10 commandments of dating for men

[DC4]

I did ask you a question-what does this mean to you specifically?

 

Also be inclined toward women who support the patriarchy.

[Nightsky]

I did ask you a question-what does this mean to you specifically?

 

I want to be the dominant one in the relationship. I want to be the man.

[DC4]

I want to be the dominant one in the relationship. I want to be the man.

 

I'm sure there are many women who would like that dynamic and that's great. I don't see how that is a dating "commandment" by any stretch of the imagination.

 

What happens when I make more money than you? Have a more prestigious career? Higher education level? So you think men shouldn't date these types of women, or do you think even if all those were true the man should still drive the bus?

 

edit: "be the man" is a subject phrase at best, but I'll go ahead and call it hilarious. If I am an accountant and you are an artist, are you not the man if I handle the household finances?

[Nightsky]

I'm sure there are many women who would like that dynamic and that's great. I don't see how that is a dating "commandment" by any stretch of the imagination.

 

What happens when I make more money than you? Have a more prestigious career? Higher education level? So you think men shouldn't date these types of women, or do you think even if all those were true the man should still drive the bus?

 

That's great if you make more money than me or do better than me. I still want to be the man and be the dominant one in the relationship. Also I want to have kids and I think that the mother should be the one to stay home with the children.

[HitMeNow]

Good advice. I especially liked the part where you have to find someone cute AND sexy.

[Nightsky]

Good advice. I especially liked the part where you have to find someone cute AND sexy.

 

beauty is in the eye of the beholder. But if the person in their own opinion is settling than they won't have that energy to make a romantic relationship work.

[AMusing]

Just own and realize guys like me don't want to be with girls like you.

 

Ladies, I think we will all just have to accept this horrible loss, and move on to men a bit less perfect than Nightsky. I think quietlyspokenmale (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/365899-why-do-all-women-ignore-nice-quiet-guys) is still looking for a lucky lady. These two could be brothers!

[DC4]

That's great if you make more money than me or do better than me. I still want to be the man and be the dominant one in the relationship. Also I want to have kids and I think that the mother should be the one to stay home with the children.

 

I am going to grit my teeth and say to each his own. What you are saying is beyond conservative though. I have never dated a man who thinks that way obviously, and actually nor can I think of one.

 

Call this "Nightsky's Guide to Conservative Dating and Relationships" and I'd be 100% on board.

[Charlie Harper]

Advice for women: don't date a control freak because he will have issues as shown above

 

Touché lol!!!

 

Yep some points are valid, but I guess 3 things apply that are very important to date:

 

1) Date a person as intelligent as you or a bit more.

2) Date a funny person, you can connect and laugh and work things out

3) date a doer not a complainer.

 

Also very important if you don't have it, dont ask for it (e.g. if you are fit, ask for a fit person, if you care about hygiene be clean, etc) if you ask for a princess and you are shrek most probably you are a really an entitled douche... happens exactly the same th eother way around..

[DC4]

Ladies, I think we will all just have to accept this horrible loss, and move on to men a bit less perfect than Nightsky. I think quietlyspokenmale (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/365899-why-do-all-women-ignore-nice-quiet-guys) is still looking for a lucky lady. These two could be brothers!

 

Yeah, I saw that. I mean clearly many, many women would not be interested in this individual which is fine, he is not interested in them. What is amusing is he seems to think we are missing out on all the high end guys with our crappy views on a "man being the man"

[KungFuJoe]

Nightsky is 100% entitled to his own opinion...no matter how horribly wrong, misguided, close minded and ridiculous it may be.

[Nightsky]

Ladies, I think we will all just have to accept this horrible loss, and move on to men a bit less perfect than Nightsky. I think quietlyspokenmale (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/transitioning/search/365899-why-do-all-women-ignore-nice-quiet-guys) is still looking for a lucky lady. These two could be brothers!

 

I find it cruel how you laugh at that guy. That kind of guy you link too is the type of guy who would be willing to date a girl like you. One of the reasons he has done so bad with women is he is a timid man who doesn't chase the right kind of girl.

 

I am going to grit my teeth and say to each his own. What you are saying is beyond conservative though. I have never dated a man who thinks that way obviously, and actually nor can I think of one.

