or said anything close.

 

As for the main theme of this thread, if I were dating a girl who wasn't 100% attracted to me and she said that I was a 5 out of 10, I wouldn't give a damn.

 

Why? Because I'd already be dating and sleeping with her. That would be all the validation I need. I don't need to believe that she thinks I'm the hottest guy she's ever met. I would know that she is with me for other reasons than just my looks.

That's your desperation talking.

[Ross MwcFan]

Every girl wants to feel like her boyfriend thinks she is the prettiest woman. You bluntly said she was average in front of her and your friends, which looks like it embarrassed her. So yes, I see why she is upset.

She didn't used to be bothered by you hanging out with those women but now she feels threatened because she knows they are your type physically and she is not, as you said. So of course she feels threatened and upset. I don't know why she wouldn't.

 

Isn't 6 above average?

 

I'd be over the moon if someone who had saw me offline told me I was a 6.

[JuneJulySeptember]

I think you would quickly be singing another tune when the girl with whom you were dating and sleeping encountered someone she WAS attracted to.

 

Being attracted to someone has nothing to do with them being the hottest person ever. Unless you see people in one dimension. As it's been pointed out more than once, most of us who are in relationships feel a strong attraction towards our partners even though we are easily able to see, objectively, that they're not so "hot."

 

Anyway, this OP expresses a great deal of disdain and zero care for the girl he's dating. Yuck.

 

Things that women have said to me or my male friends

 

"I wasn't attracted to you at first, but you grew on me."

 

"I think you're OK, but not hot."

 

"You're cute but not good looking."

 

"I don't really like you for your looks. It's more than about looks."

 

I've heard a few women on here utter similar things when describing their men. If you're going to bash someone for being insensitive, then YOU stop doing it.

[bac]

I like her personality, her morals (a virgins always nice), her brain (she's smart as hell), she's a med student (nice future), she's not a jealous person (well now she is).

 

IMO if she was kind of smart she would drop you as soon as possible.

She might have nice future as a medical doctor, but you are probably not the lucky guy who is going to have free dinners, expensive cars and nice houses on her money. There are too many guys who are smart enough to say that she is the most beautiful woman they have ever seen.

 

IMO There are nothing good about virgins if you want to enjoy sex during your marriage. But, Virgins are good for a position of a wife and mother because they are not interested in sex.

[Chief Wiggum]

On my scale, 6 is very average. The type that wouldn't turn your head on the street. Basically someone you wouldn't care existed. 7 is a good looking chick, 8 is stunner, 9 is a straight up model, and 10 doesn't exist because no woman is THAT perfect.

 

So, basically, Kev's just gone and told his missus that she's average (even below it) and that he's probably only with her because he can't or hasn't done better yet.

[somedude81]

I think you would quickly be singing another tune when the girl with whom you were dating and sleeping encountered someone she WAS attracted to.

As long as she doesn't cheat on me, I wouldn't care. I know there would be tons of hotter guys out there but she likes me for me.

Being attracted to someone has nothing to do with them being the hottest person ever. Unless you see people in one dimension. As it's been pointed out more than once, most of us who are in relationships feel a strong attraction towards our partners even though we are easily able to see, objectively, that they're not so "hot."

This topic is purely about looks. It's why the guy got in trouble, for saying that his GF is a 6 out of 10.

 

Maybe she has a great personality or they get along very well, but that doesn't mean she's suddenly more attractive to him. He still thinks she's a 6 no matter how cool she is.

 

In all honesty, the girl I was absolutely obsessed with for two years and spoke about very often on this forum, I considered her a 6, maybe a 7 if she ever dressed up. Of course I would never tell her that.

Edited January 9, 2013 by somedude81

[AD1980]

Which is why even at 32 and almost no sucess with women i rejected a women i knew but havent seen in maybe 10 years a few weeks ago..

 

You cant force attraction its not fair to you or the other person.Id rather be alone the rest of my life then settle for somebody im just going through the motions with intimately and not really all that turned on by her..

[Kevn]

he doesn't care about his girlfriend.

 

If I didn't care about her, then I wouldn't be with her. It's not like there are no other options out there.

 

Someone should rate the OP's penis a 6/10. How would he like that? And if you're too focused on porn 85% of the time, you're probably not a good lover either.

 

A) She wouldn't say that because she would be too embarrassed.

B) She doesn't think that. She is very happy with my size. She has expressed this frequently.

C) I know that it's not.

D) If she happened to say that at the table no one would believe her because she is completely inexperienced, so what does she know. And considering I've hooked up with some friends who were very happy with my size (and performance) they would know better.

E) Considering she orgasms nearly every time we have sex (sex only, not from oral) it's safe to assume I'm a good lover. And no, she is not faking. I can tell when she fakes it.

 

Why are you "hanging out" with other women that are "your type?" How come you don't understand why she would be upset

 

Why do you date her?

 

She had to have known that I wasn't attracted to her. She knew she wasn't my type. What I'm saying is that she should not be upset over something that she already knew. She knows that she is attractive, just not to me. If I'm with her that obviously shows that I like her for something (personality).

