PhillyDude Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 If I send happy monday, good morning, have a nice day. No comment Today I send this and got a reply in 3 mins "I;m not liking don't I like the vibe I been getting from your text messages lately and you I think you need to fix that. Talk to you later" Her reply...."you are funny" When I sent text saying....."Happy Monday, How is your day going" NOTHING LOL. Women like controversial messages 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CptSaveAho Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 drama = love.... why nice guys finish last... they are boring you did 2 good things, "stirred the pot" (drama) and you told her how it was... she needed to fix her attitude around you... good things to do 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MrCastle Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Well, yeah. Controversial messages almost always generate replies, but they don't generate success (See: 'Sex'). I suppose if you don't mind burning your bridges, you can tell a woman off. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
CptSaveAho Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Here's the thing most people on this forum do not understand A women will respect you if you tell her like it is (tell her off if she misbehaves)... There's no need to be a "nice" guy to them... reward their good behavior by being nice, dont give it to them freely 2 Link to post Share on other sites
VenusDoom Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 How does this apply strictly to women? Of course people respond to controversial messages faster. If a woman texts me "hey, what's up?" and I'm busy doing something, I probably won't reply. What am I going to say anyway? "lol nothin u?" If she sends me a message saying "why are you such an ******* that never answers me? WTF dude.." That's going to get a reply more times than not. It's not any indicator of success though. If a woman messaged me that, it probably be our last conversation. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
40 Fonzarelli Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Not really negative messages, but messages that get her emotions rolling. Guys would be perfectly fine with a girl that texts regular messages. Girls on the other hand might get bored and think he's too nice. Women love emotional roller coasters which is why if they get too bored, they stir up drama for fun. Sad but true. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted January 9, 2013 Author Share Posted January 9, 2013 Not really negative messages, but messages that get her emotions rolling. Guys would be perfectly fine with a girl that texts regular messages. Girls on the other hand might get bored and think he's too nice. Women love emotional roller coasters which is why if they get too bored, they stir up drama for fun. Sad but true. I;m about to become a full-time fetishist and retire from dating. Too aggravating Link to post Share on other sites
NoMoreJerks Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 It's called Dread. From that site: "Like it or not, the threat of a looming breakup, whether the facts justify it or not, will spin her into a paranoid estrogen-fueled tizzy, and she’ll spend every waking second thinking about you, thinking about the relationship, thinking about how to fix it. Her love for you will blossom under these conditions. Result: she works harder to please you." Nope, sorry, this is not gonna do it for me. I have experienced this sort of manipulation, the ever-looming threat of break-up which my ex used to dangle around every so often.. nope. Just pure emotional blackmail and abuse, and emotionally draining. In the end, I was ready to throw in the towel. It was less a relationship and more a constant tug of war between his attmepts to blackmail me into submission and my desire to break free and my feelings for him (which didn't let me leave him). In retrospect, I *WANTED* to break free. I just didn't know it, didn't know how to do it, didn't want to feel the pain and loss, and was scared of being lonely. That is all that ever kept me in the relationship: not the constant threat of break-ups. No, I will not take that **** from anyone, ever. Link to post Share on other sites
NoMoreJerks Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 (edited) I usually respond to texts promptly. There are several circumstances in which I do not respond to texts right away, and may take up to a day to respond: 1) I am extremely busy , and by that , I don't even mean , sitting in an office or at home and doing some work. I mean, actually running around all day long. I have had days like that. My ex was a douchebag who wouldn't understand that. He expected me to respond right away to texts, and when I didn't, he would accuse me of giving him the silent treatment. Paranoid much? It's almost like he wanted to control every minute of my day. And he had the audacity to then accuse ME of being needy, controlling, reducing his freedoms, etc....... Of course, if I was so busy and running around, and he texted me a break-up mssg, I would be so shocked and would stop for a few seconds and just wonder what the hell just happened, and ask for an explanation, but it doesn't mean I responded to the "negative" mssg because I dig drama. That said, I usually try to take a few seconds to respond to short texts even when I'm incredibly busy, but sometimes it just so happens that I completely forget, or am too overwhelmed with 20 people asking for different