areejjaved Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Hey! I've been in an on/off relationship for almost a year now and currently im in a relationship with the one i love the most in this world and i can do anything for him! Im 17 and he's 16.. Age really dont matter to me. The thing is that when we started our relationship everything was good.. We talked alot like ALOT!! Sometimes we used to be funny or sometimes we used to talk dirty but we never did stuff together.. One day i dont know what happened to him but he asked me get him a 'hot' picture, and im really not a hot type girl and i know it. I said no to him for that picture but then he was all like hurt and everything, used to say to me that i dont trust him thats why im not giving him that picture but then i got fed up of it and i gave him what he wanted but then he wanted more, he asked a naked picture of mine.. I again said no, and again he was like you cant even take a picture for me and blah blah.. I love him alot so i again compromised for him and gave him what he wanted. Then We arrange a meeting at my house when no one was at home, we decided to have our first kiss and thats all i really wanted at that moment. But when we met, we kissed and then we kissed again but then he also tried getting his hand under my shirt but i stopped him and then we hugged and i thought everything was fine but it wasnt.. After few days he made it a big issue. And i really didnt want to ruin things up.. So i said that the next we'll meet u can do what u want.. I always wanted to work things out right.. And then we met again, but we didnt do much and between this all he breakup with me every month and makeup at the start of new month.. He's with me again right now and we 're planning to meet and have a physical romance but im afraid that what if i again gave him what he wants and then still things dont get right and he leave me.. Im already broken and so as he thats what he says to me. I trust him with all my heart because when i met him for the first time i could see his love for me in his eyes. I just dont want to give him what he wants and let him leave like nothing ever happend.. So what should i do? Should i let him have sex with me and let things fixed or not? FYI: whenever i used to say no to him.. He blamed me for hurting me.. If i again mess up something he'll blame me again
clia Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 DO NOT EVER GIVE ANYONE NAKED PICTURES OF YOURSELF. Do you hear me? It isn't smart. Those pictures could end up anywhere. They could be on the Internet right now for all you know. Anyone who loves you will not pressure you to do such a thing. This guy is using you. Don't even think about having sex with him. I trust him with all my heart because when i met him for the first time i could see his love for me in his eyes. This is beyond ridiculous. He has not shown you in any way, shape or form that he loves you. Move on. Find someone who really does love you because it isn't this guy.
Author areejjaved Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 Really? I also feel stupid after thinking about the things that i did for him.. But he never fully appreciated it.. Keeps finding my mistakes in everything and make it a big issue, put blame on me and make me carry alot of guilt.. He keeps saying he love me.. Ahhh im not so strong at moving on from him
imfine Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Sweetie, do not have sex with this guy or give him any photos. Don't do anything you aren't ready or willing to do. If he cared for you, he wouldn't ask you to. Walk away from him now. It'll hurt, but not near as much as an unwanted pregnancy, STD or abusive relationship. You deserve someone that wants to talk, hang out & be with you for more than sex. There are good guys out there that will cherish you. Save yourself for the right one. This guy is a jerk & sex won't change that. You can't get your virginity back & he doesn't deserve it. You are as strong as you allow yourself to be.
VenusDoom Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Look, as an older guy, I'm going to tell you right now that if you have sex with this person, you will regret it and it will be a huge mistake. You'll be in far more pain in the future than the temporary hurt you feel right now. Because as I guy, I know the tendency of men, and I promise you that as soon as you have sex with this guy, he will grow distant, and eventually move on to the next girl in an attempt to get into HER pants. If he cared, he wouldn't rush you. He wouldn't make you feel bad for feeling shy or uncomfortable or not quite ready. Pull back, tell him that if he can't go slower he can leave and show him the door. Initially, you'll feel horrible, but later, you'll feel much better for it. 1
darkmoon Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 you'll know when your ready for physical intimacy, you will decide yes or no, he might have lovely eye expressions but the situation needs his lovely brain patience - my impression is that you are romantic with even the logical extention of a white wedding, so wait for better, so far the guy's upset you
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