Aiiya Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Hello, Alright, so I met this one fellow on an online dating website. We've been dating for a month and a half now. He's 24 and I'm 21. We've spend full weekends with each other because we live away, just being able to talk and go out and do things and keep learning more about each other. It's actually more like he does the talking, I do the listening and I throw an occasional opinion. He happens to be quite attractive and a bit conceited. He's made it known more than once about his 'former' promiscuous ways, (he's admitted to being a manwhore and player) how he has bedded so many women before, and has actually never been able to '***' from having sex with them. He's told me that that lifestyle is quite lonely and he's looking for something genuine and real. His longest relationship has lasted only 8 months. Also, he has been abused his whole childhood by his heroin addicted mother who didn't want him, and his family is now a step family with no bloodlines. He is a Marine, who has been deployed to Afghanistan, and regrettably had to bury his friends within that time. He does/did drink heavily when he's with friends at the bar, and of course that's where he has found many of his hook-ups. When he's with me, he tells me how I am a rare person, someone who he can confide his past with and can share his future goals, and someone different from what he's used to. I do feel he is being genuine with those statements. I don't take him for someone that would lie, he is pretty honest. When we spend time with each other, it feels real. He hasn't done anything to suggest that he is playing me at the moment. He calls when he says he will, texts me every day asking how my day was, goes out for runs with me, even cooks for me. He remembers little things I said and mentioned, and he shows me. He does put in genuine effort. He made his intention known that he wants a relationship with me and sees me as a girlfriend, and wishes to be exclusive. When he's with me, he's always smiling, always laughing, he seems like quite a happy person and he looks forward to spending more time. Why then don't I feel a connection with him? I think I like him. I think I like spending time with him. He makes me smile and laugh. We've spent 4 days together. It's not easy to talk with him, I think we're working on it. He does a lot of the talking. I feel like if we spend more time with each other, maybe my feelings will grow? But sometimes I don't feel a connection. And I feel like he's not my type , even though he's willing to put in effort. Maybe he's a keeper? I really don't know about him. He's gonna ask for a serious relationship. What should I do? Thank you for helping me.
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