dolphinlver17 Posted August 19, 2004 Posted August 19, 2004 Ok Before I was in a very complicated relationship for over a 3 year period off and on. The guy was always pushy wanting sex 24/7 and thats all he ever wanted to do. Now after finally getting out of that relationship for good, there is this other guy and a couple other guys i have my eye on. But the one guy asked me a head of time if i wanted to take things slow or fast and i told him slow. then asked me how far is too far, it's kind of hard to explain what i feel because i'm not the type of person that expresses them easily. After being in a relationship of just about sex pretty much its turned me off a little like god is this all guys want. I dont know how to explain it to him exactly and what exactly are the bases, i dont mind doing anything else i just dont want anything sexual like right away i want to take it slow and then lean back into it if he's right. I dont want to make the same stupid mistakes i did with my last relationship. Somebody help me out, i'm so confused on everything.
EIN Posted August 19, 2004 Posted August 19, 2004 Trust me, most guys are not in it for sex. You should have not let yourself fooled for 3 years when all he did was hump your legs. You say you dont want to be fooled again, look in the mirror. You control what you do. Tell them no, its not like that if they make advances. Go out more on social outing with him to get a really good sense about him (what he does, friends, family). How he conducts himself will give you a good insight about him. If he ignores you because of an outing (Personally, I do not know a guy who would turn down an outing), drop him. He is not being considerate enough of your feelings for this relationship to develop. About me : I don't know if I ****ed up with this girl but if it did, oh well. If she comes back, I am not going to let her go.
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