JuneJulySeptember Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 (edited) So, I was watching the College Football Championship. Which sucked after waiting like a month for it. More importantly though, it reinforced a life lesson. The food chain. The winning QB, Alabama's AJ McCarron is dating a model, Miss Alabama. A.J. McCarron: Mom and Girlfriend Are Sitting Next To Each Other at BCS Title Game | The Big Lead So, they are both obviously on the top of the food chain. Rank 10. I'm sure they didn't get together based on their shared love of desert rock climbing. Now, he could go to the NFL, be a third string QB, and be playing arena football and making $50,000 per season in three years. So, he could fall from the food chain fast. Although, he'll still be dating women who are no more below a Rank 7 I'd say. He'll still be tall, a former football star, and a good looking guy. Still, it's a fall. Her, on the other hand, she'll likely stay at the top of the food chain for the rest of her life. See, looks is way more powerful than success or status. As far as her, I don't even talk to or meet women who look like her. She's not even really attractive to me, she's so perfect. The mother is more attractive to be honest. So, if I'm getting rejected by women who are way less attractive than the mother, where does that leave me on the food chain (though I go for their personalities, I really do)? Where does that leave men who can't get a woman at all? And that's when it struck me. All the frustration from men here, all of the improvements suggestions, all of the women complaining about men not really being into them, or being flaky. Dating is just one big food chain. Everybody is just scrambling to improve their goods so they can snag the best they can get. Where do you rank on the food chain? Edited January 8, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember
El Brujo Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I'm like the poison fish that eats whatever he wants to but doesn't have to worry about being eaten. 1
MrCastle Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I don't believe in a food chain so there is no rank for me. I approach who I want and if they don't like me, I move on to someone else 9
ThaWholigan Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I don't believe in a food chain so there is no rank for me. I approach who I want and if they don't like me, I move on to someone else This. The end. Too much belief in half-cocked theories at the moment - how do you guys have the time to come up with this stuff?
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 This. The end. Too much belief in half-cocked theories at the moment - how do you guys have the time to come up with this stuff? The game sucked. That's how I had time. I do believe 99% of society lives by it though, even though they may deny it. What do you think 'standards' mean?
MrCastle Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 This. The end. Too much belief in half-cocked theories at the moment - how do you guys have the time to come up with this stuff? There is a lot of mental masturbation on this site. Way too much. All this time theorizing why they can't/won't succeed and why other men do, they could be out talking to girls and making progress. 2
ThaWholigan Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 There is a lot of mental masturbation on this site. Way too much. All this time theorizing why they can't/won't succeed and why other men do, they could be out talking to girls and making progress. Me personally, I love theorizing about anything, including half of these theories - even if they are borne out of excuses for failure. The thing is, you don't have to make excuses for failure. Everybody fails. I have seen the most good looking guys you can think of STRUGGLE with certain women. They don't always get laid with every girl that crosses paths with them. I could write a book (in fact, I might!) about the sh*tty rejections I had to endure, some of them were harsh as f*ck. I didn't let it stop me. I carried on. Now, I am somewhat better. And I refuse to believe it can't be better for you guys too (not you MrCastle, you're OK already ) 1
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 There is a lot of mental masturbation on this site. Way too much. All this time theorizing why they can't/won't succeed and why other men do, they could be out talking to girls and making progress. I'm in a transitional period of my life right now, making approaching women from more traditional angles (friends, social network, online) difficult. I like that term though. Mental masturbation. 1
gaius Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 She has a little bit of a horse face actually, so I wouldn't call her perfect. But she keeps in fantastic shape and conducts herself like she's at the top of the food chain, so others agree and treat her as such. Including you. A good lesson to keep in mind when deciding where you might fall. 2
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 (edited) **** this ****. There is a "food chain". "Hierarchy". "Ladder theory". "Leagues". There is a pecking order. It is ranked on looks, money, status, talent, and acquisition of resources. All of these five things are aggregated at the apex of the pyramid by the people who have them. Looks can feed into money or status. See, Hollywood starlets. Money can feed into status or talent. See, Silicon Valley nerds. Talent can feed into status or money. See, Basketball players. All of this feeds back onto itself in the acquisition of resources which is the primary goal of life. Life is all about acquiring and hoarding resources for survival. That is the quintessential factor. Yep. There's many average women that to me would be just as beautiful as that woman. And have been just as beautiful. But mostly they want what is higher on the food chain than me. They want what she has. Or as close as possible as they can get to it. Edited January 8, 2013 by JuneJulySeptember
CptObvious Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 She'll lose a 1-3 points when she hits 30. Then she'll lose another 1-3 points when she hits 40.