 

I can hang out with whatever women I want... There is no law that you cannot hang out with other women when you have a girlfriend. I can't help it that my friends are my type. I didn't choose the way they look.

 

I've already answered why I date her. I like her personality, morals, intelligence, future.

 

Yeah the lesson here is if ever asked something like that, your woman is a 10/10 without question.

 

I've already said that I said it without thinking. I was hardly listening to the dumb conversation.

 

Most porn addicts do have the emotional range of a teaspoon.

 

I'm not a porn addict. I've always came very easily with ex's and hook ups. The difference was I was attracted to them.

 

She doesn't know the difference anyway. She thinks it NORMAL for guys to watch porn during sex. Being inexperienced, she doesn't know any better. So it's not hurting her.

 

Seriously, break up with this poor girl before you cause any more harm.

 

To everyone telling me to break up with her, do you really think that would make her happy? NO. If she wanted to break up with me, she would. She obviously does not. Breaking up with her would hurt her. She is attached as hell. I'm her first boyfriend and took her virginity, she thinks we're going to be together forever. She wanted to wait until marriage or something I don't know, but breaking up with her would do more harm than good.

 

+ I don't want to break up with her.

 

IMO if she was kind of smart she would drop you as soon as possible.

 

IMO There are nothing good about virgins if you want to enjoy sex during your marriage. But, Virgins are good for a position of a wife and mother because they are not interested in sex.

 

Book smart, not street smart.

 

That statement is invalid. She wants to have sex nearly every time we are together (few times a week). She wants it more than I do.

 

Virgins are better IMO because

A) They haven't slept around with everyone

B) They are a fresh slate. You can teach them however you want to.

[serial muse]

If I didn't care about her, then I wouldn't be with her. It's not like there are no other options out there.

 

 

 

A) She wouldn't say that because she would be too embarrassed.

B) She doesn't think that. She is very happy with my size. She has expressed this frequently.

C) I know that it's not.

D) If she happened to say that at the table no one would believe her because she is completely inexperienced, so what does she know. And considering I've hooked up with some friends who were very happy with my size (and performance) they would know better.

E) Considering she orgasms nearly every time we have sex (sex only, not from oral) it's safe to assume I'm a good lover. And no, she is not faking. I can tell when she fakes it.

 

 

 

She had to have known that I wasn't attracted to her. She knew she wasn't my type. What I'm saying is that she should not be upset over something that she already knew. She knows that she is attractive, just not to me. If I'm with her that obviously shows that I like her for something (personality).

 

I can hang out with whatever women I want... There is no law that you cannot hang out with other women when you have a girlfriend. I can't help it that my friends are my type. I didn't choose the way they look.

 

I've already answered why I date her. I like her personality, morals, intelligence, future.

 

 

 

I've already said that I said it without thinking. I was hardly listening to the dumb conversation.

 

 

 

I'm not a porn addict. I've always came very easily with ex's and hook ups. The difference was I was attracted to them.

 

She doesn't know the difference anyway. She thinks it NORMAL for guys to watch porn during sex. Being inexperienced, she doesn't know any better. So it's not hurting her.

 

 

 

To everyone telling me to break up with her, do you really think that would make her happy? NO. If she wanted to break up with me, she would. She obviously does not. Breaking up with her would hurt her. She is attached as hell. I'm her first boyfriend and took her virginity, she thinks we're going to be together forever. She wanted to wait until marriage or something I don't know, but breaking up with her would do more harm than good.

 

+ I don't want to break up with her.

 

 

 

Book smart, not street smart.

 

That statement is invalid. She wants to have sex nearly every time we are together (few times a week). She wants it more than I do.

 

Virgins are better IMO because

A) They haven't slept around with everyone

B) They are a fresh slate. You can teach them however you want to.

 

OP. You asked a question right up there in the thread title: Should a girl get upset about this. You don't like the answer - YES - but that's the majority answer. That's honesty too. So, perhaps you can take that knowledge away from this thread and find it useful somehow. Otherwise, you're just doing exactly what you're complaining about (don't ask a question you don't want the answer to; or else, just appreciate the honesty). Who's the hypocrite here?

[Kevn]

OP. You asked a question right up there in the thread title: Should a girl get upset about this. You don't like the answer - YES - but that's the majority answer. That's honesty too. So, perhaps you can take that knowledge away from this thread and find it useful somehow. Otherwise, you're just doing exactly what you're complaining about (don't ask a question you don't want the answer to; or else, just appreciate the honesty). Who's the hypocrite here?

 

She didn't ask. She has never asked me to rate her or asked if I think she is pretty, hot, etc. Because she doesn't want to know the answer probably. So she already knew I wasn't attracted to her.

 

Should a girl be upset if her boyfriend says that she is a 6 and it's a surprise to her? Sure. But should a girl be upset if her boyfriend tells her something that she already knew? No.

