Gianni1990 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 My girlfriend dumped me after almost 5 years. During the first weekend, I didn't want to accept her decision. She had been with me since we was 15 and she wanted to try new things. I was deeply in love with her, but she just txted me that she's not sure about our relationship. To be honest, 1 month before, I had the same feelings. Things were kind of getting boring with her. She was always grumbling about this and that and I passed through a period were I was gonna call it quits. But that period passed and all those strange feelings I had disappeared. Just when I returned to normal, she told me the sad news that she wanted to dump me. During the first weekend I was a train wreck. I cried. But after the weekend I just decided to delete this girl from FB and go on with my life. It's been 2 weeks now since I last txted her. I feel better but she's still on my mind and in my heart. No matter where I go, I just keep thinking I will accidentally bump into her. I'm not sure whether she feels the same, she's been pretty cold when I txted her. Anyway, we've got some mutual friends and that is when I almost broke down. I was browsing facebook and one of our mutual friends posted a picture of him, her and another two guys on FB. They might be just friends but it still made me feel sooooo bad. How can I deal with this? How can I not give a **** when I eventually see my ex with her next boyfriend? That is the thing that scares me the most. I know I will feel really bad.
Samilia Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 My girlfriend dumped me after almost 5 years. During the first weekend, I didn't want to accept her decision. She had been with me since we was 15 and she wanted to try new things. I was deeply in love with her, but she just txted me that she's not sure about our relationship. To be honest, 1 month before, I had the same feelings. Things were kind of getting boring with her. She was always grumbling about this and that and I passed through a period were I was gonna call it quits. But that period passed and all those strange feelings I had disappeared. Just when I returned to normal, she told me the sad news that she wanted to dump me. During the first weekend I was a train wreck. I cried. But after the weekend I just decided to delete this girl from FB and go on with my life. It's been 2 weeks now since I last txted her. I feel better but she's still on my mind and in my heart. No matter where I go, I just keep thinking I will accidentally bump into her. I'm not sure whether she feels the same, she's been pretty cold when I txted her. Anyway, we've got some mutual friends and that is when I almost broke down. I was browsing facebook and one of our mutual friends posted a picture of him, her and another two guys on FB. They might be just friends but it still made me feel sooooo bad. How can I deal with this? How can I not give a **** when I eventually see my ex with her next boyfriend? That is the thing that scares me the most. I know I will feel really bad. 5 years is a long time, a decent chuck of life. Try and decide that you will go on without her for a year and see where you're at then. It might be that you both need to experience life. You said it yourself, you had similar feelings about the relationship. I'm not saying that you should hang on to the hope of a reconciliation, but I would just give a try to being single and young, see where it takes you. It might turn out that you're happier, or might be that she'll change her mind. Based on what you said, either way, I do think that this break, permanent or not, is for the best.
HeyHey Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Sorry to hear this . Your still young and I'm sure you will be fine . Sounds like rubbish/basic advice but give it time , you'll be OK !!
Author Gianni1990 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Thanks guys, such messages always warm my heart. Yeah 5 years is a long time. But in reality I was trying to escape from her on some occasions. I didn't talk to her as much as she would've wanted lately. Still when she told me we'll be breaking up, I felt really really bad. That showed I still loved her dearly. I had my doubts about whether I loved her, but the feeling I got when I got dumped certainly showed that I really loved her and I still do. I'm moving on though. Blocked her off FB. Started writing my feelings on a private journal and I honestly feel better. The thing is that when I will eventually see her with another guy, the pain I'll probably feel in my heart will be too much to take. I dread the day that happens. I'm too afraid of that day, actually.
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