na49 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I feel like I'm getting closer and closer to getting over my ex. I took a peek at her twitter and noticed she was still talking with the guy she cheated on me with and left me for. She seems to be happy with her life. Whether she's single or with him or has found someone else. I don't really know for a fact and I prefer to keep it that way. As much as it hurts that this is reality. That she is actually OVER me. That she doesn't want to give us another chance, she isn't sorry for what she did and will never apologize to me. It's hurt me like hell to think about this, but I hope that this will be temporary and won't drive me insane. I really don't have any questions about her behaviors anymore. Her number is blocked, she's blocked on facebook. Unless she tries to come back into my life. She can't and won't. It hurts so bad... Okay enough of my whining. My question is, because we both attend the same college and I will always run the risk of seeing her around campus. (possibly with other guys ) How can I convince myself that this person doesn't mean anything to me? How can I not look at her as "my first love who broke my heart" and just as "another random girl on campus"?
user6667 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 My question is, because we both attend the same college and I will always run the risk of seeing her around campus. (possibly with other guys ) How can I convince myself that this person doesn't mean anything to me? How can I not look at her as "my first love who broke my heart" and just as "another random girl on campus"? I don't think you should try to lie to yourself. I'd advise you to just let the feeling in, accept it, handle it, and learn to live with it. It will wear off after a while, and start to mean less. Whereas if you block it, you won't be handling it. Imho.
Author na49 Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 I don't think you should try to lie to yourself. I'd advise you to just let the feeling in, accept it, handle it, and learn to live with it. It will wear off after a while, and start to mean less. Whereas if you block it, you won't be handling it. Imho. That's true. I really can't change how I see her per say. I obviously won't look at her like I used to. I just have to muster up the courage to be able to look at her and not feel sick. I avoid eye contact when I see her. I don't know why, seeing her just hurts.
kyle77 Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I am in the exact same position you are. My ex (my first love) dumped me and then a month later ended up with some other guy. It was so hard to get over her and to be honest I still dont think I am completely over her. The true test is if she were to come up and ask you to get back together could you say no. I know for a fact at this point I couldn't as much as I know its the right thing to do. Now, as for what to do I advise trying to find confidence in yourself. If you can get yourself really psyched about you then that is huge. For me I am currently trying to gain more muscle, learn guitar, and maintain a 3.5 gpa in university. You have to try and take pride in yourself and continue to remind yourself that just because she is gone doesnt mean you are.
Mr.White Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I beat you all! She got in a relationship the day after we broke up Haha but on the serious note let the mourning happen naturally. I think deceiving yourself into thinking her of nothing will only come back to bite you in your behind. Just try and avoid any spots you know she is usually around but it will be kind of impossible to avoid her completely. I do not think there is any way around this so just put on a mask everytime you see her, you can ignore her, flick her off, wave hi, do whatever you wish but do not let her see you down. Don't dwell on this breakup. You're in college man! Tons of girls! Have fun, and her memory will slowly fade.
MyAngel Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 it's going to be tricky to avoid her completely if you attend uni together. The best you can do is to not go to places she frequents, try and avoid her as best as possible. She may be doing the same as well, which will make things easier. It won't be a forever thing; eventually, you won't be at uni any more, you know? And as time goes by, eventually it won't hurt as much to catch a glimpse of her. don't look at her, don't dwell on her.
MrWindupBird Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 This may sound over-simplistic, but I would try my best to find another girl to take my mind off of her. I think there's a shelf-life for that agony of breaking up. If you have another person, they can distract you while that time slowly expires. Girls also like dudes who have a little hurt in them. Just don't go over the top with it, and it can be a positive. There's also an off chance she'll get jealous and come crawling back, but I wouldn't bank on that. Just make yourself better, and what happens happens. It's still going to hurt, though. I wish you luck.
Author na49 Posted January 9, 2013 Author Posted January 9, 2013 This may sound over-simplistic, but I would try my best to find another girl to take my mind off of her. I think there's a shelf-life for that agony of breaking up. If you have another person, they can distract you while that time slowly expires. Girls also like dudes who have a little hurt in them. Just don't go over the top with it, and it can be a positive. There's also an off chance she'll get jealous and come crawling back, but I wouldn't bank on that. Just make yourself better, and what happens happens. It's still going to hurt, though. I wish you luck. I really wish I could find someone else. It just doesn't seem that easy. She was my first girlfriend and first love. She kind of came onto me, so I've never really chased a girl that I had feelings for. I'll take everyone's advice. Our classes aren't in the same building (at least they shouldn't be) I think the longer I go without seeing her the better I should feel. Right?
Harradin Posted January 9, 2013 Posted January 9, 2013 I beat you all! She got in a relationship the day after we broke up I win, she pretty much started her relationship with him before she dumped me and then went official the day after she dumped me.
Author na49 Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 It's not a competition guys We're all on the losing end of our relationships. Our hearts got broken.
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