MoreThanThat Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Guys reading this - unless YOU are totally superficial, there is no hierarchy when it comes to women being interested. I'll tell you a little secret - it's easier for less attractive men to get solid women who have their **** together than those who want money for more. I'm an attractive woman, make my own money, have had 6 proposals from men I was involved with (ring and all), get approached pretty much daily from men from 20 to 50 (I'm in mid 40's). I have a lot of single female friends who are also attractive, self-reliant and single from 20's to 50's. We've talked loads about this subject. What I'm about to say is not based on ALL women but myself and friends. We're less interested in what you bring to the table looks wise and status wise than the following: How you treat us How interesting you are How interested you are in us How much passion you have about SOMETHING One of my best relationships was with an average looking high school teacher. Why? He LOVED what he did. He had done a lot of traveling during summers (paid-work) and had loads of interesting stories to tell. He treated me like a queen and respected me. He always asked about my day and remembered things. I think success in dating and relationships - for men and women - is to be a whole person yourself. Be excited with life and living. That energy emanates. Smile (without being creepy). Be someone that will stand out to women you meet. Practice talking to people to get more comfortable for when an interesting woman comes along. Make chitchat with cashiers at the grocery store or the barrista at Starbucks. I'm not suggesting to be someone you aren't but be SOMEONE. Remember - people are motivated by feelings. Given women a reason to feel SOMETHING when you interact with them. Make them remember you. 3
xxoo Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Chances with beautiful women are inversely proportional to how much you treat them like alien life forms. 1
sillyanswer Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Where do you rank on the food chain? Isn't this just marks-out-of-ten but measuring social standing rather than looks? And about as useful?
TouchedByViolet Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 have had 6 proposals from men I was involved with (ring and all) seems like a lot to me... maybe by 45 that is normal?
mesmerized Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I don't know where I fall in the food chain but I do know Im pretty tasty. 3
ThaWholigan Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I don't know where I fall in the food chain but I do know Im pretty tasty. Indeed Dem legs 1
scratch Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 All the frustration from men here, all of the improvements suggestions, all of the women complaining about men not really being into them, or being flaky. Dating is just one big food chain. Everybody is just scrambling to improve their goods so they can snag the best they can get. Where do you rank on the food chain? The food chain, pecking order, or whatever else you'd like to call it certainly exists. There are people that outrank us, and plenty of people that we outrank. Undoubtedly, self-improvement will bump you up the food chain. If you improve your body, wardrobe, financial or career situation, or your conversational skills, you will have access to more partners, and more desirable partners. But, it will not make you feel like you're being more successful with them. And that's the rub: If you are richer, hotter or smarter, you won't have less headaches in your dealings with women (or men). You will have the same number of headaches will richer, hotter and smarter women (or men). If you think that's a recipe for happiness, or that the quarterbacks (or models) of the world are happier than you because they have an easy time with women (or men), you are fooling yourself. 1
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 We're less interested in what you bring to the table looks wise and status wise than the following: How you treat us How interested you are in us How much passion you have about SOMETHING Chances with beautiful women are inversely proportional to how much you treat them like alien life forms. I will agree that not all women reach for the very best they can get, but please don't insult my intelligence.
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 If you think that's a recipe for happiness, or that the quarterbacks (or models) of the world are happier than you because they have an easy time with women (or men), you are fooling yourself. If you don't think AJ McCarron is more confident, self-assured, liked, and thus happier than one of the guys from this forum who is a 30 year old who has never had a GF, you're nuts.
xxoo Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I will agree that not all women reach for the very best they can get, but please don't insult my intelligence. If "best I can get" is based on appearance, money, and status, I'd be a fool. 1
Author JuneJulySeptember Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 If "best I can get" is based on appearance, money, and status, I'd be a fool. I believe you. I also believe you are in the SMALL minority.
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