syw0806 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 This guy I dated last summer, all of sudden came back to me saying he missed last summer blahblahs. I'm already in a new relationship now, so when I told him I have a boyfriend, he told me we can just be friends. which I said okay. He asked to hang out few times, which I declined.. This sunday, he asked me for brunch to celebrate his new job and when I saw him, he was being totally cool we even talked about my boyfriend so I thought we're now good friends. We went for movie the sameday, but during the movie he tried to put his arm around me and make some moves,,which I all declined. When he texted me later that day, I reminded him again that I have a boyfriend and I cannot see him anymore since his behavior wasn't right. He said again we can still be friends..ugh and sent me another text later that he's sorry about his behavior. I ignored all his texts ever since. Then this morning now he sent me a morning text.. I don't know what should I do. I think I did everything I could. I told him few times I have a boyfriend, ignored his texts, even told him I'm not seeing him anymore.. I'm so stupid that I cannot even go harsh on him not only him just anyone.. should I tell my boyfriend and have him call this guy? or will i look stupid to my boyfriend that I can't even handle these things.. I figured if my boyfriend calls him he would never call me again... so how do you guys think? have you ever asked your boyfriend this kind of favor or have you done anything like this for your girlfriend?
veggirl Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 no don't have your boyfriend call him, that is very dramatic and childish. Just continue ignoring him, he will get the hint. and in the future don't offer friendship to men who are interested in dating you. 3
TaraMaiden Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 The more you hide behind other people, the more you degrade your own ability to stand on your own two feet. What you do is you go complete No Contact. Delete his number and block it. Then the next time he texts you, reply IMMEDIATELY - with this message: "Your message could not be delivered because the recipient has blocked this number." Do this every single time he tries to text you. (Blocking/deleting numbers prevents calls, but doesn't always prevent texts.) Pretty soon - he will get the message, and quit. Read the Caliguy No Contact Guide in my signature. it will give you some good pointers, even though you're not in a direct 'dumped' situation.
stillafool Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I'm sorry OP but how old are you? I agree that you lead this guy on by having lunch and a movie when you knew he had a romantic interest in you. It sounded more like a date so it's no wonder this guy made a move. I suggest you stand up for yourself and tell him you have no interest in seeing him again and please do not call or text you. If you can't handle this situation how are you going to handle other things in life.
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