 

Call this "Nightsky's Guide to Conservative Dating and Relationships" and I'd be 100% on board.

 

It has nothing to do with being conservative. I have no idea why you need to grit your teeth.

[KungFuJoe]

It has nothing to do with being conservative. I have no idea why you need to grit your teeth.

 

Your views are VERY outdated. Look...I think you're nuts and you think I'm nuts. That's fine.

 

But how well is YOUR method working for you? Seriously. How's life?

[Nightsky]

Your views are VERY outdated. Look...I think you're nuts and you think I'm nuts. That's fine.

 

But how well is YOUR method working for you? Seriously. How's life?

 

My life is going great. My views are very relevant to today.

[Treasa]

Ok, I have to admit that I only read the first post, but if anyone wants to come over to my house and watch porn with me, I have loads, and you're welcome to stop by.

[KungFuJoe]

My life is going great. My views are very relevant to today.

 

You openly say you think the woman should stay home and just be with kids...and you think that is relevant to today?

 

If anything, it's even MORE irrelevant because more and more couples are having to both work jobs just to pay for everyday expenses.

[Nightsky]

You openly say you think the woman should stay home and just be with kids...and you think that is relevant to today?

 

If anything, it's even MORE irrelevant because more and more couples are having to both work jobs just to pay for everyday expenses.

 

Well then I'd suggest if you're a man you try to earn enough so your wife doesn't have to work and can take care of the children. That or have a grandmother do it. I think it's good for children and the mother to be together.

 

Obviously if you can't afford it you can't afford it.

[KungFuJoe]

Well then I'd suggest if you're a man you try to earn enough so your wife doesn't have to work and can take care of the children. That or have a grandmother do it. I think it's good for children and the mother to be together.

 

Obviously if you can't afford it you can't afford it.

 

You can't be serious. How old are you? Do you live at home with your parents?

 

You think people just have grandmothers on tap waiting to take care of their grandchildren?

[bodhesatva]

I will off the top of my head make 10 rules to go by when dating if you are a man. These rules will be in no particular order.

 

10.) Don't date feminists. This means don't date a woman who truelly buys into complete equality between men and women. As in a woman who thinks their is no difference between boys and girls other than social constructs made up by the patriarchy. Also be inclined toward women who support the patriarchy. I'm not saying don't date a woman who believes in the right to vote or a right to respect... I'm saying stay away from feminists.

 

9.) Don't date a nag. It may seem cute in the begining but it will get old quick. Do not date a woman who is going to try to change you in any way. I'm not talking about a girl who says don't fart near me or something like that. More the woman who just talks ****ty about the way you eat or your friends or things like that. Seems obvious but watch out for this.

 

8.) Don't date a girl who enjoys porn. Seems fun right a girl who looks at porn. Wrong stay away from this kind of girl. Probably a feminist but its got its own category.

 

7.) Don't date a woman who wants her men to shave. This is kind of the nag... but specifically you want to be able to be hairy on your back, face, where ever you want. Oh and if you want to wax and shave WHY?

 

6.) This seems obvious but date a girl who wants to please her man. This includes sex! This means she wants to give it to you regularly as a priority. Understands men need it regularly and not to with hold it.

 

5.) Date a girl you find sexy. Seems obvious but some people need to hear this.

 

4.) Date a girl you find cute. I'll add this separate from sexy. Sexy meaning you want to have sex with her. Cute meaning you find the way she acts and is to be charming. As a man you know you can find a total bitch sexy and want to spank her and fck her and all that. It doesn't mean you find her cute... as in charming. If you date her you need to find her cute as well as sexy.

 

3.) Really all this stuff is so obvious I feel like doctor Phil here... I guess this won't stop people from arguing with me like they do with him though but... HUMOR... This doesn't mean she has to be funny but that can be good too. But you want to share a sense of humor. Find the same things funny. Most importantly she needs to find you funny! Or atleast act that way lol. Obviously man humor won't always be funny to women but when you want to make her laugh or when you want to share a laugh you need to be able too.

 

2)Trust. This has to be some one you feel you can build trust with. You know hold your secrets... not cheat on you at a minimum type of thing.

