the_cake_is_a_lie Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 I'm new to this site, and I just wanted to see if anyone had advice for me. I recently met this completely awesome girl, and we went on a few dates before New Year's. She is fantastic, and it seems we really have a lot in common- perhaps the biggest thing being that we are both looking to have an honest and "real" relationship with someone. I told her that I try not to play relationship games (mind games, attention games, etc), and she wholeheartedly agreed and said she didn't either (and I believed her). Anyway, things were going great until we went out on New Years Eve. We went to a bar to celebrate, and some guy kept buying her (and me, and all of our friends that went out with us) drinks. I didn't have a problem with it at first, as she made it clear to me that she wasn't interested in him. We were having a great time. Later on, I was talking to some other people and the countdown to midnight began. I went back to her because I thought it would be great to kiss her at midnight, but the drink-buying guy slipped in right beside her and beat me to it! Soon afterwards, she started making out hardcore with him, and I felt devastated... I realize she was drunk, but she wasn't drunk to the point of not knowing what was going on. I paid my tab and hung around for a little longer, thinking maybe things would work out, but eventually I had to get out of there. It hurt too much. That next morning, I text her and let her know why I left- I don't play attention-getting games, and I felt that's what she was doing with me. I let her know how much I liked her, and that I wanted to kiss her so badly. She responded later that what happened was totally not like her, and she apologized if I got upset at anything that happened (note she didn't apologize for her actions, just that I was upset). She also said that she takes relationships really slow, and that she had fun and we'd have to do it again sometime. It's been a week, and I've texted her once or twice but she seems uninterested now. Part of me is pretty angry/hurt, and another (bigger) part just wants it to be water under the bridge, and to go out with her again. After all, it wasn't like we were exclusive or anything. I just that I thought she liked me and I can't tell what's going on with her now. Any thoughts?
sid3 Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Thoughts? Yes, the other guy stole your cheese. Respect yourself, dear god! What the hell are you doing hanging around. You should have been long gone. Or are you hoping for sloppy seconds. 1
Onlyjonley Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 That was very disrespectful of her to do. Lose her number and move on.
cerridwen Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Crappy is right! Your DATE made out with another guy at midnight. Now you're getting the blow off so of course you're hurt! Chalk this up to a story you can tell in the future, the ending of which is you ended it by not calling/texting again.
KungFuJoe Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Wow...that sucks. Yeah...what everyone else said. Drop the girl.
edgygirl Posted January 7, 2013 Posted January 7, 2013 Not cool. She was ultra disrespectful with your feelings. She was your date, after all. Drop her, she's not worth it.
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