stuff from me. 2) I am upset because he was VERY disrespectful to me the last time we were together, or the last time we spoke on the phone or texted, and he acted like nothing was wrong (deliberately), despite knowing that he had been rude/disrespectful. For example, my ex promised for a month that he would come visit me over Christmas, and I put off my plan to visit my sister. He then told me he was late in booking his flight and the tickets had gotten too expensive, so he couldn't come.. No apology for ruining my holiday plans, though. I was pissed off. Not only that, but he had the audacity to tell me he would come visit me mid-January. He just assumed that I would want him to come visit me, after the manner in which he had treated me,AND that I can even accommodate him / wasn't too busy mid-January. It was all about what was convenient for him. When he texted me that he would come mid-January, I did not reply to the text, because I was fuming, and didn't really want to have a fight over text. I also didn't want to let it go just like that, because that would send the wrong mssg to him, that I was a pushover. So I thought I'd leave it for a while, and talk to him about it later on over the phone... in the hopes that he'd provide a more convincing explanation and maybe an apology...... he was angry that I didn't reply, and emailed me, telling me "Looks like we're finished." Really? That sounds like manipulation to me. You blow someone off, do not apologize, make alternate plans without even consulting her, then when she doesn't reply to that mssg for a day(but sends you other text mssges about other things), you break up with her? Sounds like someone has issues! 3) It was something that was so thought-provoking that I would've wanted to take my time to reply... or a very nice text that I just didn't know how to respond to. I mean, should I address the stuff he said? Or just acknowledge receiving the mssg , and then talk abut something else? WHen I am not sure what the best course of action is, I tend to procrastinate on sending the text. Edited January 9, 2013 by NoMoreJerks Link to post Share on other sites
Mrlonelyone Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Here's the thing most people on this forum do not understand A women will respect you if you tell her like it is (tell her off if she misbehaves)... There's no need to be a "nice" guy to them... reward their good behavior by being nice, dont give it to them freely But what if "Happy monday and good morning sunshine." is what a man is really feeling? Suppose there is nothing to b1tch about? Link to post Share on other sites
CptSaveAho Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 But what if "Happy monday and good morning sunshine." is what a man is really feeling? Suppose there is nothing to b1tch about? Then don't say anything... that dread link was funny. What that guy wrote in it is NOT wrong. Why do you think women love jerk's / *******s... because they give women what they need... emotional "high highs and low lows" Look at this thread for example... she ignored his nice text... she responded to his ass holish text How many women posts do you see on this forum where the women complain that the guy hasnt texted her for 2-3-4 days.... Those are the "low lows" its a good thing Link to post Share on other sites
SpiralOut Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 ahh good old negging. that's a player thing. so of course you'll get women responding to it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CptSaveAho Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 This wasn't a neg he basically stated, I dont like the way you treat me... im disappointed in your behavior... and you will change it. This is what men do... not players Link to post Share on other sites
NoMoreJerks Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 That's pure and simple mindf*ckery and attention-whoring. And yes, there are just as many men doing this sort of attention-whoring as there are women. It's pathetic, it's a turn-off, and no, I am not playing ball with people who try to play mind games with me. They should grow the f*ck up and act like mature adults, not 14 year old brats. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Radu Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 It depends what kind of a woman you want. If you are ok with waiting for the one that is really worth it, then by all means you should stop playing games in a relationship and use the emotional highs and lows ideea to create emotions in her without making it seem like the relationship is on the line. If you want to occupy yourself with other things while you wait, then you need to learn how to play games, as in cause serious emotional highs and lows in her because many women do in fact respond to this crap. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Eternal Sunshine Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Reply doesn't mean a thing though. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 ahh good old negging. that's a player thing. so of course you'll get women responding to it. I guy tried to pull this on me once. He had my number, we had some chats on OLD first then went over to text. He turned nasty because I hadn't texted him over the weekend so he flew into a rage and after a couple of insults demanded meeting up for sex Of course his anger surprised me and ever more that fact I realised he was a psycho. We exchanged a handful of texts and I wished him well. So yeah, he got responses from a complete stranger but ultimately it was to tell him to go away. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
