HeartBrkenGal Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I would really love sombods advice on this i am (22) have been casualy seeing this man (26) for almost a year we act as if we are in a relationship but we never disscus our situation and feeling we call eachother everyday texts all day long he has always like me more i dont know how i can tell but u just can sept we go on holiday for a week. and then recently he has been diffrent he doesnt have as much time for me takes longer to text back i ask why he is so distant and he tell me how he has meet sombody else and i am beside my self the first time we say i love you to each other is when i go to see him he says he want to miss me but im being too needy, after this news he tells me to go out and enjoy my self and he WILL CALL ME IN A MONTH AND WE COULD do somthing for valentines day huh? anyway i have not stopped harrsssing him but he text me saying things like he loves me to bits and nothing will ever replace me. i then ask what is the relationship title of you and this new girl he said i dnt know.. i ask how many times he met her he said 10 over the space of 2 months. i just dont know what to do am i holding out for him to come back i know i should get on with my life and what will be will be. but i actually love this guy ps this is also my first real love what is my best way of handling this situation so that i can having missing and wanting me i feel like ive become the friend he still put 3 kisses on all texts Helpp Advice really needed to win my first love back???????????? x
TaraMaiden Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Ugh. Go No Contact (see Caliguy link in my signature). Understand this. "First Love" almost never, ever ever means "Eternal Love". In fact, the majority of first loves don't last. He's what's known as a 'Cake-eater'. In other words, he has you, and her, and wants to keep both. 2
Author HeartBrkenGal Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 Thank you, i have the habbit that i want to tell him not to call and text but when he doesnt i text him. i feel like out of some sort of guilt he keeps talking to me. so i should just cut all contact. its horrid cause i feel like i havent even had a chance to be an offical couple my first love wasnt even my boyfriend gutted but thank you for the advicee. x
fixing Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Do yourself a favour and forget him. No Contact, he has made his decision and he can stick his valentines date up his ass. Your better than this. And you deserve better! It will be hard, but you gotta move forward and put him outa your mind. It will be hard but you must stop all contact from now
TaraMaiden Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Thank you, i have the habbit that i want to tell him not to call and text but when he doesnt i text him. i feel like out of some sort of guilt he keeps talking to me. so i should just cut all contact. No, not 'Should'. Absolutely MUST. Read the No Contact Guide. As many times as you need to, in order to really, but really 'Get It'. its horrid cause i feel like i havent even had a chance to be an offical couple my first love wasnt even my boyfriend gutted but thank you for the advicee. x It's ok. Work on being less 'needy'. It makes you sound desperate, and to be honest, you are way too young yet, to be at the desperate stage.
Author HeartBrkenGal Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 Thanks guys u can ask your friends but it not the same as an outsiders perspective yess he can shuv valentines day up his bum No Contact from now and i thecaliguy thing thank you for your advice both of you gutted but like everyone says everyone has break ups
fixing Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Thanks guys u can ask your friends but it not the same as an outsiders perspective yess he can shuv valentines day up his bum No Contact from now and i thecaliguy thing thank you for your advice both of you gutted but like everyone says everyone has break ups Yes i know, it is always gutting and painful, and the last thing you want to hear is people to tell you to move on etc, its just we get blinded by love and dont face the reality. Your very young anyway You will be fine, just dont give this fool an extra ego boost by being there at his beckon call. Be strong 1
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