 

1) In shape. She should be in some kind of shape. I mean I don't need to date an athlete... but I'm not going to date some fat chick. I put this separate from sexy for reasons that should be obvious. I think a fat chick can be pretty... but I want some one who respects their body to at least the minimal degree of not being fat. Also for the most part I wouldn't be attracted to some one who is fat.

 

I'm a heterosexual male, so dating each other isn't really a concern. I can say, however, that I am repulsed by your mindset and that it's extremely unlikely we'd be friends.

 

You seem to be completely unconcerned with your significant other's intelligence and only tangentially concerned with her kindness and compassion (i.e. she shouldn't be an annoying "nag.") In fact, your rules could be rather summarily boiled down to "date a girl who is sexy and will have sex with you a lot, who believes in patriarchy and male dominion, and who doesn't annoy you."

 

I could argue these points philosophically and rather vociferously, but I fear that is both outside the scope of this thread and also outside your cerebral purview. I'll just restate that we seem to be very different types of people and add that I find your worldview repugnant.

[johan]

I wouldn't take it all so seriously. I do believe, however, that porn erodes the soul.

[Treasa]

I wouldn't take it all so seriously. I do believe, however, that porn erodes the soul.

 

But it's such a fun way of eroding the soul...

[Treasa]

Also, let me add that I am not some airheaded woman who doesn't understand what she deserves out of life. I am a biology major with a full tuition scholarship and a 3.68 GPA. I'm not a simple girl by any means. Don't get me wrong I love to be relaxed and have fun. But I also have a lot on my mind, passionate political and religious views, plenty of hobbies and interests to talk about, and I like to think I provide intelligent and captivating conversations with my friends and S/Os.

I just like being a woman.

 

I was going to tell you that you should date a woman, jokingly, but then I'm sure I would have been called a misandrist by people with no sense of humor.

[Nightsky]

Also, let me add that I am not some airheaded woman who doesn't understand what she deserves out of life. I am a biology major with a full tuition scholarship and a 3.68 GPA. I'm not a simple girl by any means. Don't get me wrong I love to be relaxed and have fun. But I also have a lot on my mind, passionate political and religious views, plenty of hobbies and interests to talk about, and I like to think I provide intelligent and captivating conversations with my friends and S/Os.

I just like being a woman.

 

You already sounded smart too me. I like the name LittleMiss that's cute. Sorry about the lonely part haha.

[Nightsky]

You can't be serious. How old are you? Do you live at home with your parents?

 

You think people just have grandmothers on tap waiting to take care of their grandchildren?

 

I think you believe I'm serious, so why be cute and ask me? Also whether I'm older or younger than you I certainly feel more mature. Look how quickly you fly into a fit haha. No I don't live with my parents do you live with my parents? hahaha

 

haha I didn't say people have grandmothers on tap. You asked me a question and got your panties in a twist about my answer.

 

I'm a heterosexual male, so dating each other isn't really a concern. I can say, however, that I am repulsed by your mindset and that it's extremely unlikely we'd be friends.

 

You seem to be completely unconcerned with your significant other's intelligence and only tangentially concerned with her kindness and compassion (i.e. she shouldn't be an annoying "nag.") In fact, your rules could be rather summarily boiled down to "date a girl who is sexy and will have sex with you a lot, who believes in patriarchy and male dominion, and who doesn't annoy you."

 

I could argue these points philosophically and rather vociferously, but I fear that is both outside the scope of this thread and also outside your cerebral purview. I'll just restate that we seem to be very different types of people and add that I find your worldview repugnant.

 

Interesting that you feel the need to point out that dating me isn't a concern of yours. My advice is for you if you're single and looking. Shouldn't your angle just be that you disagree with my dating advice. Just odd that you feel the need to bring up the fact that you're straight. Makes you sound like the exact leftist person I'm trying to avoid.

 

If you want to put forth a better 10 rules or argue it from your perspective feel free to. Understand that from my perspective I'm far more intelligent than some guy who feels the need to tell me he's heterosexual and than insult my cerebral purview. Not so surprisingly I find your worldview the same as you see mine.

[Nightsky]

Ha!! I have been told that by a lesbian coworker because of my bad luck with men.

 

Not so surprisingly right I mean it is a lesbian type thing to say