phineas Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Here's the thing most people on this forum do not understand A women will respect you if you tell her like it is (tell her off if she misbehaves)... There's no need to be a "nice" guy to them... reward their good behavior by being nice, dont give it to them freely Sadly this. I've had disrespectful not that into me women want me months later after I called them on their poor behavior & froze them out for months. How does this apply strictly to women? Of course people respond to controversial messages faster. If a woman texts me "hey, what's up?" and I'm busy doing something, I probably won't reply. What am I going to say anyway? "lol nothin u?" If she sends me a message saying "why are you such an ******* that never answers me? WTF dude.." That's going to get a reply more times than not. It's not any indicator of success though. If a woman messaged me that, it probably be our last conversation. I'd tell her if she was better at BJ's or was giving me BJ's i'd probably be more apt to respond to her in a timely manner. But, i'd wait a day to do it. ROTFLMAO! Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Today I send this and got a reply in 3 mins "I;m not liking don't I like the vibe I been getting from your text messages lately and you I think you need to fix that. Talk to you later" Her reply...."you are funny" When I sent text saying....."Happy Monday, How is your day going" NOTHING LOL. Women like controversial messages No, if the boy cries wolf a few times people will tend to respond at first because they perceive a problem - and good people usually want to help somebody who's upset or has a problem. Keep doing that, and it'll get to the point where when nobody's going to respond to any distress or problem you present. Not even if it's a genuine crisis or you really need somebody to talk to. Better to be sparing with the pissy messages. If they're the only way you can get attention from a woman, then it's highly unlikely she has any interest in you. She's not going to suddenly develop an interest in you on account of whining, nagging texts you send. She'll just think you're a tosser. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Anela Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Looks like people don't know what "negging" is. No, we know what it is. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Taramere Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Looks like people don't know what "negging" is. It could be a backhanded compliment or mild insult that makes the recipient laugh. AKA the kind of good natured teasing well-socialised people learn to master as children. Or it could be a clanger that leads to a frosty, awkward pause and "don't invite that person to anything else" exchanges of glances between other parties. More likely if the person trying to do it is a hostile, poorly socialised sort of person who is trying to apply "negging theory" that they learned on the internet. In the following clip, a young man from Phillyberg attempts to come to terms with the inability of a normally socialised young woman to appreciate his superb and carefully worked out neg. Freak out - YouTube Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 "I;m not liking don't I like the vibe I been getting from your text messages lately and you I think you need to fix that. Talk to you later" If I could get past the grammar and actually figure out what you were trying to say, I'd first be annoyed that you texted me. I don't like texts. They're like mosquitoes. If you have something to say to me, call or email me. Otherwise let me go about my day. If you're pleasant, I'll reply. If you aren't, I'll ignore you. I would definitely ignore the above text message. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author PhillyDude Posted January 9, 2013 Author Share Posted January 9, 2013 "I;m not liking don't I like the vibe I been getting from your text messages lately and you I think you need to fix that. Talk to you later" If I could get past the grammar and actually figure out what you were trying to say, I'd first be annoyed that you texted me. I don't like texts. They're like mosquitoes. If you have something to say to me, call or email me. Otherwise let me go about my day. If you're pleasant, I'll reply. If you aren't, I'll ignore you. I would definitely ignore the above text message. It was a grammatical error. I was saying "I don't like the vibe I been getting from your texts lately and I think you need to fix that" Link to post Share on other sites
Treasa Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 It was a grammatical error. I was saying "I don't like the vibe I been getting from your texts lately and I think you need to fix that" Ah, ok. Well, I still don't like texting, but assuming I did, I would reply with, "What exactly don't you like?" However, I always reply to the nice emails/calls, too. I'm more likely to ignore negative crap unless I've actually done something wrong. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted January 9, 2013 Share Posted January 9, 2013 Dude, it is human nature to rear up and defend when attacked. Not just women. Not just men. ANYBODY will respond immediately and be defensive so zeroing in that just women will respond immediately to a jab is wrong and sexist. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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