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Okay so im new to here, I have been scouring the Internet for help and advice and its only day two and i can feel myself cracking and can invision myself looking at my phone bills to get his number so that i can text. My situation is a bit wierd me and my ex were dating since September but have been on and off since I was 16 years old (now 24). We have always had a really intense connection and we are in love with each other but for some reason or another some kind of drama gets in the way. This time it was his ex- who is now pregnant and living with another guy - she told him to stop seeing me or he wouldn't get to see his daughter (we each have a child the same age) he actually text me upset saying we need to be friends for now, I was the one however who said i love him too much that i can't just be friends it would actually kill me. S o he said he loved me and I said goodbye. However i need him in my life i am so used to talking to him every day that the transtion to not talking at all is so hard! he occupies my mind every minute and i cant stand the pain and heartache i feel right now. Everyone says its for the best as he never actually took me out anywhere and when we saw each other it was always on his terms. I also bent over backwards to give him everything he wanted but it wasnt really recipricated. We had planned a holiday too with the kids and then a few days later he text saying not to tell anyone about the relationship to say we were only friends. Why didnt he stand up for it ? I get he was scared of losing his daughter but surely as his ex has moved on he should have fought for the right also? or did he just not care enough! I am worried that by no contact that will be the end of it ! will i hear from him?? he is very stubborn so i really dont know if i will. and the last time this happened it was years later until we got back in touch! please help me I'm going nuts i really need some advice and encouragement! stop me from breaking ! heeelp

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You should never be okay with being someone's secret. I don't think that you should try to get this guy back. I understand that he has drama with his ex over the kid but he obviously chose to restore his relationship with her (for the sake of their kid or in hopes to get back together) We don't know. He didn't stand up for you and you didn't stand up for yourself.

 

I would continue to keep things as they are.

Don't contact him. I know it is hard a crap but you deserve better than that and so does your child!

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Thanks. They will never get back together- she is having another baby to her new boyfriend now and they are living together- i agree with the whole secret thing though when he said that to me i felt my heart like break.. It wasnt nice at all. Its so hard not to contact him because he has been in my life since we were teens and we know and care for each other so much. Im really struggling right now I have deleted his texts and my facebook is deactivated. I need something to preoccupy myself though- cant go out or go to the gym im a single parent who works full time ! if only it was easier :(

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