mortensorchid Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I had been exchanging emails with someone on a dating website. Earlier today I sent him an email with my phone number in it (since he asked), and within a few minutes he sent me a text around noon (when I sent the email containing it). Since then I got 9 text messages from him plus he tried calling me and left a voice mail. It's now 7:16 pm EST. The first was just "Hi it's (name)." The second was "What is your schedule like for the week? I get off at 3 pm". Then twenty minutes later another saying the same thing as the second. About an hour later he texted the fourth message saying "My lunch is almost over, I work (time to time), is this good for you?" Then a fifth text saying the same as the fourth. Then the sixth message "I can also meet you at lunch if that's ok". Then the seventh message at 3 pm saying "I'm heading home". I sent a text (my first response) saying "Wed afternoon would be good for me, let's say 4 pm?" He texted immediately saying "I get off work at 3, is (place) good for you?" Then he called (I was in the bathroom and did not get to the phone), left a voice mail. He said in the next two texts "So it's Wed at 3 pm at (place)?" Call me a little paranoid, but he's a little too eager, isn't he?
Casablanca Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Wow, he does sound a bit too eager...I'd meet him since it is low risk, but I'd be doubtful as he sounds overly needy and/or really socially awkward
Samilia Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I had been exchanging emails with someone on a dating website. Earlier today I sent him an email with my phone number in it (since he asked), and within a few minutes he sent me a text around noon (when I sent the email containing it). Since then I got 9 text messages from him plus he tried calling me and left a voice mail. It's now 7:16 pm EST. The first was just "Hi it's (name)." The second was "What is your schedule like for the week? I get off at 3 pm". Then twenty minutes later another saying the same thing as the second. About an hour later he texted the fourth message saying "My lunch is almost over, I work (time to time), is this good for you?" Then a fifth text saying the same as the fourth. Then the sixth message "I can also meet you at lunch if that's ok". Then the seventh message at 3 pm saying "I'm heading home". I sent a text (my first response) saying "Wed afternoon would be good for me, let's say 4 pm?" He texted immediately saying "I get off work at 3, is (place) good for you?" Then he called (I was in the bathroom and did not get to the phone), left a voice mail. He said in the next two texts "So it's Wed at 3 pm at (place)?" Call me a little paranoid, but he's a little too eager, isn't he? lol yes, that would cool me off quite a bit! I would do coffee.. that way you don't have to sit through lunch if he's as "eager" in person.
MrCastle Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 How many times did you reply to him, just that once?
Maneater Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 yes definitely OVER eager. some of these guys on the internet are way too needy. I'm trying to find guys at bars instead now. all internet dates I've gone on or had LTR with have been emotionally crazy.
Maneater Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 now that I think about it. you may consider not going at all. because he's really going to contact you a lot after you meet him if he's acting this annoying before a first meeting. There are way too many crazy dudes on these dating sites.
Samilia Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 yes definitely OVER eager. some of these guys on the internet are way too needy. I'm trying to find guys at bars instead now. all internet dates I've gone on or had LTR with have been emotionally crazy. Funny you say that, I have started doing the same thing. And that way I have a good time with my gfs if anything!
Author mortensorchid Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 How many times did you reply to him, just that once? Yes just that once. But he just sent the 9th text today! I'm getting super nervous about this now.
Casablanca Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Yes just that once. But he just sent the 9th text today! I'm getting super nervous about this now. Oh I assumed you answered most times...I might go ignore and be done with it
Author mortensorchid Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 I think that's for the best Casablanca. If he sends one more I will definately just ignore him. He's reaking of desperation.
sid3 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Yes just that once. But he just sent the 9th text today! I'm getting super nervous about this now. I'm getting nervous too! I'd bail. Better safe than sorry. Or dead
Maneater Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I think that's for the best Casablanca. If he sends one more I will definately just ignore him. He's reaking of desperation. yea this is really excessive.
TheZebra Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I would've been creeped out by the 3rd text already. Gosh, I hate excessive texting. Run, girl, run!
umirano Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 If you do go, please ask him why he texts so much, and whether he really thinks that makes him look normal and like having a healthy understanding of communication. I'd be interested in his reaction.
Author mortensorchid Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 I woke up this morning and turned my phone off (as I had a job interview today and didn't want a potential interrupt), and he has since texted three times and called twice this morning! I'm blowing him off, he sounds nuts and desperate. 3
Author mortensorchid Posted January 10, 2013 Author Posted January 10, 2013 It's Wednesday evening and I never responded to the guy I wrote about. He struck me as desperate with all the texting and multiple voice mails just over a coffee date. Moving on. 2
Author mortensorchid Posted January 13, 2013 Author Posted January 13, 2013 I just signed onto the dating website after not checking it in a few days, he left a message "Hey, when are we going to meet?". I wrote him back : Before I block you, just an FYI, excessive texting like you did made you look desperate and clingy. For future reference, don't do that with the next one whoever they are. Hopefully he will take that to heart.
suladas Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 That's insane, how can anyone think it's ok to text that much? You did the right thing, he's either desperate or crazy.
outsidethebox Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Just my opinion, but you sent him your phone number and then didn't answer his texts and calls. All he was doing was trying to get an answer from you. I don't see your behavior as any better (not that you asked). All you had to do was say don't send any more texts, just use email and I'll get back to you on it. But you didn't. You didn't answer and complained because he didn't ignore you like you ignored him. But it's something for me to learn from. 2
suladas Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Just my opinion, but you sent him your phone number and then didn't answer his texts and calls. All he was doing was trying to get an answer from you. I don't see your behavior as any better (not that you asked). All you had to do was say don't send any more texts, just use email and I'll get back to you on it. But you didn't. You didn't answer and complained because he didn't ignore you like you ignored him. But it's something for me to learn from. Two texts max without a reply, anything more is desperate. Even after she did reply he kept sending them like crazy, that's weird. 1
MrCastle Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I just signed onto the dating website after not checking it in a few days, he left a message "Hey, when are we going to meet?". I wrote him back : Before I block you, just an FYI, excessive texting like you did made you look desperate and clingy. For future reference, don't do that with the next one whoever they are. Hopefully he will take that to heart. Well at least you let him down gently.
Maneater Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 People online dating sites are usually nuts...
Casablanca Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 Just my opinion, but you sent him your phone number and then didn't answer his texts and calls. All he was doing was trying to get an answer from you. I don't see your behavior as any better (not that you asked). All you had to do was say don't send any more texts, just use email and I'll get back to you on it. But you didn't. You didn't answer and complained because he didn't ignore you like you ignored him. But it's something for me to learn from. Did you read everything? She didn't even get a chance to reply most of the time. I call a girl, if she doesnt answer, I leave a voicemail and she won't hear from me until she calls or texts me back. She knows her response is requested.
scratch Posted January 13, 2013 Posted January 13, 2013 I just signed onto the dating website after not checking it in a few days, he left a message "Hey, when are we going to meet?". I wrote him back : Before I block you, just an FYI, excessive texting like you did made you look desperate and clingy. For future reference, don't do that with the next one whoever they are. Hopefully he will take that to heart. I think this is a little harsh, but on balance you're doing the guy a tremendous service by giving him constructive criticism. This is far better than just disappearing, or even giving a general reason like "we're not right for each other." Attagirl.
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