Harradin Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Been nearly 3 months NC, but its her birthday in a couple of days. I'm not gonna break NC, but its just annoying because I remember dates so well and she's constantly remind me when her birthday was and what she would have wanted. Its a shame that the guy she left me for is just gonna throw money at her (if they're still together) just to keep her happy so he can keep controlling her, it makes me sick to the core as I would have given her something with meaning to show I loved her. Especially as she bought me birthday presents etc for mine.
Gaby Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Sucks man, the very least i think you can do is just send her a happy bday text and thats it. Thats what im gonne do i think, i;ve been NC for one week now ( 8 jan) and its freaking hard aswell. Money cant buy happiness you know, dont giver her anything just the text IF OFCOURSE you are okay with it and dont expect any text in return. good luck!
veggirl Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 Gaby she left him for another guy. He has been NC for 3 months...why the fk should he break that to wish her happy bday?! Just think about the $ you are saving...a girl reminding a guy of her bday and what she wants is tacky as hell!
Author Harradin Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 I'm not breaking NC, if she wants to make contact, she knows where I am. After 3 months NC I doubt she would anymore which sucks as I still think it was her family circumstances that made her leave me for my 'friend.' I found out afterwards that he had gotten one of his friends to message her asking about our relationship and he made moves on her after that, especially as she was upset so I think he must have manipulated her to an extent. But its still no excuse, and she chose not to be with me at the end of the day. Just think about the $ you are saving...a girl reminding a guy of her bday and what she wants is tacky as hell! Am saving money that is true! I found it pretty useful that she kept reminding me as I knew exactly what to buy her when the time came haha Just frustrating that it turned out to be this way!
Renard99 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 What I did, after the break up, was when her birthday came around I went out and bought myself a gift with the money I would have spent on her...... Made me feel a lot better 2
spaniard Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 What I did, after the break up, was when her birthday came around I went out and bought myself a gift with the money I would have spent on her...... Made me feel a lot better :D:D Anyway, my ex's b-day was like two months ago. I was kind of over her by then, so I sent her a "happy birthday", she anwered me "thank you". However, if you are not yet over her, don't send a message. Send ME a message. I love messages. Oh, and it's funny that the stereotype is that men never remember dates. Well, I know the EXACT dates of the birthday of my friends, ex-girlfriends, date of our first meeting etc etc. I'm probably an autist.
veggirl Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 What I did, after the break up, was when her birthday came around I went out and bought myself a gift with the money I would have spent on her...... Made me feel a lot better great idea! do that OP, celebrate your NC
Author Harradin Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 (edited) What I did, after the break up, was when her birthday came around I went out and bought myself a gift with the money I would have spent on her...... Made me feel a lot better Thats a good shout, I think I might do that :D:D Anyway, my ex's b-day was like two months ago. I was kind of over her by then, so I sent her a "happy birthday", she anwered me "thank you". However, if you are not yet over her, don't send a message. Send ME a message. I love messages. Oh, and it's funny that the stereotype is that men never remember dates. Well, I know the EXACT dates of the birthday of my friends, ex-girlfriends, date of our first meeting etc etc. I'm probably an autist. I plan on not sending the message, it'll only make me feel worse if I'm honest! But I'm worse then you, I know birthdays, dates ie anniversaries etc, car regs and postcodes. Its rather bad but I can't help it, they all just stick in my head ><. Edited January 8, 2013 by Harradin
spaniard Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 But I'm worse then you, I know birthdays, dates ie anniversaries etc, car regs, postcodes, addresses etc. Its rather bad but I can't help it, they all just stick in my head ><. Nah, we have the same issue. I even know the numbers of all my cards like ID, driver's licence, national insurance etc etc. However, strangely enough, I can't remember the phone number of my ex gf. Which was sort of a blessing in the first few weeks after BU.
Author Harradin Posted January 8, 2013 Author Posted January 8, 2013 Nah, we have the same issue. I even know the numbers of all my cards like ID, driver's licence, national insurance etc etc. However, strangely enough, I can't remember the phone number of my ex gf. Which was sort of a blessing in the first few weeks after BU. I remember my student ID number, not my national insurance or drivers license or anything (I've not really paid attention to them!) I used to remember numbers really well, but then I started drinking so lost that ability now, which is lucky. I only know the first 5 numbers of my ex's number, I have it stored on a piece of paper somewhere, just because I have a new number now so if she ever texted me I'd know it was her. Plan on buying myself some expensive headphones tomorrow as a gift.
user6667 Posted January 8, 2013 Posted January 8, 2013 It was my exgf's birthday about 6 weeks after break up. I bought her a very cute book about getting through tough times. Because I know she was kinda down after breaking up with me. Not half as much as me, but thats not the point. She said thanks, that pretty much sums of the last 4 years of my life. We were together for 4 years. Thats the best cynical joke I heard her make -ever. However I think thats not what she meant. Joking aside, I didnt get a lot out of it, me myself, emotionally. Except that I didnt have to worry about giving her a gift or not. I had done my duty, so to speak. What you could do, if you want to be a bit of a jerk, is buy something of little or no value, but with a lot of feeling, or a special meaning. The other guy doesnt know her too well yet, and can only spend $. You however could spend a dime, or perhaps nothing at all, and still get her a better gift. It's gonna piss him off a lot.
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