Kevn Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I'm 24 and I've been seeing a 22 year old for a few months. We were out with some friends and one fellow said a girl that walked in was a 10/10. His girlfriend asked him what she was, and he responded with a 10/10. Then this just kept going around the table. My girlfriend didn't ask me what I thought she was, but my friends girlfriend did. Without thinking I said "mm.. 6, maybe 5." When I looked over at her maybe 30 seconds later, she was on the verge of crying. She's not an ugly girl, she's just not my type physically per se. She looks innocent and beachy, if that makes sense. She got voted "cutest" in high school for the grade 12 year book. Other girls got "most beautiful" "prettiest", etc. Now she is upset all the time (it's been 5 days). She gets upset now when I hang out with other women that she knows are my type. She never use to have a care in the world. It's annoying.
VenusDoom Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 So wait, you tell a girl the equivalent that you don't find her very attractive, and she's the one with the problem? You got some learnin to do. 15
Brunettie Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Every girl wants to feel like her boyfriend thinks she is the prettiest woman. You bluntly said she was average in front of her and your friends, which looks like it embarrassed her. So yes, I see why she is upset. She didn't used to be bothered by you hanging out with those women but now she feels threatened because she knows they are your type physically and she is not, as you said. So of course she feels threatened and upset. I don't know why she wouldn't. 9
soccerrprp Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I'm 24 and I've been seeing a 22 year old for a few months. We were out with some friends and one fellow said a girl that walked in was a 10/10. His girlfriend asked him what she was, and he responded with a 10/10. Then this just kept going around the table. My girlfriend didn't ask me what I thought she was, but my friends girlfriend did. Without thinking I said "mm.. 6, maybe 5." When I looked over at her maybe 30 seconds later, she was on the verge of crying. She's not an ugly girl, she's just not my type physically per se. She looks innocent and beachy, if that makes sense. She got voted "cutest" in high school for the grade 12 year book. Other girls got "most beautiful" "prettiest", etc. Now she is upset all the time (it's been 5 days). She gets upset now when I hang out with other women that she knows are my type. She never use to have a care in the world. It's annoying. Dude! You are messed up! LOL! I am confused. Why are YOU confused as to why your gf is not on good terms with you now???? Or that she is upset???? I am wondering if you're looking for something better. Are you? If so, let her go to find someone more sensitive and interested....sheesh. 6
Fondue Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 You were put into a lose-lose situation, bro. It was ****ty for her friend to ask you that. If I saw that conversation approaching, I would have probably excused myself to the bathroom or something prior to being asked.
KungFuJoe Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 For future reference, just say you don't believe in those stupid rating scales. But too late for that now. You better start kissing some MAJOR ass. 5
MrCastle Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 You were put into a lose-lose situation, bro. It was ****ty for her friend to ask you that. If I saw that conversation approaching, I would have probably excused myself to the bathroom or something prior to being asked. Yeah her friend messed up asking such a shallow question, but he could have easily said 10, just to stay out of the dog house. Lol, if someone ever called me a 6, we're gonna have some problems. 3
AMusing Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 When asked how attractive your girlfriend is (by her or anyone else), always always always say she's beautiful (at least in your eyes). That really shouldn't be a lie. If you really think she's average, why are you with her? Those kinds of comments cut deep for a young woman. Out of curiosity, were your other friends being so harsh/honest in their ratings? 3
darkmoon Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 so if she's not your type - why are you dating her? 4
xxoo Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 To quote Thumper, "If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say nothin' at all." "Maybe 5"? Seriously??! If you want to avoid the question, just say an obvious lie....like "85"....and stick to that answer. Opt out of the game. 5
Author Kevn Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 So wait, you tell a girl the equivalent that you don't find her very attractive, and she's the one with the problem? You got some learnin to do. It's not like she didn't know that I wasn't attracted to her. I've never been straight up and said it but I've never called her pretty, beautiful, hot, sexy, etc. At most I'll tell her she looks good when she dresses up. It must be common sense that I wasn't attracted to her. She knows of a few of my ex's, who look nothing like her. Put 1 + 1 together, right? I watch porn 85% of the time when we have sex otherwise it's very unlikely I'll come! If that doesn't say "I don't find you attractive" then I don't know what does. In her defence she was a virgin before we had sex but still. I feel that she shouldn't be upset over something that she had to have known. I am wondering if you're looking for something better. Are you? If so, let her go to find someone more sensitive and interested....sheesh. I'll admit I'd be happier if she were more my type, but excluding the physical she is near perfect. Like any human I find myself attracted to other women but I have never liked another woman's personality as much as I do my girlfriends.
newmoon Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 she would be hurt, sure. and some guys would purposely rate their gf a 'lower' number so she doesn't get an inflated opinion of herself. it's a bit of control; mess with her confidence and she'll hang around you longer thinking that other guys might see her the same way. it boosts the guys' confidence in a way
TheZebra Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 'She should have known'?? Seriously? If a guy is with me and he's my boyfriend, I'm always going to assume he's attractive to me and finds me physically attractive. If he isn't, then he should be with someone else. Please let this poor woman go. She deserves someone who adores her, not someone who is 'meh' about her. My God, you have the emotional range of a teaspoon... 12
KungFuJoe Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 'She should have known'?? Seriously? If a guy is with me and he's my boyfriend, I'm always going to assume he's attractive to me and finds me physically attractive. If he isn't, then he should be with someone else. Please let this poor woman go. She deserves someone who adores her, not someone who is 'meh' about her. My God, you have the emotional range of a teaspoon... Agreed. Op, just break up with her. Do her a favor. 2
Author Kevn Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 so if she's not your type - why are you dating her? I like her personality, her morals (a virgins always nice), her brain (she's smart as hell), she's a med student (nice future), she's not a jealous person (well now she is).
veggirl Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Oh geez. Kevn...could you be any dumber about this?! 6
D-Lish Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I hope she posts here about how much of a jerk her bf is so we can help her find her way to break up with her insensitive, unworthy partner. 11
edgygirl Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I like her personality, her morals (a virgins always nice), her brain (she's smart as hell), she's a med student (nice future), she's not a jealous person (well now she is). I have the impression she won't be dating you for long... 2
xxoo Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 It's not like she didn't know that I wasn't attracted to her. I've never been straight up and said it but I've never called her pretty, beautiful, hot, sexy, etc. At most I'll tell her she looks good when she dresses up. It must be common sense that I wasn't attracted to her. She knows of a few of my ex's, who look nothing like her. Put 1 + 1 together, right? You are dating her, and sleeping with her. It should be common sense that you are attracted to her. So much for common sense. 2
Author Kevn Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 I like her personality, her morals (a virgins always nice), her brain (she's smart as hell), she's a med student (nice future), she's not a jealous person (well now she is). I have the impression she won't be dating you for long... There's nothing wrong with the reasons that I like her.
Author Kevn Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 You are dating her, and sleeping with her. It should be common sense that you are attracted to her. So much for common sense. Guys sleep with girls they aren't attracted to all the time. Sex is sex.
edgygirl Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I watch porn 85% of the time when we have sex otherwise it's very unlikely I'll come! If that doesn't say "I don't find you attractive" then I don't know what does. In her defence she was a virgin before we had sex but still. I feel that she shouldn't be upset over something that she had to have known. :sick: 1
Author Kevn Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 I hope she posts here about how much of a jerk her bf is so we can help her find her way to break up with her insensitive, unworthy partner. So honesty is being a jerk now?
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