Coping Vortex Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Ok after 7 weeks (3 days NC) I find myself wondering "What is she doing right now?" Wen we were together I always knew what she was doing via text or calls. I seem to be doing that all day now. This is driving me crazy. Is anyone else doing this too?
tinkerbash Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 who did the breaking up? yeah im only on day two and im constantly thinking the same thing ill be lucky if i get to your point ..
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 She broke up with me after several years. Out of the blue. If she warned me we could have worked through the issues. It was an easy fix. How far along are you Tinkerbash?
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 @Tinkerbash after two days you still have a great shot at getting back together In my case she is already with another guy. And I know her she will already be in love with him. Its a rebound relationship and I know she is talking all of the intense from our relationshops and force onto the new guy. This sucks. 7 weeks ago we were fine. She even said so back then. This sucks. If you get to this point it doesn't get any better just different. Their face and smell starts to fade but the hurt remains. The conversations the sound of her voice and of course the incredible sexual encounters are the hardest to bear.
tinkerbash Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 yeah we broke up two days ago... im still in the cant stop crying cant sleep cant eat phase... nothing seems like its going to get better at the moment.. u tried playing like xboox or something. its really good i play games on my ipad to try and distract my mine for like 5 minutes
crashvector Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Ok after 7 weeks (3 days NC) I find myself wondering "What is she doing right now?" Wen we were together I always knew what she was doing via text or calls. I seem to be doing that all day now. This is driving me crazy. Is anyone else doing this too? yes. and its not fun. My ex fiance is an absolutely gorgeous woman. STUNNING. Every single one of my friends, male or female, after meeting her, told me "Good LORD she's gorgeous." She will have NO problem finding someone to take my place. NONE. In fact, I'm pretty sure a sh*tload of guys have already tried. If she hasn't, its only because she's dealing with her son's medical issues right now. I'm just trying with every ounce of willpower not to think about it.
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 @Tinkerbash LOL 7 weeks of TV LOL! You will get past the crying phase and you will get into a numb phase and there will just be sadness. We all have a long way to go. What caused your break up? Did he break up with you or the other way around?
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 Crash you have been productive 437 posts. I have been following a lot of them and you know my story. I find myself on LS more and more each day. I am going to start posting more and more. I need the therapy. Good to see you put a face to the name.
tinkerbash Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 his ex said he couldnt see his daughter if he kept seeing me - even though she lives with another guy and is now pregnant- so he wanted to be friends and i couldnt because i love him too much for that. Yeah im not really looking forward to whats still to come at all i just wish i could sleep.... its hard getting through the day with no energy. our breakup was final i think he had to choose his baby. it didnt end on bad terms though and he did say he loved me but it hurts that he didnt stand up and fight for me... i surely deserved o be fought for... i hope in my heart he see's sense and comes back to me
crashvector Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Crash you have been productive 437 posts. I have been following a lot of them and you know my story. I find myself on LS more and more each day. I am going to start posting more and more. I need the therapy. Good to see you put a face to the name. I know...I have a LOT to get out...so I post a LOT. lol and yep..the pic is me...scrubs and 'scope and all. lol
na49 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Eventually you'll find that you've cried so much, you can't get yourself to cry about it anymore. Not because you're not sad, you've just cried the last tears over it. This will be a good sign. As for if I'm going through the same thing? Well, I guess a little. I learned last night that she is pretty much done with me. That she's pretty much been done with me and is going to live life, laugh with friends, and have a great time in college without me. She'll be doing it with the friends who she demonized me to, the same friends who told her to dump me. She picked them instead of me and it hurts like hell. Whatever she's doing, she isn't thinking about me. Because she isn't, I try not to think about it. We really do have control over our thoughts, so try your best not to think about what she's doing or you'll drive yourself crazy. Instead of asking yourself "what is she doing right now?" ask yourself "What am I doing right now? What am I doing tomorrow? How will I try to become better from all of this?"
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 @Tinkerbash IM me when you hit 50 posts (thats the rule before you can IM). Lets keep in touch we can lean on each other for support. Look forward to having someone who gets what we are going through.
tinkerbash Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 yeah i definately will thanks for the support !!! im gunna try n catch some zzzzz's but i will catch up with you tomorrow for sure!!!
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 I also have this roller coaster feeling constantly. It sucks. She keeps creeping into my head and I get that faling feeling.
stevie_23 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Yeah, I know how this is. It’s quite a process (and only time and a bit of soul searching if you’re that way inclined) to extricate yourself from expecting automatically to know what they’re doing when and how they feel about it. To know everything. All the mundane intimate details. It has been just over a month since my ex cut off contact with me. We have had a couple of brief emails since then, but it’s been over 2 weeks since I heard from him. I still check to see what he’s doing on this forum he goes on everyday. I know this is damaging because he sounds perfectly fine and happy there, but I know it’s not 100% accurate. He never reveals his feelings to anyone (apart from me…back then) and always appears jovial and happy on that forum. But it’s still hard to see he is fine, and I’m an emotional wreck. I do remember back when my first partner broke up with me, at first it was SO hard not to know what she was doing all the time, but soon enough it was actually a relief not to know. [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT]
crashvector Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 BTW...Laphroaig is a good way to forget for a little while lol
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 7, 2013 Author Posted January 7, 2013 yeah i definately will thanks for the support !!! im gunna try n catch some zzzzz's but i will catch up with you tomorrow for sure!!! Sounds good!!! Night. Still early here in the states.
tinkerbash Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Hey hope you got through the night okay. I've had the hardest day today day 3 is much harder ... Thought it was supposed to get easier !!!
cavalier99 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 After 3 to 4 weeks of NC the complete insanity and madness starts to go away and time and your body starts to returns to normal. You are in withdrawal now just like an addict. You need to get thru it day by day..second by second, Then you enter a new stage of recovery. Still hard but in a different way. 1
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 Hey hope you got through the night okay. I've had the hardest day today day 3 is much harder ... Thought it was supposed to get easier !!! Hey Tinkerbash - Yes Xanax (anxiety meds) helped a lot but today I am a mess. I have gone back to how I felt 4 weeks ago. Sorry Tinker it does get better but you will have fall backs. I am so sad today I can't tell you. I see how people can crazy from a BU. I have a friend that tried to kill herself when her husband left her. I could never understand how she could get that bad but I can see how that is possible with the grief of a break up. I could never get that bad but i see where others can get there. I feel horrible today. I'm shaking and pacing not eating much. I made a new thread a few minutes ago on how I'm feeling. Check it out and let me know if you are feeling the same.
NoMoreJerks Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 I do still wonder what my ex is doing at different times of the day, but in my case, I guess it's easier -- I keep telling myself not to wonder about that , because it's useless. Because he traveled a lot, he usually had to send me his travel schedule so that I would know whether he was at home or abroad. Right now, I don't know where he is, and so don't even know what time zone he's in, or what he might be doing... in a way it's good, but it's also very depressing because I feel completely powerless... more than I would've been if he were in my country or if I knew that he had a more or less fixed schedule/daily routine.... Ah well -- on the bright side, it doesn't matter... and most of the time it's easy for me to tell myself it no longer matters. He is no longer part of my life...
Author Coping Vortex Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 My new thread is "Need Some Encouragement..."
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