[serial muse]

She didn't ask. She has never asked me to rate her or asked if I think she is pretty, hot, etc. Because she doesn't want to know the answer probably. So she already knew I wasn't attracted to her.

 

Should a girl be upset if her boyfriend says that she is a 6 and it's a surprise to her? Sure. But should a girl be upset if her boyfriend tells her something that she already knew? No.

 

Why did you ask the rest of us if you didn't want to know our opinions?

 

Mine is that either way, she has a right to her own feelings, and frankly, you put it out there in a really bald way that she probably hadn't considered before. A cold hard rating scale is different from "you're not my physical type." Don't pretend that you don't see the sense in that. Also, you did it in front of other people, too. Both of those things = she has a right to feel upset.

 

I know you don't like that answer, but that is the answer. Don't ask if you don't want to know.

[veggirl]

Most people are probably around a "6". but you don't say that to your girlfriend, it's just kinda mean, esp when other people are commenting on "10s"! I mean I bet most the people responding to this thread are around a "5 or 6" but if they posted their pic they'd be told they are totally good looking cause...well, its more polite even if its not true. I mean your gf knows how attractive she is or is not, its just rude to point it out esp when she didnt even ask!

[Kevn]

Most people are probably around a "6". but you don't say that to your girlfriend, it's just kinda mean, esp when other people are commenting on "10s"!

 

Everyone at that table already knew she wasn't my type. It wasn't a surprise to anyone. Everyone was surprised when I started dating her, because they know she is not my type.

 

But the people who were told they are a 10 know better. If I were to rate myself, I'd give me a 6-7. That's average. I'm not hurt by it.

[Els]

This topic is purely about looks. It's why the guy got in trouble, for saying that his GF is a 6 out of 10.

 

This topic is NOT about looks. It's about learning how to respond to awkward social situations without sounding like a dickwad and embarrassing your gf in front of her friends. Unfortunately, to learn, one must first agree that one handled things wrongly, which the OP doesn't even sound willing to do. He clearly made this thread to try and convince himself that he's right, not to get any genuine opinions, though, so I can't see why all of us are wasting our time on him.

[Kevn]

This topic is NOT about looks. It's about learning how to respond to awkward social situations without sounding like a dickwad and embarrassing your gf in front of her friends. Unfortunately, to learn, one must first agree that one handled things wrongly, which the OP doesn't even sound willing to do. He clearly made this thread to try and convince himself that he's right, not to get any genuine opinions, though, so I can't see why all of us are wasting our time on him.

 

Did I handle things wrong? Sure. Did I purposely hurt her? No. Did I think that what I was about to say was going to hurt her? No. I could have said a 10. But everyone including her would have known I was lying, so what is the point in that. Then we would go home and she would ask me what I really think of her or if I was being honest. Either way, same result.

[Mme. Chaucer]

Being attracted to someone has nothing to do with them being the hottest person ever. Unless you see people in one dimension. As it's been pointed out more than once, most of us who are in relationships feel a strong attraction towards our partners even though we are easily able to see, objectively, that they're not so "hot."

 

 

This topic is purely about looks. It's why the guy got in trouble, for saying that his GF is a 6 out of 10.

 

OMG. Are you being deliberately obtuse, or do you really have trouble getting simple things?

 

Attraction between people is NOT "purely about looks." It simply is NOT. Every single one of us in good relationships can tell you that there are "hotter" people than our partners. If we were inclined to rate our loved one on a numerical scale (which I believe and hope that most of us would not ever think of doing), I'm sure that plenty of our partners would not get a high number. but that WE ARE STILL HIGHLY ATTRACTED TO OUR PARTNERS.

 

This OP says he is NOT ATTRACTED TO HER. And he is deliberate about making sure she knows that.

 

That is death to a relationship. And gross.

 

And, that's the real truth.

[Els]

Did I handle things wrong? Sure. Did I purposely hurt her? No. Did I think that what I was about to say was going to hurt her? No. I could have said a 10. But everyone including her would have known I was lying, so what is the point in that. Then we would go home and she would ask me what I really think of her or if I was being honest. Either way, same result.

 

You did not HAVE to lie. Many of us have suggested ways in which you could have blown off the question. And if you cared about her, you would have apologized after tripping up. Which you did not even bother to do.

 

The bigger question is, do you actually love her? Would you still want to be with her if a 'hotter' girl suddenly expressed interest in you?

[Mme. Chaucer]

This topic is NOT about looks. It's about learning how to respond to awkward social situations without sounding like a dickwad and embarrassing your gf in front of her friends.

 

Yes, that's what it's about. He treated her like garbage.

 

 

And it's also about carrying on a relationship with a person you're not attracted to AT ALL, to the point where porn is necessary for sex. Not because of any sexual issues he may have - but because he's not attracted to her.

 

Can you IMAGINE?

 

What do you think this girl could possibly be getting out of dealing with that every day? We're talking about the "cutest" girl in high school - I'm sure there are many guys who would find her lust inducing while at the same time appreciating her inner beauty.