Yatesrow Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 My ex left me on the 1st of this year citing fundamental differences. Now I attempted to reason with her for about 24 hours, afterwards I stopped at which point she messaged a mutual friend asking if I was alright. After, said mutual friend responded with "he's confused. There's no doubt he loves you". She replied with "He's a wonderful guy, I just needed him to connect". Now, this girl was great she always wanted to please me and I her. Whenever I wanted certain things I was comfortable asking. Her, on the other hand, would want things but not communicate then allow it to become an issue later on down the road. Back in early October this lead to a separation which lasted around a day, leading her wanting to make it work. Now, it's been exactly one week and I truly feel as If her descision is final. What I'm wondering is: Is this something reperable? I'm planning on going NC for a while then gradually trying to appear in her life - almost like a new person, to spark interest. I want her to move on and see life without me, and let the breakup serve its purpose. I can't help but feel she jumped the gun, though. I guess time will tell.
carhill Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 she messaged a mutual friend asking if I was alright. After, said mutual friend responded with "he's confused. There's no doubt he loves you". She replied with "He's a wonderful guy, I just needed him to connect". Social Astroglide. If she wanted to work things out with you, she would. This is known as 'manipulation'. Women are expert at it. Weapon of choice for some. Most keep it holstered except when cornered or hurt. Think of it as a man's fists. Most of the time they are not clenched, rather open and welcoming, but the hand serves two purposes; to love and to hurt. Your posting indicates currently incompatible communication styles. Neither of you are mind readers. My advice is to remain NC, ignore comments relevant to your past relationship/her from others and use the time for introspection to solidify your style, health and aspects of compatibility for future relationships. If the end result includes her, it does. If not, not. Good luck.
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