someguy581 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 So, I've been working with a girl for some time, and can now say that my interest in her has grown by leaps and bounds over the past month or so. (disclaimer: my company does not have a policy against this kind of thing, and I'm open to dating a co-worker though so many seem to say not to.) What I do know is that I plan on asking her to spend time out of work sometime soon, but what I do not know is if I am interpreting certain things the right way, and am only going on certain things I've learned as well as heard during my 31 years on this earth. Basically, we work in a company which is human service based, and there is seldom time for leisurely conversation/flirting aside from lunch or time before and after work. This ensures that we are often expected to be concerned with the people we serve, which I fully agree with. However, this makes decoding possible signs of interest EXTREMELY difficult sometimes. We do not work in the same area, but when I have had to help in her department I have struck up many a conversation with her about musical interests, astrology, asked what her sign is, where she is from, and complimented her a time or two which was well-received with a big smile. Also, jokes I've made have seemed to be received with generous laughter, the kind of laughter that seems to come from something pretty damn funny that I haven't typically seen from her. I've asked her so many questions at this point that I am fairly certain she sees I am interested in her, and I've also asked how her weekend was or if she did anything fun. To this, she responded in detail that it was quiet and she spent time with two of her girlfriends. This would be a few times now where responses have me convinced that she does not have a boyfriend. Everytime I see her, she greets me or even waves goodbye if seeing me drive out of the lot when going home. With this being said, do you believe she would be less receptive to my showing interest/questions if she were either not even a little interested in me, or given me such an elaborate answer about her weekend? Again, I'm taking a shot here in due time, I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I don't at least try. I'm just curious what some of you all think about this. Thanks.
MrCastle Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 So, I've been working with a girl for some time, and can now say that my interest in her has grown by leaps and bounds over the past month or so. Can the same be said on her end? Have the number of interested signs increased? I assume you don't have this lady's number, you don't know much about her, especially as to whether or not she has a boyfriend. Don't sweat this girl. If you feel you have enough evidence to go on, ask for her number, then ask her out. Don't sit around waiting for things to happen. Take action. The sooner you know she likes you/doesn't like you/is already taken, the better.
Author someguy581 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 I feel like I have seen more subtle signs of interest from her. Like I said..its hard to read because most times I see her she has her hands full with people she is helping. From our conversations, I am fairly certain she is single, as I have inquired about what she does with her free time a number of times. I'm certainly not waiting around all that long, but finding the opportunity to ask is difficult. I'm not entirely sure what means of asking her besides face to face if I have the rare opportunity after work would be good.
Samilia Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I feel like I have seen more subtle signs of interest from her. Like I said..its hard to read because most times I see her she has her hands full with people she is helping. From our conversations, I am fairly certain she is single, as I have inquired about what she does with her free time a number of times. I'm certainly not waiting around all that long, but finding the opportunity to ask is difficult. I'm not entirely sure what means of asking her besides face to face if I have the rare opportunity after work would be good. "hey I'm meeting friends at Applebee after work, do you want to join us?" That was you don't put her on the spot, but you get to talk to her outside of work.
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