thoughts in my head

[tinkerbash]

Just thoughts im having right now, So because he wanted to be friends for the short-term while he sorted things out with the mother of his kid (she said he wouldnt see her if he continued dating me even though she lives with another guy and is pregnant now) And i said i couldnt do that because i loves hm so much , i said bye i love you and he said he loves me too and always will, does that generally make me the dumper or dumpee? did he say the whole friends for now thing because he disnt want to be with me ? I have been N/C for 3 days now and every time my phone goes i hope its him saying he has changed his mind.... heard nothing we spoke all day before the BU and now the no contact is killing me.... the thought that this is actually it is killing me since we have been together since we were both kids.. on and off but no matter what we have ended up together, he said ths was fate then he goes and said all that... my head is a mess right now

[Coping Vortex]

Just thoughts im having right now, So because he wanted to be friends for the short-term while he sorted things out with the mother of his kid (she said he wouldnt see her if he continued dating me even though she lives with another guy and is pregnant now) And i said i couldnt do that because i loves hm so much , i said bye i love you and he said he loves me too and always will, does that generally make me the dumper or dumpee? did he say the whole friends for now thing because he disnt want to be with me ? I have been N/C for 3 days now and every time my phone goes i hope its him saying he has changed his mind.... heard nothing we spoke all day before the BU and now the no contact is killing me.... the thought that this is actually it is killing me since we have been together since we were both kids.. on and off but no matter what we have ended up together, he said ths was fate then he goes and said all that... my head is a mess right now

 

Sounds like you still have the power to get things back......but you will still have the problem that caused the break up that won't go away.

[tinkerbash]

yeah she definately wont , at the beginning i accepted she was always going to be involved in his life i understood, but she has moved on so why is it so bad for him to be able to do the same! she has honestly ruined my life. He will always be friends with me if he knows there is even a slight chance he may not get to have the same relationship with his daughter, its a no-brainer I'd be the same in a heartbeat! I just dont get the logic, hypocritical people and jealous people are the worlds poison

[Coping Vortex]

yeah she definately wont , at the beginning i accepted she was always going to be involved in his life i understood, but she has moved on so why is it so bad for him to be able to do the same! she has honestly ruined my life. He will always be friends with me if he knows there is even a slight chance he may not get to have the same relationship with his daughter, its a no-brainer I'd be the same in a heartbeat! I just dont get the logic, hypocritical people and jealous people are the worlds poison

 

So true. Sounds like if you can get past him you will be better off. I feel you. I have known my ex off and on for probably 6 years or more now (even with a two year gap) . To think I will never see or hear from her again seems unbelievable to me. She lives an hour and half away from here so its not like I will run into her at any time soon.

 

In your case i hear you when you say you have known him for so long and it will be weird not to have him in your life. But I guess it does happen. I guess people like up that have hearts and care seem to deal with thsi harder than others. Funny my ex doesn't seem like she has a tough bone in her body she almost seems emotionally weak (I can still remember a time we had a small fight and she begged me not to leave her) but not when it came to BU with me.

[tinkerbash]

I honestly sympathise although he had reason it feels like he could have fought for me and his right to move on, but he didnt, hi just gave up instantly texted me to tell me we had to be friends for now, i wasnt gunna be anyones secret or lie about the relationship as i was so in love with him this wasn't even a possibility! i am literally sitting in my house no music no tv on because everything makes me think oh he likes that song or oh yeah we used to watch this together- like you my ex lives about 40 mins away so we wont be bumping in to each other any time soon, i havent passed my test either thank god im actually greatful for once as i can imagine myself driving to see his face lol

[Coping Vortex]

I honestly sympathise although he had reason it feels like he could have fought for me and his right to move on, but he didnt, hi just gave up instantly texted me to tell me we had to be friends for now, i wasnt gunna be anyones secret or lie about the relationship as i was so in love with him this wasn't even a possibility! i am literally sitting in my house no music no tv on because everything makes me think oh he likes that song or oh yeah we used to watch this together- like you my ex lives about 40 mins away so we wont be bumping in to each other any time soon, i havent passed my test either thank god im actually greatful for once as i can imagine myself driving to see his face lol

 

I hear you. This is the toughest thing I had to endure. I think I let myself go with this woman more than any other. She has captured my heart behind what I thought possible. And I had many long term relationships over the years. Just something about her that was different.

[fixing]

wow, this must be so hard for you sweetie. Im not sure what advice i could offer tbh, your a beautiful girl. He would have to be a complete fool to lose you. And i think you are right to take such a strong stance. Your in love! He better reciprocate and commit imo.