calndn Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 So a guy I dated last year for 6 months who when I asked him where I stood with him said he wasn't ready for a relationship but that he thought I was an amazing girl...blah blah blah. That he was so busy at work....that he wasn't saying it wasn't going to change but that right now he couldn't give me what I wanted. I went NC I had one slip up after a few drinks when I text him saying that I missed talking to him (we knew eachother for two years before getting together - although it was more a speaking on the phone/staying in touch for two years rather than hanging out/knowing eachother through friends kind of thing). He did reply to my drunken text saying he missed talking to me too and asked what I was up to, suggested dinner but I didnt say yes. That was in September and the only other time we had contact. I get a message from him yesterday saying he is sorry about everything he did last year and that he knows he didnt act right and that he missed talking to me and hoped I was ok and what was I up to. I will add that he started dating someone else soon after me, I don't know what happened there or anything but I know he was seeing someone. Just don't know what to do. ignore? Or just a reply saying thank you for the apology? hmm..
WhatYouWantToHear Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Just don't know what to do. Stop playing games with him. That could mean either coming clean and telling him you want to give it a second chance, or telling him you've moved on and its completely over. What you are doing is just game playing. 1
Author calndn Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 Surely it is him playing games? No contact and then he suddenly gets in touch? Im not the one playing games.
WhatYouWantToHear Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Not according to your first post: I went NC I had one slip up after a few drinks Then you tell about how he asked you to dinner, but you didn't commit either way. Game playing. Now you want to either ignore him or thank him for an apology. Game playing. It may be him too, but its definitely you.
truth_seeker Posted January 10, 2013 Posted January 10, 2013 I agree that game playing is going on here. What do you really want? Do you know? If you want a second go around with this guy, then push your fears aside and tell him. These random texts, phone calls, disappearing acts are all a waste of time. It sounds like people do this because they're afraid to tell the other person how they feel. They would rather throw out hints and hope the other person steps up and comes clean.
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