geegirl Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I've realised that I wont ever move on. I was thinking what it will be like when I start dating again, and I couldn't, I felt guilty for even thinking about it! I'm an idiot for even being on here. I'm sure he isn't on forums discussing our break up. You keep revolving around him. Why are you an idiot for being on here? If it helps you, why not? You're here because you are hurt and invested. He isn't because he's not hurt or invested. Why the need to compare yourself?
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 You keep revolving around him. Why are you an idiot for being on here? If it helps you, why not? You're here because you are hurt and invested. He isn't because he's not hurt or invested. Why the need to compare yourself? Because thats what I always do. I don't know why I do it, I just do. I do it from the moment I wake up. I think things like 'I better get up now, bet he isn't still in bed'
geegirl Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Because thats what I always do. I don't know why I do it, I just do. I do it from the moment I wake up. I think things like 'I better get up now, bet he isn't still in bed' The next time that happens, snap yourself out of it rather than let it take over. Break the habit.
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 The next time that happens, snap yourself out of it rather than let it take over. Break the habit. How though?
TaraMaiden Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 By turning this - 'I better get up now, bet he isn't still in bed' Into this: ' I bet he isn't still in bed - so I'm gonna treat myself to a lie-in, sucker!!'
geegirl Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Just as Tara said. When the thoughts start turning to him, stop yourself and focus on you. You literally have to talk to yourself. Shut the devil down that is sitting on your shoulder.
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 I'm pretty sure I'm the only weirdo that does this.
geegirl Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I'm pretty sure I'm the only weirdo that does this. And stop belittling yourself. You're not the only one. It happens to everyone that suffers a broken heart. Thoughts always tend to gravitate to the them because you've just suffered losing them.
TaraMaiden Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I'm pretty sure I'm the only weirdo that does this. No, you're not. In fact, you sound completely sane and logical, compared to some others on this forum - so trust me, what you're doing is completely natural, and understandable. but you need to stop yourself mid-self-beating, because all you're doing is self-defeating. (I rival Henry Wadsworth Longfellow in the Poet stakes, you know... )
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 No, you're not. In fact, you sound completely sane and logical, compared to some others on this forum - so trust me, what you're doing is completely natural, and understandable. but you need to stop yourself mid-self-beating, because all you're doing is self-defeating. (I rival Henry Wadsworth Longfellow in the Poet stakes, you know... ) Really? I don't feel it! I got really angry today, I mean scary mental angry, I ripped the cards and notes he gave me and punched my door! Yes my door! It hurt, a lot. Not me at all.
TaraMaiden Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 Really? I don't feel it! I got really angry today, I mean scary mental angry, I ripped the cards and notes he gave me and punched my door! Yes my door! It hurt, a lot. Not me at all. I know it hurts.... Check for hairline fractures in your knuckles if that's what you did.... I nearly broke my little finger doing that.
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 I know it hurts.... Check for hairline fractures in your knuckles if that's what you did.... I nearly broke my little finger doing that. There's no pain now so I'm guessing they're fine.
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