LostGirl11 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Ok so it's done. He sent me a message on facebook (Yes, facebook!) basically blaming the whole break up on me. I replied and fully took the blame. I was far too nice to him, he has broken my heart and I was nice to him!?! I asked if it was time for me to update me relationship status (God, this makes it sounds so childish) He siad 'Yes, do what is best for you, you can keep me as a friend if you like though, it's your call, let me know what you decide' IS HE BEING ****ING SERIOUS! Why on earth would I want to keep him as a friend? And why the hell would he even suggest it? Idiot.
geegirl Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Ok so it's done. He sent me a message on facebook (Yes, facebook!) basically blaming the whole break up on me. I replied and fully took the blame. I was far too nice to him, he has broken my heart and I was nice to him!?! I asked if it was time for me to update me relationship status (God, this makes it sounds so childish) He siad 'Yes, do what is best for you, you can keep me as a friend if you like though, it's your call, let me know what you decide' IS HE BEING ****ING SERIOUS! Why on earth would I want to keep him as a friend? And why the hell would he even suggest it? Idiot. He's not in the same emotional space as you are so suggesting friends is what they normally do to alleviate the drama/guilt. It's almost like a peace offering only one that hurts you. Block him on FB.
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 He's not in the same emotional space as you are so suggesting friends is what they normally do to alleviate the drama/guilt. It's almost like a peace offering only one that hurts you. Block him on FB. So he's basically saying 'Whatever, I'm not bothered, keep me as a friend if you like, no biggie'
XKatieX Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 "Let me know what you decide" THIS tells me he is playing games with you. Honestly, I would shock the heck out of him and block him. I think he is planning on saying you still want to be friends with him, and maybe he wants to still have some kind of hold over you.
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 "Let me know what you decide" THIS tells me he is playing games with you. Honestly, I would shock the heck out of him and block him. I think he is planning on saying you still want to be friends with him, and maybe he wants to still have some kind of hold over you. Well bollocks to that. I've removed him. I told him in a very polite meek way that it wouldn't be fair on either of us!! and he didn't reply.
geegirl Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 So he's basically saying 'Whatever, I'm not bothered, keep me as a friend if you like, no biggie' Yes. Keeps you there as a fallback. He thinks you'll be desperate enough to want that so he suggests "friends".
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 He just text saying 'Well its a shame that you couldn't keep me on there like you kept the other men on, but whatever, bye' I have never kept any of my ex's on facebook. The men he is refurring to are men that I slept with years ago, they were not ex's! What a ****ing child. He can fall back on his no good arse!
geegirl Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 He just text saying 'Well its a shame that you couldn't keep me on there like you kept the other men on, but whatever, bye' I have never kept any of my ex's on facebook. The men he is refurring to are men that I slept with years ago, they were not ex's! What a ****ing child. He can fall back on his no good arse! Oh, the poor baby. You hurt his ego.
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 Oh, the poor baby. You hurt his ego. And he hurt my heart. Deal with it dick spin.
geegirl Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 And he hurt my heart. Deal with it dick spin. Good. Get mad!
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 Good. Get mad! I'm so mad! But I can't stop crying like a baby! Facebook, bloody facebook! He just wants to snoop and have a hold on me. Does he think I'm stupid? 'Oh yes, of course I'll keep you on facebook, thank you so much for suggesting it' Pfft.
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 So I was stupid enough to reply and explained how they weren't ex's and that I didn't remove him to be nasty. He replied saying 'Well whatever they were or wern't it's all by the way now, let bygones be bygones' What the **** does he mean by that?
geegirl Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 So I was stupid enough to reply and explained how they weren't ex's and that I didn't remove him to be nasty. He replied saying 'Well whatever they were or wern't it's all by the way now, let bygones be bygones' What the **** does he mean by that? Lost, block him from FB and stop engaging with him. He says something to irk you, you explain. Then he responds and irks you again and you respond. And you keep asking what he means. It means nothing. He knows you are emotional and he's toying with it. The only thing that matters is that he has ended with you. Keeping this back and forth is futile. It doesn't change the situation. You're engaging hoping it'll change his mind or maybe he'll say the words you want to hear. Stop.
na49 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 BAD GIRL! BLOCK HIM! RIGHT NOW! We all love to get the last word, but they will always have the last word. They'll always have the last laugh. They left us heart broken after all. Block him and never look back. No more looking for meaning. Trust me. It doesn't mean anything. Well it might. Not what you want it to mean though.
