Sarah89 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 (edited) Hey, I'm slightly confused about the current situation I'm in right now and I need advice, basically. So here's my story. There's a guy I've been meeting up with (parties, gatherings and going to his house, etc) for the past month now, I've seen him quite frequently to be honest and we've known each other for about 2 years. About a month ago me and my friend went to visit him and his friend, we both got on really well, like we clicked. He kissed me and things basically got intimate, but that's all. We met up again a week later back at our friends house and just had a nice evening together. At New Years I went to a party/gathering thing and he was there. About 20 minutes or so after I had arrived he came up to me, kissed me and told me he needed a word with me. He told me there was a girl there who he'd been leading on, but that was "nearly over" and he also told me he really liked me. He told me to sort of beware of the girl in case she got upset. Throughout the night he kept smiling at me (like a loving smile) but that was it, I guess. After meeting up these 3 times he had been messaging me via text, like it would always be him first. He'd asked to meet me in town, and told me he couldn't stop thinking about me. He invited me to his house the other day, so I went and he made me dinner. I wear a piece of jewellery quite special to me (its got my initial on it) and he asked to look after it until the next time he saw me. There's one thing he hates, and that's texting. But recently he hasn't been texting me, which is slightly weird and it's almost like he can't be bothered to make the effort (even if he likes me). And he's 100% sure he likes me more than I like him, which makes the effort thing weirder. I know he needs his own space to breathe, but you've got the make the effort if you like someone, right? But another thing is, he told me from the beginning he doesn't want a relationship, like what. Some guys are just like that? He told me he doesn't want anyone else, I dunno that's sort of contradicting what he said about not wanting a relationship. He went to a gathering with some of my friends a few days ago (I couldn't go), and stupidly drunkenly one of my friends tried to kiss him, and according to a close source to me, the guy I like said "no, I can't". Thoughts, please? I know it's a difficult one. I'd just like to know why sometimes he's interested in speaking to me but sometimes he doesn't speak to me for days, I haven't heard from him in days. If you like someone, you make the effort and message them? Or am I being too unreasonable? Edited January 8, 2013 by Sarah89
Author Sarah89 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 Anyone? I must look like I'm begging haha. I just need opinions. It's always me making the effort when it comes to texting, by the way, and now he's telling me he's busy for like the next week.
todreaminblue Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Anyone? I must look like I'm begging haha. I just need opinions. It's always me making the effort when it comes to texting, by the way, and now he's telling me he's busy for like the next week. the guy is a little left of center, but most guys are, just like most girls are,i hate texting too, but if i were in a relationship(or getting to know someone) I would make the effort, one, to text first sometimes, two, to text back when a text was sent...so i would keep it on equal footing...i think that's just simple courtesy, doesn't take a lot and even if i hate texting i take time to do it...and it takes me a long time sort of like me posting here...i still do it......grumbling as i correct dyslexic typing tendencies...still do it though...i am not a huge phone fan, cant seem to get off the thing when people ring, my ear gets sore...i think i talk too much and make other people talk too much.... seems like it isn't equal he sounds like a bit of work to get through to his heart, keep trying sometimes the best things in life might be free......doesn't mean you don't have to volunteer effort or time, give him a chance to settle a bit, if he doesnt settle and give as much as he gets, talk to him, tell him how you feel with honesty, and understanding, and see how it goes......early days yet......early days are sometimes are the most confusing so hang in there.....best wishes....hugs....deb
Author Sarah89 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 the guy is a little left of center, but most guys are, just like most girls are,i hate texting too, but if i were in a relationship(or getting to know someone) I would make the effort, one, to text first sometimes, two, to text back when a text was sent...so i would keep it on equal footing...i think that's just simple courtesy, doesn't take a lot and even if i hate texting i take time to do it...and it takes me a long time sort of like me posting here...i still do it......grumbling as i correct dyslexic typing tendencies...still do it though...i am not a huge phone fan, cant seem to get off the thing when people ring, my ear gets sore...i think i talk too much and make other people talk too much.... seems like it isn't equal he sounds like a bit of work to get through to his heart, keep trying sometimes the best things in life might be free......doesn't mean you don't have to volunteer effort or time, give him a chance to settle a bit, if he doesnt settle and give as much as he gets, talk to him, tell him how you feel with honesty, and understanding, and see how it goes......early days yet......early days are sometimes are the most confusing so hang in there.....best wishes....hugs....deb Thank you for your reply Yeah exactly, like I hate texting him (as it's mostly always me) first because I feel like I annoy him. Haha hate it when people can't spell too! No it's not equal, like he makes the effort when he sees me in person, but I'm the one who always makes the effort with a phone. I've spoken to him so he's aware of my feelings, but I really don't want him to lose interest I was literally having the same sort of convo with my friend today, early days are the most confusing for sure! And the most annoying, like I don't understand anything that's going on right now. What he necessarily wants or doesn't want or anything. Ah Thank you, I'll hang in there, hugs
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