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 Lost, block him from FB and stop engaging with him. He says something to irk you, you explain. Then he responds and irks you again and you respond. And you keep asking what he means. It means nothing. He knows you are emotional and he's toying with it. The only thing that matters is that he has ended with you. Keeping this back and forth is futile. It doesn't change the situation. You're engaging hoping it'll change his mind or maybe he'll say the words you want to hear. Stop. I replied, I was polite, grown up and I even had a little joke. Why is this making him so angry? It's facebook for gods sake! He wants me out of his life and I'm doing exactly that. I removed him from facebook hours ago. This is through texts.
geegirl Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I replied, I was polite, grown up and I even had a little joke. Why is this making him so angry? It's facebook for gods sake! He wants me out of his life and I'm doing exactly that. I removed him from facebook hours ago. This is through texts. It's his ego. You didn't fall all over his offer to stay "friends". Keep him blocked and stop engaging him on text messaging.
Sugarkane Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 #1 dumper rule- always blame The WHOLE breakup on the dumpee. I'm not surprised as they always do this. Don't listen to his BS, you could be contacting forever to get the last word and never get it.
Renard99 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 #1 dumper rule- always blame The WHOLE breakup on the dumpee. I'm not surprised as they always do this. Don't listen to his BS, you could be contacting forever to get the last word and never get it. Completely agree. My ex did the same to me. LostGirl: As for Facebook, don't just remove him BLOCK HIM. I did it with my ex. She wanted to remain friends and I couldn't do it. We have friends in common so even with her removed she continued to pop up on my news feed when she interacted with my friends (that's not a euphamism but I do have my suspicions) so I blocked her completely and now I can't see anything she does. It's actually a little amusing because when she's having a conversation with a friend I don't see her posts, only the friends and it looks like they're talking to themselves.
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 I just don't understand how they wants us gone from their lifes but they still want to keep us as a 'friend' on facebook.
geegirl Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I just don't understand how they wants us gone from their lifes but they still want to keep us as a 'friend' on facebook. They are not emotional about you. So it doesn't hurt them to have you there whether as a "friend" or a fallback. You're emotional so you can't fathom doing it.
TaraMaiden Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I just don't understand how they wants us gone from their lifes but they still want to keep us as a 'friend' on facebook. And it completely beffuddles me how you can say all this - IS HE BEING ****ING SERIOUS! Why on earth would I want to keep him as a friend? And why the hell would he even suggest it? Idiot. What a ****ing child. He can fall back on his no good arse! And he hurt my heart. Deal with it dick spin. yet still keep responding to him, taking the bait hook line and sinker, and have so little respect for yourself that you simply have to keep breaking NC.. Quit, delete his number and block it off. And the next time he texts, respond, IMMEDIATELY - with the following: "Your message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number". I'm advised it works like a charm. (if he keeps trying, keep texting that same message back. he'll soon get it.) 1
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 They are not emotional about you. So it doesn't hurt them to have you there whether as a "friend" or a fallback. You're emotional so you can't fathom doing it. I'm not clinging on to this, don't worry. Just annoyed me when he got all offended by it and brought up 'the men' that I kept on there.
geegirl Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I'm not clinging on to this, don't worry. Just annoyed me when he got all offended by it and brought up 'the men' that I kept on there. In some way you're wondering if his reaction is a form of jealousy and therefore, a sign that maybe he loves you so you keep questioning why he is saying the things he is saying. Forget him being offended about FB but focus on the fact that he has ended the relationship with you. Do you think he's sitting there and fretting his decision? Nope. You're fretting about his reactions. Don't.
Author LostGirl11 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 I've realised that I wont ever move on. I was thinking what it will be like when I start dating again, and I couldn't, I felt guilty for even thinking about it! I'm an idiot for even being on here. I'm sure he isn't on forums discussing our break up.
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